May 3, 2017. While I've been in limbo since September 1, 2016, I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. May 3 the divorce will be final. What should have been a simple case has turned into a ridiculous 3-ring circus thanks to the attorneys. Yes, and has gotten ugly and mega stressful even though we started out amicably.
The lawyers are scrambling now as there are deadlines to be met. Mine was even sending me correspondence over last weekend. Information that should have been excavated months ago is being sought after now. I did as much leg work as I could from the beginning. That's how I roll. I'm a "get 'er done" type of gal. I've met with my attorney armed with lists, questions and ideas to expedite matters.....oh that's a huge joke. They travel at their own speed lining their pockets along the way. As you can tell I have a very bad taste in my mouth for them. I pray I never require the assistance of another again.
I suppose I've been in the next chapter all this time but it feels I've been in limbo. In recent years I've tried to adopt the concept of "enjoying the journey." This stretch as been a tough one. When I'm not reeling from a punch I am focusing on a place I can call home.
I am blessed as I at first landed with a dear friend. She welcomed me with open arms and we split the cost of rent and utilities which was a win, win for both of us. Then another friend offered me a house sitting gig for the past two months. This was another blessing as I was chomping at the bit for my own space. It's been a great run and coming to an end this week. I will bop around between a couple friends until the divorce is final and I can get my own place. It looks like that will be in June when a new apartment complex will be available.
I salivate at the thought of setting up housekeeping for probably the last time. I've done it....let's see too many times to count I guess. From scratch? I think this will be number five. I have been watching too many Youtube videos on simplistic living, minimalism, organizing, and cleaning. Being a Virgo organizing and cleaning come naturally but always on the lookout for a new and better mousetrap. I have realized these last months that I need very little when it comes to possessions. I have travelled lightly bouncing around to and fro. And I haven't missed anything.....now trying to find things is a different matter. I've had things in my car, still at the house, at my friends, at this place where I've been house sitting. That has been very frustrating!
I took a break from this writing to drive home from another friend's house several hours away and stop by my lawyer's office. It's possible that the divorce will be final sooner if everyone has their act together by a date yet to be determined which they call...darn, can't remember. But the "exhibits" will be presented to the judge. If we dot all the i's and cross all the t's and the judge is in a good mood....
As I close I guess I've been turning pages in this next chapter. Very slow reading it's been. But the pages have been turning. Or have I been wrapping up the last chapter? Who knows? I guess the good news is the pages are turning.
The semi-colon (;) is a symbol for suicide awareness and survival. It means, my story isn't over yet. It has deep meaning for me. Unfortunately my brother didn't make it. But I have. MY story isn't over yet. ;