The Hardest Thing To Do
The hardest thing to do is to walk away.
Sometimes you need to. Have to on an emotional level. That’s easier.
The hard walk away is when someone needs you. When they count on you. When they expect you to stay if they need you.
There are times when we have all had to walk away. I know the feeling. It hurts!
Sometimes it’s because it’s best for another party. You leave for them. Sometimes it’s because you have no choice. You can’t stay. There are greater calls upon you. You must walk away and hope that it’ll be OK in the end.
If you are lucky the one you left understands and, yes, it’s all OK in the end.
If you’re not lucky then you have lost someone you will never forget. They may forgive you, but you never really get round to forgiving yourself.
But then, all life is a lottery. You pays your money and you makes your choice.
In the end, good or bad, you must live with the decisions you have made. I know I have had too.
For those of you facing hard decisions I would give this advice, and it’s not from me, but from a writer I respect:-
“Do what you feel you must and then look in the mirror. If you can still say you are proud, that you respect and like what you see, then you made the right decision. If you can’t then it is time to make some serious changes”
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This really helps me. Thank you for posting. I have been dealing with so much letting go and also some walking away in the past couple of years. I feel peace about most of my decisions, tough choices that HAD to be made. I have been re-evaluating a couple of relationships in my life too.
Your last quote is an excellent guideline to go by.
Oh way,this has realy touched me,…..i have had to walk away on a number of occasions,and it broke my heart,…..a few yrs down the line,i know i did the right thing,thank you for posting,good blog.
Very good blog, it is good to make a decision ‘with the end in mind’. What is your ultimate goal for making the decision? If the benefits outweigh the challenges go ahead and a make the decision. That is my opinion.
Way, brilliant post.
I see this post as not only in respect of relationships, but with all decisions in life.
One instance In the distant past, I walked away. It was probably the biggest long term mistake I had made. How was I to know then, that years, decades later I would still be weeping.
Then there was that time I was offered the cream of the crop job. No normal person would turn that down. Some would give their eye teeth for. And some have given their lives for, literally. I turned it down. How was I to know then, if I had taken that job, it would have set me up for life.
Then after years of wanting to walk away, I did. I had to for my mental health. If I had known what was to happen in the following years, I definately would have done things differently.
My reget was never looking further than the present situation. Not looking at the consequences of my decisions.
Thanks Way for opening my awareness. xx
Good Post Way, and it is hard to walk away… just needs to be done sometimes.
I wrote this months ago but it sort of fits as comment to your reflection.
Sometimes it is just best when
A relationship’s gone sour;
With no hope of restoration,
To pour the bilious humor of it
Into the inferno of a burning bridge
Then, painful as it may be
Resolutely walk away,
Just as I did the other day.
Excellent comment Oldbull as a comment on how all have taken my post. Thank you
Good post. I have walked away from relationships and understand what you are saying. May have lost the relationship but not the learning associated with it. One learning is that no one needs to die in a breakup, Nothing is gained by being ugly. Accept that it was not meant to be and that something better will take it’s place. Thanks for post.
very deep thought filled post. Relates to so many aspects of life, Thanks for this.
One of the most thought-provoking blogs I’ve see. We are given the choice to walk away from every situation that faces us in life. Sometimes we stay when we should have run. Other times we left when staying would have been the ideal choice. Using the face in the mirror is the best gauge for deciding on which choice to make. We cannot hide from ourselves. We must live with the consequences of our choices.
hi there way, I often read your blogs, when someone is speaking commonsense, one listens, in every life there is a time one will have to walk away, but with that , comes the responsibility of having the courage of one,s conviction and giving explanation as to why one feels like that ,if that is the only recourse to take, then face up squarley, walk away with both heads up high, ,pain will come, however closure ,especially if it is a relationship ,is so important, for both parties concerend to keep there dignity and for both parties to move forward.
I have seen people that walk away especially from relationships where an investment of emotions was intense (emotions are what make relationships function in my opinion) never move on without bitterness and they live with this bitterness for quite sometime……. judging from the many I have talked to.To me as we move on, which is most times the best option for that moment, let’s explore options that could mitigate the consquences of our ‘walk away action’ eg counseling, keeping an open door policy for the two to mend the broken pieces of their relationship and re-unite, revisiting the decisions made and making an evaluation, what impact did it have both negatively and postively, then this gives the course of action for the next move, (I WALKED AWAY ONCE AND I NEVER LIKED THE EXPERIENCE) etec, etc . That is my view
Some people walk away from a relationship,and go straight into another one,and take all their “Baggage”!!! with them,….(my opinion)……..and some people live in “Denial”!!,and never walk away,(my opinion)..
Some people are lucky enough to be born with a sense of balance, while others swing around on a rocky boat on a rough sea.
Or may be we tell ourselves its the right thing to make ourselves feel better, because no one likes to put their hand up and say “i was wrong” sometimes we think we are walking away to help a weaker person be stronger/when really it is the ones that walk away that are the weak ones.the deserters/who really knows every story is different just my opinion which is usually in the minority.