Sexism Women Experience
question asked in room – do men assume a woman is looking for only one thing ,what happened to friendship ?
I have thought about some sensitive questions for 40 years or more and what I believe is my ” modern respectful attitude ” can sound like old fashioned misogynistic ideas if you don’t know me and how I behave in the real world.
I think it is OK for someone to say they are only after one thing -it is totally unacceptable to assume that the other person your talking to is only looking one thing from a friendship or relationship.
Sexism can be hard to point out when it’s so engrained in our everyday lives. Clementine Ford, a columnist for Daily Life Australian, took to Twitter on Feb. 2 to ask a pointed question about the sexism she faces at work
16 Questions For Men That Reveal The Casual Sexism Women Experience Every Day
Questions For Men – have you ever been late to work because you’ve had to change streets 5 times in 5 minutes to avoid being catcalled by women?
if your not not easily shocked she is at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/04/questions-for-men-everyday-sexism-twitter_n_6612862.html
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Hi Geoff, there has always been sexism, but I do think some women take it too far, even going as far as to have words with men who offer them their seat on buses……..how very dare you kind of thing,” I’m just as capable as standing as you are “…….what utter rubbish……….well I have yet to see the day when a man complains about a women only looking for one thing..lol…thought it was us women that did the moaning about that……to
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My question to you Geoff, what has friendship got to do with sex?????
The only explanation I would except sounds like this; sex spoils any friendship.
MICHAEL
Michael, I am not sure what you are saying and we may have a language difference. I do not think friendship spoils sex. At least I hope not, but maybe I don’t understand men. The poet John Donne said, “Love to a man is a thing apart, but to a woman it is her whole existence”. I think there is a lot of truth in that.
Hi Rose,
yes you are right, we may have a language difference. The way you point it out is the way I have to agree too, but you’ve swaped the table in your comment. All I was going to say is; sex spoils a friendship and not vice versa.
Example; if I had sex with my friends love then we both would definitely spoil the friendship at all. That’s the way I see it and I may be wrong?
Michael, I am glad you explained that. I guess that is why there is a commandment “do not covet the neighbors wife”. Another thing that occurred to me is that Germans are much more open about sex than Americans. The french and northern Europe may be also. Countries vary and what can be said. i believe.
That’s true what you say Rose. Sorry I can’t compare between the USA and Germany. Let me put it this way, I was told, in some states one can only drink a cold beer in public when is been hidden in a paper bag? In Germany nobody cares about it.
All I know is that porn has its provenance in the USA but that has got nothing to do with private life.
We on the other hand have to face a trend that goes with elderly women. They prefer young men in the age between 20-30years to men of their age! The reason for that is the fact that the young men are able to do the job more intensive.
That also figures in the rise of booking specific journeys from women to countries in Africa and Latin America.
I was thinking about yesterdays question from a woman in the room -basically do men not believe in friendship – do men only thing a single woman must be looking for sex .
and my reply is that it is totally unacceptable for a man ,or a woman, to assume that the other person chatting is only interested in sex .
I work on the basis of “assume nothing without clear evidence. In the absence of such evidence be very careful what you say and do”.
Based on this I always take it that anyone I am speaking to or in contact with is looking for just that. To speak or make contact (not physical) and nothing more.
Being born into an era where sexism was not only rife, but acceptable (at least to the males) I am sure I must make the odd sexist/racist/discriminatory remark, but in my defence….I’m trying.
“E” for effort, Way! Lol!
waylander thanks for your great comment on my blog – you understood exactly what I wanted to say and your comment more eloquently explained it
Great blog Geoff, and also great comment Way. This blog reminded me of a comment said to me in the chat room. Another chatter said flirt with all the men in the chat room??? I was like whaaaaaaaaaatttttttttttt?? Me?? The most straight forward person you can get is me. I don’t flirt. For one I am happily married. If anyone knew me well enough they would know I would be the least attractive personality on this site, I couldn’t imagine anyone being attracted to me even if I was single. It just made me think that I hoped no men had the same impression of me flirting. I just thought I was online friends with the males chatters the same as I am online friends with the female chatters as I chat to them both the same. Then I thought(lots of thinking for an old granny) It doesn’t matter, I know I don’t flirt, and I am not going to let it change the way I chat to both sexes. If someone doesn’t like the way I chat to them I am sure they will tell me. That’s another blog all together lol
So pleased about your Comment Jan , you see I don’t look on Menand Woman I consider friends any more than that , I was acused when I first began on Chatters, that I was a flirt ,(look At her) one said across the screen as soon a as a man comes shes’s talking to them, thatcamefrom a man ,at that time I was discussing cooking becasue the chap that came in was a cook and we were swappingrecipes, and it wasn’t strawberries and cream only baking bread ahahahahah… i laughed at that comment then as I do today, then I was told by one of the women( to watch my morals ), lol ,becasue a chatter that was married was talking to me on the lobby haahahah, i told that woman my morals were probably higher than hers ,becasue not long before she made that comment , she was discussing smoking Marihuana , which I have never done and never will . lol to each his or her own . this site is called chatters , which i have a tendency to do,regardless of males or females, and always or nearly always seal all hellos and goodbyes witha kiss sign, as a sign of friendship
as most continental woman and french males and females do as a sign of friendly respect. think sometimes some chatters need a few more quotes with respect , such as , look before you leap , and perhaps people in glass houses should no tthrow stones … hahaahhaah I like a laugh the same as lots of others ,but i object to them going to far and have never entered that kind of language neither am ia prude , just a fun girl that loves to mix with others and has a lot of love to give out in general . so Jan tell them (suck it up baby) ahahah. as the yonger one’s say these dyas hahahaha…
Sounds like you guys had a chat that was not boring.I think it is safer to assume that all women are interested in friendship before anything else than to assume they are interested in sex only. I could be wrong and the younger generations may be different.
One man in a movie said, “sex can take five minutes. but romance can take all night.
As for flirting, it is not a bad thing, but can get out of hand. Usually, you have to know someone well to flirt, banter, or tease.
Grandmaj, you are fun to chat with so stay as you are.
VonMichael, The older woman and younger man is interesting and seems more common in your country than here. Here we call them cougars. Times change. I think the cougars are mostly a lot younger than my generation.
No idea Rose, I have no idea what the average age of those women is, but cougars are a nice name for them. It looks as if they turn to become a cougar when they are on holiday but at home I bet you they are more like a three-toed sloths. Well I’ll give them the chance enjoying their life once a year, if it makes them happy?