Where have all the chatters gone?

Ive just been reading some blogs about the chat room and how nobody seems to chat and you dont know who is there etc. I have gone in to the room for the last 4 nights to find 2 people with green dots….lol…however…they are not chatting in the room…or maybe dont want to chat to me…I see so many comments saying …is anyone here?? what is the point of a chat room where no one chats? are people now worried about what they can say? I remember people actually having discussions about political things….yes..and even religious things….I dont know about anyone else but I would actually love to chat sometimes about other stuff rather than hows the weather? does it really matter if we disagree about things??? some people may over react to comments but seriously…we all all adults…and senior adults for that matter….lets not act like children…and lets not be treated like children….sorry about the long rave but I miss chatting to lots of people who have disappeared…

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  1. We will just have to bide our time and hope things improve. Some new people are using the new chatroom. It is very confusing though. A friend thought I was in the room and I was only on the site.

  2. Chatroom usage has always been fairly spasmodic…its just more obvious now with being able to see those darn dots. If folk remembered to change to busy or away it would let folk know if they werent in chat, whereas with old chatroom you could see who and how many were in before entering. Ozzie Im in and out for around 15 hrs most days and do see many in there off and on, but the content of chat is not to everyones liking so they dont go in. Ive seen folk go in and try to begin a new subject but it can be like pulling teeth….hard. Right now I think there are 9 greens up there and at a quick count only 5 chatting….:-(

    1. Faye , you are so right, I put a blog here about that very thing requesting chatters when they leave could they please change the colour of their dot , so the rest of the chatters who want to chat know that someone is in there chatting and not just on site or lurking as we put it , sorry to say it fell on deaf ears…. It doesn’t take much when one goes offline to change their button before they go offline….i go in and there may be 5 green buttons and no-one chatting , on and off most of the day and evening my timeline …..

  3. Thank you , Ozzie. You couldn’t have said it better. I have tried the chat room on several occasions . Every time I try there seems to be a private chat going on. It’s a shame that we, as elders of this generation, are not more concerned about things that are going on in this world today. No one really seems to care about anything other than silly, nonsense commenting. I’ve never been good at “small talk”, and not likely to change that either. I think the community room is very confusing and non focused. It was so much better when we could actually see who was there, and then decide if we wanted to join in or not. Those color dots are ridiculous. Not sure what purpose it serves, other than to confuse people.

    1. The site does have other areas besides the chat room for serious discussion. I post often on a variety of topical issues but receive little or no response.

  4. I like to treat the chat room as if I were in front of that person/persons,face to face,where you greet that person/s by saying hello and await the appropriate response.I dont walk up to a person or group of persons and stand there like a stale bottle of dish water nor do I respond with silence should another person/persons respond with a return hello.When I have no response I then take it that person/s isnt there or does not want to chat,at which time I either wait for somebody else coming in to say hello to or say bye to the room and leave,I cant see a problem.

  5. I put my red dot on but I still see who is in the room chatting, and the conversation that is taking place, I feel like an eves dropper, and you know what they say……eves droppers never hear good of themselves, the other evening a conversation was actually taking place about a close friend of mine, nothing bad was being said, but some personal details were being revealed, also when I was trying to type this comment someone popped up in private, not one of my friends, and I’m pretty sure a scammer, but my point being is, my screen was then full, I could no longer continue with this comment because it was half covered by boxes, none of which I wanted, I had to click on the off line button and start all over again…….. and I don’t like the fact that anyone can pop into private with me when my red button is on, and they are not even on my friends list…….xx

  6. I have been and many others have been accused of “lurking” the same people that do that “lurking” in my opinion, do exactly the same as the rest. The system of dotting, people do, are just as them as well, they say why don’t they have a green dot and join the chat instead of a another colour dot and sit there and eavesdrop, to be honest I don’t care what colour dot I have to use apart from green, I don’t wish to join in to the chat because most of the chat is nothing more than the usual weather forecast to trivial rubbish and idle chat. the odd chat is a decent conversation, but not often, two nights I read about politics that went on for a long time, talk about a boring subject, no wonder they clam up and leave for other things to do.
    people put on pics of dogs or other animals are of no consequence to me, yes I have a pet but I am not in the habit of putting in pics for to see what animal it is, I am quite the animals are uninterested of them in seeing their pic on chat.
    So those that called me a lurker, I don’t give two fleas what you say, if I choose to sit there all day then be it it’s my choice, is that not the only point of the colour dots, I have seen 15 dots the other night 7 were on green only 3 in chat, the rest on idle or busy dots you can’t be all doing the same , reading the chats, no I’m afraid most of them are in private chats, the same people each time , you are all the same as the rest of them lurking reading chats.

  7. One man’s meat an all that. Perhaps the ‘idle’ button should be dropped, or changed to ‘lurkin’. It honestly doesn’t bother me, if someone is lurkin. When there is a chat going, I for one try to suss the conversation to see if I can add or contribute. So I must be ‘lurkin’, for a while. It seems to me the content is what WE ourselves put on the wall, so if it is boring, look also in the mirror! Out of courtesy, I always say hi to all, and usually say “I’m just havin a nose”, so folks know I am logged. Perhaps have ‘a subject of the day’ by the admin to inspire thought. Mostly those who go on are lonely, and just want to feel involved in something, anything even it is only eavesdropping. Above all we have the freedom.

  8. Out of my sight I can’t add much to that topic ozzie. Sorry. I don’t even know the quality of the chats and the chatters here on SC.

    What I know is this; most themes are so flat and ask for no mental approach so many people are losing interest very, very quickly. Cos it’s their time they are wasting on idle written talks. Time they can better use by doing more pretentious tasks which offer them satisfaction and stay in mind.

  9. Anyone can be accused of lurking. I never lurk. But as I understand it, if I am on the site somewhere, or anywhere, my green button for the chat room lights up. I think lurking is rude, If you want to take a look to see who and what is said is okay, but a long lurk is just rude. All this criticism of chatters is also rude and inconsiderate. I enjoy many types of conversations. Many people are intimidated already and do not feel comfortable in the chat room. Everyone is a member of the universe and their thoughts and conversation is of interest to me.

  10. Only been on site for three days, and really only signed up for chat. As a new ‘kid on the block’ I hadn’t understood what all the coloured lights were for anyway so will now try to behave myself and press the appropriate buttons so I’m not accused of ‘lurking’ . Found so far that majority of chatters are in UK and that doesn’t really fit with my daylight hours – all I have chatted with have been welcoming. I agree with the comments of roseinbloom above.

  11. As a long time member here I have been through several changes, For my opinion and others that I have spoken to, the quality of SC has gone down a lot from when I joined, I met some of the best friends I have on SC partly by having a 1 on 1 chat with them, several I am still in contact with daily since 09. I venture to explore other sites and hear the same from ex members from SC they are still chatting just on other sites, I wish it was the way it was when I joined again. We had some real good times here, some off the scale, since I have came back I have not heard anything but negative comments.

  12. Change will always bring negative comments.,,,for some reason older people dont embrace changes like the young ones do. We still have a working chatroom even if it is a little more public. Where the chatroom is doesnt really matter…its the content that draws people in to stay and chat. After all what could be said in the previous one that cant be said in the present one….unless there was a lot of chatroom rule breaking going on. It is still easy to have private chats while keeping an eye on what is being said in the chatroom (something pointed out when Whisper was removed from the old one). It is easy for newbies to find and they can see what conversation is happening before going in there hence it would be nice if the negative comments were kept to a minimum, but then there are always those who will complain no matter what changes are made. Yes the lights system is a pain in the proverbial but that is up to individuals to operate and is no fault of the chatroom itself. So some of the changes are good and some not so good but its here and up to us to make the best use of it.

    1. A little more public ? Haha ! It’s like being “Naked in the middle of the Mall”
      That ,little bit public !! …it’s Eerie !!!!
      Our own “Big Brother for Seniors ” from the comfort of our own homes !

      1. Can see the point there and yes guess it could feel a bit like that…lol. But then, the other chat lead to so many complaints about being tossed out all the time despite the fixes that were tried and now we have this one where people can stay, it seems, but dont like being so ‘exposed’. So the solution is ??????????……It seems whatever is done there will be some who dont like it and some who will, and then those in the middle who will just take what is given. Im sure there is an appropriate proverb in there somewhere for that…LOL

  13. Faye – I must disagree, this current situation seems as if we are in a coridour, gathering around the water cooler until our booked room is ready. Without a room there is no list of members, if its not corrected then chat on SC will die.
    Bob

  14. I used to enjoy chatting here but since the community room came into existence I had problems seeing it on my iPad (it’s so small) usual methods of enlarging things doesn’t work. I can see who is on line either.
    Sorry to moan…….

  15. I totally agree with you and if more people thought like you, perhaps more people would chat. But everyone is so concerned about being “politically correct” these days. We have to make sure we don’t step on anybody’s toes or hurt anybody’s feeling with disagreeing with them. Yes we are all senior/adults, just wish we all acted and behaved like it.