Beauty vs Personality and love conquest
I just came across this quote, “Beauty Attracts, Personality wins the heart”. This a bit late in life to really understand the matchmaking game, but better late than never. We do not get too old to want to be desired by the opposite gender. So what is this about beauty and personality in the matchmaking endeavors.
Men and women like BEAUTY the , healthy and attractive people are the most sought after. Some say men are more visual and looks is the first and maybe the last thing that matters and there is evidence for that, but I think that men are smarter than that. I as a woman know that Beauty also matters to me just as much. I am not proud of it, but I will say the truth and I am also smart enough to know that many other things matter also. Beauty attracts, but Personality and character and other qualities matter before there is a conquest or match.
Put your best foot forward has always been said and still is correct. It makes sense to present yourself to the world that will appeal to those you are seeking. Let me stick to attraction of male and female. Personality matters, a vibrant smile and energy is usually a package deal. We cannot separate the two. Character counts. Smart sane people are going to look at many aspects, but still we all have to admit that Beauty is what gets the process all started in most cases.
I have had failed relationships. I had looks and character, but I was missing something very important. I could say ego gratification and sound clinical but we want to know that we are valued and appreciated. It is not enough to value and appreciate, you have to make it KNOWN. If we want a man to be manly, we have to be womanly and vice versa. I looked like a petite venus and my personality was more like a drill sergeant or a bossy mom. I have to get over that. It is not too late. Some men are still saying that women like the bad boys. I cannot relate to that.
This has nothing to do with women liberation and all that. This is about the propensities of nature and what works in attracting and capturing the love of a good man or a good woman. We just had a blog on hormones and after we know all that, what are the lovely or gentlemaly ways that grabs your heart? You can contradict me, but I have stated that BEAUTY DOES attract and goes to the top of the list and then there is everything else. What is the everything else that causes the heart to skip a beat?
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Perhaps I’m strange (many on here will tell that’s true), but I have never gone for the pretty one. Right from the early days of secondary school the “pretty one” usually had a rather plainer sidekick. Still pretty but not the stunner her friend was.
Those were always the ones that interested me. The beauty could be an airhead or vicious or nasty and most blokes let that go. The sidekick had to have more and usually it was intelligence and a personality. Those were the ones I went for, but very rarely got, I hasten to add.
So does beauty attract? Yes! It makes you look at least, but I and I think a lot of men look beyond that right from the start.
For me, she can be as lovely as any icon of female beauty you care to name, but if she doesn’t have a sense of humour, a brain that she actually use and a personality, then she can walk on.
Waylander, I forgot a sense of humor. Men and women both want a sense of humor. It always surprised me how many will put that way near the top of the list.
Rose, to live with me they DO need a sense of humour lol
Hi Rose, yes I think in the first instance it is looks that attract, but not necessarily stunning beauty or classic film star looks, it could be a genuine warm smile, a nice kind looking face, a nice bum, broad shoulders, a wink even, loads of different attributes that could appeal, ( I’m talking men here of course )…..lol…….but once you are past the physical looks, then for me personally like Way, it will always be good conversation, some degree of intelligence, wit and humour that would keep me interested………
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Star, sounds good, I really think there is not as much difference between the genders as some would have us think.
Hi Bloom , peronality gets it every time , beauty is the first attraction i have observed and a sense of fashion as men like their girls to look nice…. but all that goes by the wayside in time and a good personality, a kind heart, a twinkle in the eye,and that useful sense of humor to face the daily challenges…. is mostly what either sex looks for . beauty fades but a kind heart stays….. xx