Today would have been Eddy’s birthday…

My birthday memoriam to my best friend Eddy....May 31st 1954 - May 11th 2013 ... To those that don't know..Eddy was an active member on this site for many years..

Eddy Brook, my best friend, my soul mate and my rock, died on 11th May 2013. he didn't warn me what it would be like without him in my life. We never spoke about death cos' we were too busy living, and we expected to go on living forever. I don't remember how I came to love him so much, and although he meant the world to me, I wasn't prepared for the excruciating pain or the tiredness, the drowning feeling, gasping for air, or the paralysis and the panic that still grips me without prior warning when I realise time after time I wont ever see Eddy again. The world is now a bigger place, the days and nights are longer, so cold less safe and more daunting. and it all adds up to feeling vulnerable. Eddy made my world a wonderful place and he didn't have to say a word. It's difficult to explain but if you have ever experienced this you will know what I mean. No questions or answers, just a mutual understanding and a warm glow of contentment. Eddy was born with lots of health problems, but in spite of that, he had a good and honest heart, and these were the qualities that provided the foundations on which he developed his unique character. He had nothing to hide. His eyes were the windows to his soul.
When I look back at the day we met I was lost in limbo, without ambition or objective but Eddy believed in me. he encouraged me and I confided in him. I was going through a very dark time in my life. He absorbed my stress and I poured it all out. I grew in confidence and he never faltered. Regardless of where he was or what he was doing, he always had time to listen to me, never eager to judge and he never complained or mentioned the time. he chose his friends carefully and if you got past the gates the deal was forever. he would have moved heaven and earth for me and he always gave me the benefit of the doubt.he was solid, loyal, tolerant and forgiving and always there with open arms whenever I needed him. It comforts me to know that he will be waiting on the other side. To me Eddy was ageless and evergreen, warm and caring and had the habit of looking at people from the inside out. He never married and spent most of his later years looking after his lovely mum whom he adored. Sadly she died a few years ago on Christmas eve. It been Christmas, made each Christmas after that a sad time for Eddy. I then returned the compliment and was there for Eddy has he had been for me.

At the end of an obituary the story often describes the persons winter years, Eddy was still breathing summer air and loving life and he was especially happy just days before he died as we had finally managed to meet up person to person for the first time in all the years I had known him. We had a wonderful five days together myself, Eddy and my hubby Joe, walking in the sun in Bournemouth, and finally getting him to go to an Indian restaurant!! It was the best five days ever and I know he loved it so much and was content and happy, it was all too perfect , all that he didn't have was time and he didn't even know it. I would give anything for a few minutes more just to tell him goodbye and hug him again. His Friends I know, also miss him very much, especially his friends on facebook where we have a page dedicated to him ...So take a bow Eddy Brook. you did it with style. You were magnificent and the best friend I have ever had. Regardless of the years that pass you will always be my inspiration, my soul mate, and my beautiful friend.. I see your face every time I close my eyes, always young, bright, and smiling, and every time it breaks my heart. One day the memories might ease my the pain, but they will never remove the scars, but then the scars are part of what we had together. It was you and me Eddy against the world and the world didn't stand a chance. we had a ball, I just cant believe it's all over.

Goodbye my best friend, it was you that made my life complete.
Love always Pollie xxx

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  1. annemarie

    Polly , Yes I remember Eddy in shout and can’t think he has been gone 3 year’s already. Thanks for posting that today is his birthday . Good to see you again in S.C. and hope you are doing well.

  2. jw1953

    Polly l never met your friend, but I think in reading this blog that he was very special person and that you were blessed to have such a friend. Few of us are so blessed.

    I share in your celebration of his birth and life and am confident that your friendship will be renewed when it’s your turn to leave this Vail of tears

  3. roseinbloom

    Pauline, you have my sympathy on the loss of your friend Eddy. You have memorialized him and that is about all you can do. I believe Eddy must have been very special person and wish that I had known him.

  4. jenna

    Pollie, what a very special friendship you had with Eddy. You were both so lucky to have found each other and have that very special time together.
    I am so sorry for your loss.

  5. foreveryoung2

    Pollie this is a wonderful tribute to your wonderful friend Eddy. To find a very special friend such as Eddy is so very precious. and he obviously also loved you and cherished your friendship. I remember Eddy in Shout and he was always kind and caring. Happy Birthday Eddy ! Warm hugs to you Pollie xoxo

  6. darkfarmowl


    I never had the privilege of knowing Eddy as I have only been here a few months, but you gave him the most moving of eulogies, and I now wish I had known the man as he seems to have been someone very special. He would have been so proud of this beautiful dedication to his memory.

  7. goldengirl1224

    A very sad but beautiful tribute to your friend, Pollie. Life can be so cruel, but the wonder is that you met this wonderful friend and shared some very special time together and you must have also enriched his life greatly and made him happy too.
    Treasure all the memories you have of him and be thankful for them and the impact he made in your life – and no doubt you made in his.

  8. lo1234

    You were very lucky to have found such a good friend in Eddy. I remember him as a sweet, caring, lovely man. Beautiful remembrance, Pollie.