Was I sexist?
I got called a “sexist old pig” today. I think that was unreasonable given the circumstances, but I’d like opinions.
To set the situation, my car is a Citroen C3. It’s served me well for some years, but it has certain drawbacks, one of which is the high entry point to the boot space. I’m 5 Ft 8″ and the lip of the entry comes to beyond my waist level.
I was walking back to my car when I saw a young woman who had the same type of vehicle trying to lug a 25 kilo bag of potatoes, for which two hands would be required, into the boot while also trying to keep control of a little boy about 3 years old. So, as there was a lot of traffic about and the child seemed to be intent on running off somewhere, I asked if she needed any assistance intending to either lift the bag into the boot while she held the child, or to hang onto the child while she did the the lifting.
This was the point where she snarled “Sexist old pig! You think just because I’m female and blonde I can’t lift this bloody bag on my own?”
In all honesty, I was completely taken aback, because had she been male, built like a rugby full back and a redhead to boot, in that situation I’d have asked the same thing.
At that point I just walked off, because I felt that indulging in any further conversation would be less than productive.
So…Sexist? Was I?
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Sorry Way but I think it is so funny.
I think this woman needs some lessons on being grateful. Hopefully she pulled a muscle in her back and thinks of the “sexist old pig” everytime she moves
No you are not a “sexist old pig”. I once saw a woman riding a motorcycle in front of me we had to stop at a red light. She was wearing high heals and she lost her balance and the motorcycle fell over with her. A man jumped out of a truck to help her and she began beating on him with her fists. lol I feel bad for you nice guys because your kind of damned if you do and damned if you don’t. I have always found you to be a very polite gentleman.
Of course you weren’t sexist way. You responded to her rudeness like a perfect gentleman. I know damn well I’d NOT have been so courteous if I’d been in your shoes ! ?
Nope! Not at all! Definitely not! She’s dealing with her own anger issues! I’d have gladly welcomed that offer of assistance! You were the gentleman! Let it go! 🙂 And……..the bag of potatoes fell onto the ground and rolled over the place…and the “sexist old pig” was looking over yonder, grinning and in stiches from laughter!!! karma! hmmm……like that ending! LOL!
We are perceived differently by different people at different times. Perhaps your offering to help her gave her an opportunity to give vent to her frustration with all males. If so, you *did* help her, after all, though neither of you may have realized it at the time :o)
You were just being a good citizen. You didn’t deserve that response.
Late reply but, no you were not sexist, she had the problem not you. So many angry young people out there. Life is hard for them and they lash out. Take no notice, and good on you for walking away.
Waylander, Were you “an old sexist pig”, and my answer is you were a very nice human. The woman sounds angry and taking it out on you. My color washed out and my hair looks grayer, and I was hoping that I might get more offers for help. My sister did when she went gray. Keep being a decent human, and if that is style, we should stick with it, anyway.
Wow!! what a response never expected that……I would say this was a very rare reaction from someone who obviously could have done with a hand….all this political correctness bullshit has been taken far too far……should have split the bag of spuds and let them roll over the carpark….she would have welcomed your offer of help then…..no you were definitely not sexist but the perfect gent offering a hand to what you thought was a damasl in distress, but turned out to be a ungrateful rude bitch……good role model for the child she had with her……notttt
Definitely Not!! What an ignorant woman! You keep on being the thoughtful helpful person you are. This world could do with more like you and definitely less of that type of person – female or male!
NO, you were being a normal, kind human who happens to be male, she’s obviously got an over-compensation problem going on. Poor thing, she’s been warped into thinking she’s as strong as a man. Pathetic thinking really. Self-delusion, lol! The day I see nearly all women picking up 400-ish pound Volkswagen engines, and the like, then I will shut up on this subject. I know most young (25-45 or so) men can do it if they have to.
I think you did the right thing, and had she done the right thing and had that child on a rein, none of that would have happened. I certainly don’t think it’s funny….