Beauty v Brains
Back in our school days everyone chased the pretty girls, but had you ever noticed these pretty girls usually had a friend? Yes that’s the one. The mousy little thing. The seeming hanger on?
I remember one pair like that from my school days. The pretty one surrounded by boys and her little mousy friend standing close, keeping a watching brief. Close to her pretty friend, but always, somehow apart.
No-one ever paid the little mouse much attention and I always wondered why? I mean she was pretty enough, she just wasn’t interested in being pretty. She had a brain and used it while her pretty friend used her looks. For boys, that worked.
I saw them again about 10 years later, still friends, still going about together, but things had changed.
The pretty one was still pretty. The mousy one was still pretty much mousy, although she’d learned to wear clothes that made the best of her figure (no I don’t mean mini-skirts and low tops, she left that to her pretty friend).
The change was that they were adults now (well the mousy one was anyway) and while the pretty one got a lot of looks, it was the mousy one who was surrounded by admirers. She was surrounded because she was capable of holding a conversation.
When we’re young, and I mean the teen years, it’s mostly about looks, but when (or should I say if) we grow up, we realise that a pretty face and a good body is fine, but if you can’t hold an intelligent conversation together then the shine soon wears off.
When it comes to beauty versus brains, I’ll take brains every time.
The body is just a casing, the truck inside which we move about and, like all transport, after a while it begins to look a little shoddy, a bit worn. If all you went for were looks, then there’s nothing left is there?
True, lasting beauty comes from within. From a mind and a personality. If your partner has that, they will never be old.
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Way are you saying if a women is pretty she is dumb………..shame on you…….seriously though, this go’s for the men too………who wants a beefcake with no brains………give me a man who makes me laugh………game over…lol xx
Not at all, Star, it was just so in this case.
Incidentally, the cleverest person I ever met was female, blonde, and dazzlingly attractive.
Waylander, was that dazzling blonde so clever or do all the men get real foolish around her. LOl
Actually, an attractive person is just as intelligent and maybe more so and they get a lot of positive attention that helps them along.
Well she was an Applied Physics professor at a Scottish University, so I’d say she was pretty clever.
You proved your point. I was mostly kidding, but the men did probably get foolish.
Sorry Star, sorry. D o you actually know the top-secrete of men. Why they prefer beauty women vs. intelligent women? No? Well the answer is kiss. Keep it simple and smart. Men can better look than think. That’s it. xxxM
Would appear that way Michael……….simple really………just have to keep kissing instead of talking…xxx
I was the ‘other one’ Way…my friend was tall, skinny and had long straight blonde hair and legs going up to her ears. She was cool, she smoked and was gorgeous.
I was the small, chubby one, who was brainy but quiet and very insecure and really shy.I wished so much to be like her, and felt that everyone wanted to know me just to be close to her…
We lost touch for ages…….bumped into each other years later. She was onto her third marriage, she’d let her looks go, she was unhappy, felt she’d underachieved and had wasted her life. Me? I’ve developed more confidence…..not a lot, mind! I’ve made some good friends, had a good career,and enjoy my life……but growing up was painful!
My heart goes out to the ‘other’ friend…as a teacher, I saw them again and again and tried to explain that every girl is special, every one has their own special value and worth.
Sometimes youth is wasted on the young!
Mx
Confidence is one of the most important.things that you can try and instil in anyone……………this shines through, regardless of look’s………..not talking cockiness here……….but at the end of the day when we are young, look’s are all…….just the way it is…
Way, I am glad to hear that some men are actually into intelligent conversation.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but brains have initials and can be verified. but it also pays not to be smarter than the guy.
i was not allowed to talk to boys, and if they did take notice i wouldn,t have known, kept secluded.
but,wish I knew then what i know now ha ha ha xx.
Why leave out the stupid or ugly? Do they not want to be loved, are they unworthy of it because they were unfortunate enough to have parents whose genes just didn’t meet standards?
I’ve had some wonderful discussions and acquaintances over the years simply because I ignore the labels society says we need to apply to people. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover or it’s table of contents 🙂
And how would one define ugly……….beauty is in the eye of the beholder………stupid would depend on how intelligent you perceive yourself to be……………how you measure your intelligence against someone else’s …….me……….. nobody more stupid at tech than i am …….but that dosen’t make me a stupid person………and for me the beauty that come’s from within a person is the best of all….
The point I was trying to make in a nutshell, Star.
The point is that labels like beauty, brains, uglly, stupid, are all ridiculous. Who can possibly be defined by one dimension?
All persons have something to contribute. The key is how willing you are to find out what that contribution might be.
Great blog Way, good food for thought. Great comments too.
The things that many people consider as great blessings can have their down side.
We had an annual beauty pageant at my high school. As if teen girls didn’t already feel enough pressure based on physical appearance. The girl who won, when were both Sophomores, confided to me once, with tears “When I meet a nice a boy, and he likes me, I never know if he actually likes ME! I don’t think people care about getting to know me, who I really am.”
In my opinion, getting past physical appearance only is often a maturity issue. A few teenagers can look beyond that, to appreciate all the other aspects of a person too. A few adults are immature enough to never get past it.
So my other point is that maturity is not always an age thing.
Think looks is definitely what people look at first,may not be the right way but most do.just look at the way some make fun of the fat,ugly in the chat room.Be a wonderful world if we looked inside the person first, before we judged them.I know I have lived it in my life .
I am going to post a video on my wall in a moment, that I think relates to your blog, Way. Some of you may have seen it before, and I posted it a while back. It’s only 3 minutes long-an interview with Dustin Hoffman.
Very much related, KayBee. Thanks for that