Cyber Senior Dating
I have tried a few dating sites without success. They were just unmanageable; like I tried chat rooms and never found a good one till I found this one. My life was in turmoil and transition and scheduling mass amounts of time to get tech skill savvy was not on my crumpled “to do” list. Nor was I calm and serene enough to meet a big challenge.
After two or three years, I found a very good senior dating site. It is easy and they make it easy in every way even for a minimally tech qualified novice. I think every lonely person should give cyber dating a whirl. You will be instantly more successful that trying to “chat Up” in chat rooms.
I joined and within a day or so I was getting flirts and winks and nods. It certainly was exhilarating.
and intimidating and offered endless possibilities or A large bite of forbidden fruit. We are mature and we can sort things out and we know how to “play it safe”. yet there are always risks. Now if you are vulnerable, and your heart is on your sleeve, it may be too risky.
It is like shopping for a date and they are displayed, and they are shopping too. Do not consider little interest rejection, and do not try to capture one trying to leave. Bide your time. when they look your way, be prepared to give some encouragement, or a kind decline if not interested. I am hoping that the right one will be fairly easy because it is a good match. So be real, and honest and have hope. It has to be fairly easy and fun, because I just am not prepared to work real hard. I am still new, but my grandson met his current girlfriend on a cyber dating site, and they are having a lot more fun and sharing the joys and concerns of life. He had been looking on his own for about four years. It could take a lifetime to contact the number of people you find in a week on web dating and it costs very little.
Now, Lo and Behold!!! be prepared to meet the EX or EXes. I did and I treated him like everyone else. I am working on building a better relationship with him and have planned a lunch for that purpose. Endless possibilities or a large bite of Forbidden Fruit, or bitter fruit, but isn’t that what life is all about instead of sitting back and acting too grand and wise,
These are my quick and first thoughts, and I would appreciate all comments and especially experienced cyber dating comments. I hope this is helpful to someone.
Rose found ur comments and honesty refreshing but what got me to answering is how u r now being drawn to an ex fasctinating as long as he isnt an abusive one its one thing I do hate is guys or even some”Ladies” who r physically and verbally abusive wish u all the best rose
One thing I have noticed especially where I stay women who were in a physical abusive relationship tend to go again for that type of guy theres been a coupla times i have been asked to drive friends to safe houses then to find out later they have went back
Thank you paddy for looking after me. I am grateful and going “back” can be a mistake. There was no physical abuse. In a breakup, we throw out the good and bad. If possible, I would like to save the good. We live in close proximity and at least need to be comfortable in our social groups. hopefully, we both have learned enough to want that and to achieve that. I will celebrate all his virtues, and forgive his faults.. I will also try to find intimacy in a safe place and with a safe person, but how can we ever know for sure???
Rose happy hunting……hope you find Mr Right…….could turn out to be Mr Ex after all……..time apart could make you both realise what you had. x
Thanks starlette. Anything is possible. I appreciate the support and concern of all my SC friends.
Rose .. I’ve been on a couple of “friendship” sites. They were company till I adjusted to living alone again. I met a dozen or so in person and people are people whether on line or live. (pretty well all women)
Then I met this lovely man from the Isle of Wight at a get together in England. Then we were on line and making plans for his visit to Canada. Well he came, and he stayed and we were married.
A beautiful story, He was such a dear sweet man, but I lost him three years later. But always thankful for the time we shared.
Now I have no interest in dating sites…this is a good place to find dear friends..
Wish you well…you’ll find a friend in me..
Rose, I wish you the very best! I think you have the right attitude. You will deal with the nuts, the clinging vines, the shy, the outspoken, etc. Your perspective of it all is wonderful! Enjoy your experience. I pray you will find a companion and hopefully one day so much more. xxx
awe Kay i am so sorry for ur loss i have known lots of couples who met online got married etc i do believe its best way to meet someone i think u tend to learn more about them kay it can happen again to u before u know whats happens u may not be looking lolol maybe i was at that get together av been to quite a few chat meets in england met loads of real nice folk back then there has been a trend recently where some shall we say troublesome folk r coming online not interested in others happiness etc its the biggest change i have seen in 22yrs online when i say those folks back then i meant both sexes
Sorry Kay, and it took me several years to trust enough to venture out, my story could end as yours did or not. Thanks for sharing.
Interesting blog Rose. I, too, wish you success and much happiness, in your search. Hope it works out for you with your ex, or hopefully you will find mr. right soon. Cyber-dating can be such an exciting experience. Have fun in your endeavours , and, again, good luck with your “dating”.
Thanks for all the sharing. That is our way to learn and to get security and guidance.
Rose , This is a very interesting blog and hope you will find someone in your search and that it works out with you ex. Good luck and have fun. 🙂
wow rosy some story . can l have the name of the dateing shop, please l might get a few nods and winks lol lol xxx