Looking for advice…
So… What to say…what to say…? At a crossroads in my life, I joined SeniorChatters to meet people who were looking for friendship. I scoped out various sites, but they all seemed to be focused on match-making (or a similar concept ?), and I wanted something that differs from the dating sites out there. I have no patience with anything superficial and shallow. I’m looking for conversation and real people to get to know and hopefully, I’ll build genuine friendships with like-minded sorts anywhere in the world. I don’t care about nationality, religion, political leaning, age, appearance, gender, sexual orientation or any other aspect that we seem to judge each other by. I just want to get to know good people.
I’m separated (a few years now) and between navigating the tightrope between the old “couples” friends and the isolation of the pandemic, I haven’t had the opportunity to search out ‘my people’. So, I’ve decided that I must try to make new friends. It’s harder than I thought it would be. The last time I put effort into trying to meet like-minded people, I was in uni…and that was ever-so-much easier. Making friends in later life is not for the faint of heart. Or perhaps I just don’t do it right. And this last thought is what made me write about it here. I figure what better place to look for ‘like-mindeds’ than a blog in Senior Chatters. ??♀️ Am I right?
I struggle with approaching others directly. I was raised not to intrude on people or to initiate anything that might be interpreted as an expectation, so I guess I thought if I just joined and ‘liked’ entries in the Activity tab and accepted everyone who wanted to be a connection, I’d meet people. It’s not really working out that way (only one or two people have shown an interest in chatting), so I’m hoping for advice from those of you who are experienced here and/or read blog postings. ?? What’s the best way to actually talk with others on Senior Chatters? How can I make real connections on here?
I thank you in advance for any suggestions you may have. ?? I deeply appreciate them and will try to put action to what you advise.
Wishing each of you a truly wonderful day!
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Well the best way to connect with people used to be in the chat rooms, but for some reason (I know not what) few go in there now, so blogs and private messaging seems to be the main route now
I did try the chat rooms a few times, but as you say, there never seemed to be anyone there. Maybe I’ll try that again and see. Thanks for responding to this @waylander – I do appreciate it.
Hi Maizie. It is difficult to find people on chatters these days to even chat with. As Way stated, back in the day, going into a chat room and getting to know people was the easiest way to connect. I am not on as much as I use to be, but I would love to have a chat with you when I am online.
Wishing you well.
The best way is to send connection request to members you think you will have things in common with. Then you can send and receive messages. I have about 6 I converse with daily this way. I find the chat rooms anywhere are obsolete these days. It works for me because of time differences also. Funny enough its the newbies I have the most conversations with, I have many friend connections from long term members that I accept but never hear from again haha They know me to well. Good luck on your mission
Also, if you dont find connections actually do send you messages, you can just delete them. I do a cull every now and then if I dont hear from anyone for a while. I mainly leave it there for admin reasons in case they need to contact me for help etc I do get requests from certain members, I do not wish to converse with at all for personal reasons. But they have @Prontopronto to contact if they need admin help, or Rob. Or ask any questions on activity and tag myself and Pronto and we will answer next time we are online. I am a regular member also , and being a voluntary job as admin doesnt require me to put up with abuse.
Thanks @passaggio! Just let me know when you’re around and I’d love to chat.
I really appreciate all the tips and advice, @grandmaj ! I am not only a newbie on here, but honestly a newbie to this whole way of meeting people – so a double-newbie. ??♀️ I will try to initiate with people…connecting and starting chat conversations. It’s a healthy stretch for me. Who knows? Maybe I’ll even get good at this with some practice. ?
I can bug you with pics of my new puppy any time! He is such a doll! I will be able to see him better tomorrow, because I am having cataract surgery!
@Kittybou I would LOVE to see pics of your new puppy! Wishing you quick healing with your surgery. And enjoy that first clear glimpse of your pup.
I put pictures up of Rocket meeting Carmel. I am sure, in time, they will be friends. Right now, Carmel is heavier than Rocket! We went to the park the other day and saw turtles, Rocket barked for the first time. He is a very good boy.
Hi Maizie
I have recently joined and have just read your blog. This is so true to me and I’m sure many others. I was going to exit this almost as quickly as I joined but have a little hope now that there are ways and means to this. Thank you for your blog!
Hi @WeeTish !
Sadly, a short time after this post my mom was experiencing serious medical problems so I haven’t been on much the past few months. Things have improved now so I’m able to spend a bit more time here. I’m so happy to hear my blog post was helpful to someone. I felt a bit vulnerable posting it, but received some good advice which I will finally be able to put into practice. So I will send you a connection request. 😁Let me know if you’d like to chat sometime.
I am late to the party 😉 But here I am! I would love to chat! Time usually has no real meaning for me these days, so just let me know if you are still interested 🙂
Hi @CoffeeLove !
It seems I’m actually late to my own party! 🤪Sending you a connection request as well.
Maizie, making friends when we are older takes longer and we are not patient, but you were smart to write a blog and be careful. Many people treat this site as a dating site and many are not sincere. I hope you have already found people to chat with.