Why be honest? Are people honest by default which means they tell the truth unless they have a reason to lie. A saying I learned when I was very young, ” a lie is an abomination to the Lord and an ever ready aid in an emergency”. A lie is an abomination means that it will destroy what is good yet people will lie if they feel there is an escape needed. This really sums up a whole lot about the reason to be honest or not to be honest. We have to be wise enough to see the destruction that dishonesty will cause and many are just not that wise. To be wise and very intelligent may be very different. I prefer to be wise since I have no control over my intelligence.
Really, it may take a smarter or special brain to tell convincing whopping lies. I don’t have the knack for that. I told a lie many years ago and realized that I could not remember which was the truth a short time later. My brain strains to create fiction. Some people lie when a Truth would serve them better and that definitely is not smart.
People do sometimes lie to be kind like when people ask if you think their husband is cheating, or do you think they will get a promotion, or if your plaid suit makes you look professional? If you can tell they have been working out, and you just want to say, “Hell yes, but you say “Gosh no”. You want to be kind, but is it kind to give a dishonest opinion. I think we need to stick closer to the truth. You can say, I hope you get the promotion, or some other honest opinion and/ or we will celebrate when you do. The other questions are similar and a version of the truth is better than a blatant lie. Remember, lying becomes a habit and can destroy your credibility and your reputation. If you want to be kind or do you just want to flatter and to be liked, if so kindness is not really what is working here.
People lie to impress or escape a bad opinion, but I don’t think it works, though they evidently believe that it does. Do deceivers see the people who walk away from them and never return? Do deceivers know the hurt and confusion they cause to the loved ones who rely on them for the truth or are deceivers so self-centered that they live their life and never realized the damage they have done to others and are incapable of understanding the damage they do to themselves? Like in “Don Quixote, just lay down the melancholy burden of sanity”. Maybe reality becomes too much to bear and people decide to just let go of as much as possible and spin tales and weave webs of deceit and intrigue. Don Quixote was poetry that seeks truth, but I think real deceivers have lost touch with truth and justice.
In the long term, lies and deceptions are like playing with fire and dynamite at the same time; the explosion may be exciting and change things, but total destruction can be result.