Our final Farewell……
Hello Peeps…….not here to spread doom and gloom on this beautiful sunny day…..buttttt…….funerals……many years ago I decided I didn’t want a funeral, just cremation and ashes scattered or buried in the garden…whatever……no service, no procession, no after get together, at the time the reaction was shock, its not the done thing blah blah blah…….now a few years down the line I read on social media that more and more are making the same choice as myself…….some people are not aware that you can do it your way and don’t have to do what is deemed to be the correct and proper way of things, I also looked into donating my body for medical science………that is not as easy as one might think and lots are rejected so I abandoned that idea……….I just think funerals are a huge money making rip off….also so called friend and families show up who haven’t been seen in years, how hypocritical is that……..my cousin is still in the wardrobe so his wife informs me…… and there he will stay until she departs this earth and they are buried together……another rip off…each time a grave is opened to place another coffin in it a few more hundred is needed……well just my thoughts……what are yours…..??
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Have to agree with you Starlette, I have told my two daughters, please don’t waste money on fancy funeral, the undertakers are rip off merchants in my opinion. People who are mourning a loved one do not always make sound choices and it can cost them dearly. Once I am gone I am gone, do what you want with my ashes, One generation perhaps two will care then forgotten. so cast mine out in the country where I loved to be, let my spirit fly free.
Mine will probs be blowing in the wind too 5min…….who knows we could pass on a breeze…lol
hello star, I used to work for an undertaker many years ago and I can tell you it is a rip off. You never see a poor undertaker. The coffins I used to make are all made of chipboard, finished with a coat of cheap varnish. The latest thing for funerals these days are eco-friendly coffins made of basket whicker,, and the price is extortionate. It’ s going to burn anyway. As for the cremm servise or church, the vicar gets a large payout. Come the day, you’ve got a lift, anyone who wants to come and say farewell, use their own cars.
Hi Mart….well you have the inside information……enough said…..and the other thing…..a vicar who did not know you reading words that have been written by your family……and sometimes getting names muddled …..I have seen that happen more than once and cause a still held rift in one family…
I agree with you, Starlette, I have saved for when my time comes…hopefully not for a few years yet.I do not want a big send off. When my Father passed, no-one knew what to do with his ashes, I remembered having a chat with him about being confirmed….he insisted that I was to be confirmed, I then found out that he was not….so I said well, you cannot be buried on church ground then. His reply was just scatter me on Bardsea shore , it will not bother me, so that is what I did…..Like 5mintbreak …I want mine cast in the country.
Hi Tania….tell you what….when we are all wafting in the countryside can we form a new SC……just breeze by and stop for a chat…..and all the nonsense about not being able to get buried in certain places cos your not a Christian or whatever…….time that people were stopped being brainwashed…
Good idea , Star…..We will stop for a chat , and form the new SC..x
Quote from an old film:- “Don’t bury me in some sad little cemetery. Burn me and cast my ashes to a strong west wind”
That’ll do for me too.
Another one destined to blow in the wind……..our members are growing….see you on the West wind Way…..
I think I’ve always had a different take on most funerals. It’s true that someone who dies before their time due to an accident or unexpected illness is terribly sad, for that person (especially a very young one) and others known to them will be missing out on a part of life. But as we get older we are preparing ourselves more for this eventuality, and as such, when we do depart it is more or less expected and therefore less of a sad occasion and, I feel, a new chapter for celebrating the life the person had and the good memories from that, and this should be an ongoing process rather than just a one off gathering. Therefore I don’t want a funeral either. I accept there will always be mourners which is completely fine, but I’d really prefer to think people smiled when they thought about me after I’d gone than felt sadness. Ergo my best idea to date would be to allow a knees up in a pub, perhaps even with a bit of music and singing too. If I knew that was going to happen then I guarantee I’ll drift off with a smile on my face.
DJ…….go the Irish way……..its said there is only one difference between a Irish wedding and a Irish funeral……just one person less at the funeral…….drink and craic for a couple of days should see you off well….
Funerals is the last business and we cannot do it on our own. We can make arrangements and pay for them and write our our obit and choose song and programs and pictures and videos if that is desired.
Paying is the most important part. It is sad and a graceful exit would be nice.
Love that idea Starlette! ?
Hi Rose…….its ones personal preference……..but its a good thing for people to know that they don’t have to follow what’s considered the norm, you would be surprised how many people do not realise they don’t have to have the service, the cars ,the tea and biccies afterwards….
Good one Star. I have recently informed my children of my plan , I am not having a service, just being cremated and thats it. No one will know but immediate family. One daughter is a bit shocked at my plan, but understands its my choice. She wasnt happy, I told her well if she wants a service etc, she has to die herself haha The funeral home just ring hubby up to come collect ashes. The two boys understand they were ok with it as well as other daughter.
Both my partner and I have decided that our respective funerals will be a non event ? Trundle down the crematorium in the back of a pickup truck and that’s it ! No pomp , no fuss just bye bye , it’s been great to know you. I don’t have any immediate family , except a sister – in – law who has donated her body to medical science , so no one to upset by either of our method of departing this mortal coil , as it were. Fancy funerals are a total waste of money , far better to spend it on benifiting the living not the dead.
Way to go Ma…lol…..my daughter was a little that way when I told her, she said if that’s what you want, I said do you really want all the faffing around planning a funeral, and no she didn’t……she asked well can we go have a drink at the local after the ashes have been scattered…….you can go and get hammered in the pub all day…..I wouldn’t expect any less was my reply…lol…….
In total agreement Scorpio……….why all the pomp and ceremony, sometimes I think its done for show……the solid Mahogany coffin with brass handles, the dozens of deep Red Roses……and where does it end up…… as Ash…….is it a statement to say how much that person was loved…….is it heck……love is shown when we are alive and kicking when we can appreciate it…