Why I’ve come to this site
OK, here’s me trying my hand at blogging.
I don’t know how common this is, but it’s turning out that at my time of life (64) I’m generally happier than ever. My sixties have been quite satisfying and I really wouldn’t choose to be younger even if I could. I’m motivated to stay as fit and positive as possible. I have a great marriage, a job that I enjoy so much I’m in no hurry to retire, and also a lot of peace of mind that when I was younger I didn’t have.
Of course at any age we still take our lumps. There are challenges, frustrations, fears. But overall I think the experiences that I’ve accumulated have made me glad to be at the mountaintop, so to speak. I look back at me in my 30s, 40s, 50s and I see my earlier self beset by struggles that I no longer have. I feel like I have arrived at a great destination, emotionally and physically, and I expect to enjoy being here for many years to come. Knock on wood.
So why have I come to this chat site? I’m kind of shy by nature and don’t have a large social circle. But I really love a deep conversation. In my single years (before I got married at 24) I was the guy at a party who’d be lost in the crowd, but then would sit down with someone in a corner and we’d talk for hours oblivious of the other people around us. I was kind of hoping this chat site might lead me to potential friends who would like to sit off to the side of this proverbial party and have nice, deep, interesting conversations.
I’ll stop there. Best wishes to everyone on the site.
Union
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Union, I hope you find the conversations that you are looking for here. I had conversations in my twenties and was in College. I haven’t found many since. I don’t know why the wondering and the questions seem to cease and everybody seems to have answers enough. If you find the deep conversations, come back and tell us about it, please.
Thanks, and I promise I will. Your observation is pretty thought-provoking. Makes me think as we go thru life too often we kid ourselves into thinking we have found a lot of answers. I applaud your interest in questions!
Good luck and have fun on the site.
your first paragraph made me smile all the way thru. so much hope in that paragraph of “coming thru” certain things and enjoying the view at the top of that mountain. thank you so much for sharing that.
and your last paragraph resonates deeply with me. i too…always craving conversation that isn’t “surface”, but it’s been so long that i wonder what i even have to contribute if it isn’t about everything i feel…which is tiring even to me, lol.
thank you for writing this entry and being so honest. it’s nice to have gotten a bit of hope out of your words, as well as feeling like there are others out there like me afterall.
Thanks for the kind reply, terriberri. You make me glad I shared these thoughts. Your comment that “it’s been so long that I wonder what I even have to contribute…” is understandable, but I’m convinced that deep conversations involving how each one of us feels is a good starting point that leads to a world of topics.
And your remark about finding “others out there like me” is I believe in the back of all our minds, especially those of us hoping that online chat can/might/will get us there.
Hi, I’m 85 now, and fairly active. Just taken delivery of another new Hybrid Toyota, on lease-purchase so that I can just give it back when I don’t fancy driving any more, and my wife doesn’t drive. I wasn’t looking forward to retiring, in fact I continued working part time until I reached 73. I do enjoy life more now, we downsized three and a half years ago, not very far but with good bus and train connections, all free. So, I’ve started making trips to London, just to look around, last week I went back to where I first started working in 1954, the City of London which has changed a little. My iPad is having trouble with recognising my fingers, most frustrating, so I will finish now and see if this gets any positive results, I hope so.