this has been an interesting week--and one that im not finished processing--with relation to news and events here in the senior chat world. ive heard the same short phrases from many over the past few days. and I've heard another person say, "this is how it always happens every time." specifically im processing one of my very good friends having banned from this chat room. I haven't been able to define fully how I feel about it. am I devastated? no, of course not. do I think it was right? absolutely not. such events challenge your definition of friendships and your loyalties. ultimately I feel worried for her on a personal level, because I knew how important this involvement and interaction was for her. I feel bad that she feels bad.
one of the things I have heard from a few people with regard to a perceived injustice, is that ''well there isn't anything we can do about it.'' upon review of such statements, I would really consider whether the person cared about the issue at all, as well as their priorities, because obviously this is not true. there are lots of things that we as chatting associates could do, if we really cared. but, ultimately, the real truth is, that we are here for a break in the day, not to throw ourselves out on a limb for some poor lady who was kicked out of our little club without so much as a reason why. so, why would we as lovers of security do such a thing? its ok to say you really don't care that much, just be honest about it.
the other really interesting thing I heard today that ive been considering is that one of the chatters said ''this is how it always happens every time.--'' referring to every time someone is banned, and all of the mumblings and hurt feelings following. that's interesting and very true. while the others banned were not as close to me, others were in fact feeling close to them and possibly feeling just like I am right now. so why are we doing this over and over? Einstein's definition of insanity is to be doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. I appreciated this comment, because it woke me up a bit and made me consider if that's exactly what I was doing...participating in chat routinely hoping for a better outcome from what I had been getting. ive determined that should I continue to chat in the future, I will attempt to do so with less ''insanity.'' being the kind of person who is naturally prone to interaction, and positive rapport, it is within my current mindset to remember this statement, and begin to put forward the similar level of energy into my chats as others do with me. (I need to do this in many other areas of my life as well, but that's a whole new blog!) The truth is that to effectively function here, you really do need to have a kind of a mindless, careless approach to the whole process, and this is something completely foreign to me.