Any other spouses of cancer patients out there?
I am the sole caregiver, and feeling lonely and burned out. It has been a two year journey through chemo, emergency surgeries, emergency hospitalizations, immunotherapy, etc.
My spouse fights me at every juncture. Refuses assistive devices like shower benches, wheelchairs, walkers, etc.
Appreciate any feedback.
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Hello TXmaggie my husband passed away from cancer two years and three months ago. I was also his caretaker, and I can sympathize that at times it can be quite difficult. Sometimes some particular medication’s can actually change the patient character making them more impatient or angry. And of course, there’s how it affects them, knowing that they will most likely not survive. The only advice I can give you is to find support around you to express how you feel. One thing that I’m truly happy about is that I know through all the notes he felt loved to the end. so my next advice would be, try to take time to breathe and also make the best memories you can. Even if that means recording his voice or taking those special pictures of your hands together. It is super hard in so many ways
My wife passed away in May after a two year battle with cancer. I think it was easier for me being a man because I was able to to physically support her with walking and bathing. She never had chemo. That was offered as a last resort and she refused it. She always said all she wanted was to feel better and the doctor told her chemo would make her feel worse and she would never feel good again. She passed shortly after that. We had Hospice come to the house. They were a great help and the government pays them.
Hello TXmaggie,
My husband does not have cancer but does have dementia. I do know how you feel though. I looked after him for 10 years. The last two he was refusing to do anything and it was soul destroying. I got quite ill and unfortunately he has now been in a care home for 6 months. It can be very lonely out there so chatting is a great thing