I am seeking for sharing experiences and opinions about the feelings and thoughts that emanate from divorcing after several years of marriage.
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Relief and joy,as I recall….lol.
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Thank you Cappuccino for that experience sharing, xxx
A new beginning, for me, scary but rewarding.
Thank you for the reply, rich with vital information, xxx
Painful, scary, lonely, sad and bewildered. Slowly the realisation came that I could cope with single parenthood and I could live a life again, then the fact that I was pleased he had gone, suddenly knew I my life would be poorer financially for many long years BUT oh how much more at peace my soul was 🙂
yes, Roseanne, thank you for thereply, I am indebted to the content, xxx
An answer to the queation does the end means finished or does finished means the end can be found individually. Michael
True von, thank you
Yes it was 27yrs of marriage before my husband declared he wanted to find himself. It was a bit scary and although my children were grown up, 18 and 24 they were shocked, as was I. However I did realise that I could cope and just got on with it. I was amazed when he asked to have coffee etc and did let him know he had done me a favour in leaving.
I was sad when 3yrs later he had a brain hem. and died. after all he was the father of my children and I had known him for over 30yrs. that was over 15yrs ago and life goes on.
I was pissed off though that the girlfriend go the super, despite many appeals. to com-super. Oh well. S— happenns.
I am glad you were courteous to share your value loaded experience , I love your positivity about the strong bond of children you shared that gave no room for the post divorce feelings you held of him ,”I was sad when 3yrs later he had a brain hem. and died. after all he was the father of my children and I had known him for over 30yrs”.xxx
After 34 years of marriage, when all was said and done..I felt relief, I felt free but most of all I wasn’t afraid any more.
I really think there are so many factors here, so you will receive many different posts. I was blessed to love and marry a dear sweet man for three years before I lost him. That I will grieve forever..not the loss of a bad marriage.
For me, I equate the loss of a marriage/relationship with that of a death – I grieved it. The grieving process is a long journey – filled with various emotions and feelings are different times, and just when you think you may have finished a phase, it comes back again. Happy, glad, mad, sad, pissed off – they are all part of it. The key is to live through it, facing it, acknowledging it, accepting it. When you do you can live, move forward, rejoice and enjoy life again. This two I found came in segments, and then some steps backwards. Eventually, it became less backward steps to all forward ones. It can be a good path if you allow yourself to feel and learn from it, even though it will be a road filled with bumps.
Grrrrrrrrrrr8 😀
The hardest thing was making the decision to get a divorce, and going down that awful road to hell until it happens. We can end up scarred for life, but scars are better than the pain.