What Is Intimacy
This blog was inspired by a posting of this question on facebook by a lovely young educated woman with a close and loving family who who is about twenty six and may be on her way to being” the old maid school teacher”.
I I have known this young woman since birth and she has “intimacy with a lot of extended family”. It may be sad if she doesn’t know what her special bonding and sharing is called. I am not privy to her love life, or even if she has one, so she may be talking about sexual intimacy. I just had to respond and I told her to find out real quick by talking, and all other means, literature, poetry, music etc..
I am still troubled by her question and wonder how many people are lacking the knowledge of how to establish INTIMACY. I would like to hear from others on this subject, but the one thing I think I know is that INTIMACY requires a deep level of honesty, trust and sharing and I think it is sad that more people and couples don’t really know this and are still dissatisfied and lonely. I would like to hear other questions and comments.
There are lots of types of intimacy. To me the most important is being so close with people. Telling them your inner thoughts and feelings and vice versa. Even a stranger who talks to you in the street.
I did not grow up knowing intimacy. Although we all loved each other we were never shown how to express it with hugs and kisses. I was to scared to tell anybody my true feelings. Being the youngest of six I was used to being laughed at.
It was when I got older and looked after peoples children I found them easy to hug, kiss and laugh with.
Now my friends all say i’m tactile because I can’t stop hugging etc and always tell them the truth.
Blinker. Thanks for reading and sharing. You may not be as different as you may think.
Intimacy for me can only exist where there is complete honesty and trust…………this is not something that can be built overnight…………..I believe you can form a bond with people, and irrelevant of how often you see them the bond is always there…………you both know that you would be there for each other when needed……….different levels of intimacy exist between your friends and family……….I share things with close friends and they with me……….but I would not share these same thoughts and feelings with my son and daughter ………….but hugs and kisses a plenty for everyone…………..I would not hesitate if I saw anyone in distress to go put my arm around them and offer comfort……….a form of intimacy even though it be a stranger……….
Starlette, I so agree and am so impressed that you extend you caring, sharing,intimacy to a wider circle than many. That is good.
Intimacy …I was lucky enough to have experienced that …and unless we have experienced it …I think it would be hard to describe or even imagine it !
Intimacy in a relationship is the feeling of total abandonment ,it’s the letting all guards down and become one, it doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual but if sex is included ,it’s total bliss …it’s trust …it’s a sense of belonging , it’s pure joy …it’s a total connection of body and soul …