To Walk The Line …

To  Walk  The  Line ...

Are you feeling boxed in …lately ?
I am ! There are so many groups on here ,it seems that we can’t say or post anything unless we categorize it first and then post it into it’s appropriate group !
Too many rules and restrictions makes me feel trapped ,caged , in need to break free !
I know that we are all different and some people like things orderly ,itemized , and they don’t mind to be organized into groups with guidelines of what to do and where .
I’m a free spirit ,I love to have plenty of room to move around me ,in my house and in my life .
I’m also a bit of a rebel , never liked too many rules ,and I never set out too many either ,just enough to live a civilized life ,to have respect for others and the environment ,to appreciate life and to have plenty of freedom to choose..to do ..and to be .
I’ve been a member on here for almost 5 years , I love it here ! I log in most days and sometimes several times a day !
I’m a lifetime member , and that is one of the reasons why I’m still here today.
If I had to renew my membership yearly I doubt I would have been here this long !
So to become a lifetime member all those years ago ,it was a good decision on my part 🙂 .
Over the last 5 years lots of people have come and gone , it’s the nature of the site I guess , like someone on here pointed out a few days ago, there will always be ” arrivals and departures “
Some of the departures I still remember with great fondness !
Rob is doing a great job managing this ,his site , and I have no complaints .
The site is what we it’s members makes it to be . Sometimes I wonder if we appreciate each other as much as we should !
There are some members on here who put a lot of work and energy into this site for the benefit of us all , to them I say Thank you ,Thank you ,THANK YOU !
There are other members who have taken on the job to make sure that we walk the line ! To them I say relax !! Life is short and can be difficult at times ,we don’t need to be regimented to the max !
Life is not perfect ,we are not perfect ,the site doesn’t have to be perfect ! Does it matter if we don’t walk the line strictly ,sometimes ?
There are many members on here who are suffering loneliness ,depression ,illnesses ,family problems ,financial difficulties , anxiety ,etc ,etc . Let’s be there for each other ! Let’s extend our hands out in friendship …Let’s be understanding ,warm, welcoming , inclusive …
I hope It makes sense what I’m trying to say .

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  1. nmod, you always make sense. Good rules make us freer and safer. Too many rules make us feel caged. Good people don’t need many rules, but some people are up to mischief and lack sufficient respect for others. Which rules are bothering you, because I don’t know of a rule that is bothering me except what type of INFORMATION belongs in the information box, and do comments on information belong there also. It doesn’t bother me much.
    I realize I am just one of about 4000 and I am not in charge and I do get more concern and attention to my issues than I ever expected.
    Have you gone to the idea group and voiced an opinion?
    As to groups, I am glad there are many, but I was wondering if they could be condensed to about 25. Like , I love Canada, Australia, USA, could all go into “I love my country. and we could all learn and post. But this issue is not huge.

  2. I’ll be honest. I have only once felt regimented in here and I made my point quite forcefully yo Rob. To be fair to him, I think he took it on board and I’ve never had a problem since.

  3. You’ve chosen the right words at the right time Norma. Thank you for that. Rules and regulations, I think where ever people come together, talk to eachother, live a certain amount of time together, have fun together, they are needed.

    ROB’s basic idea is great and the job he is doing is great too but none of it would work as well as it does without R+R.

    What I’ve noticed during my time here is the fact that some members confound the subject of a discussion with the person who writes it. Quite often I found personal frustration in the lines written. It’s my nature as far it concerns my person to tell those people off cos they crossed the line you mentioned

    No I think we all should value eachother and we should make combined efforts in treating eachother with respect.

    In this case Norma; value and respect are enough and no more rules and regulations are been needed for a joyfull all together.

  4. I’ve been rumbling to myself here , a bit like “thinking aloud “we could say .
    I feel a bit frustrated sometimes that if I want to say something , not necessarily a complaint, just a simple comment on something I have to find the right group to do it ,and with so many groups I wouldn’t know where to post it really !
    Sometimes I feel that we put more emphasis on making sure that the site runs like clockwork than we do in the human side of it .
    Again I’m just talking about how I feel , it doesn’t mean it’s happening ,it’s how I perceive it … I’m trying to think of ways I / we could be more appreciative of the time and energy people put into the site and also of ways I / we could be more aware of the emotional needs of our fellow chatters.
    That’s all there’s to it ,really …rumbling to myself aloud ,so everyone can hear !

    1. nmod, You wrote a blog and I wrote a blog once when so many changes had been made that I could not navigate the site. I learned to navigate and the changes were good, nmod, do you know about the “Ideas group” and can you see a change that would make you feel better
      I do think that all who complain need to have a solution in mind that is legal and possible and within the financial needs of this site.
      When I first came to the chat room, there were some crude and rude encounters, and I just ignored them and they just stopped. Some of the members were kicked out because they were a menace to others, but I did not complain to anyone. I never talk to anyone who is gross and vulgar. Some tee heeing about a favorite
      topic of some if fine with. What is gross and vulgar is a matter for the monitors and they do a good job.
      There are all kinds of people here some are recovering and some are disabled and any of us could be recovering or disabled at any time. I wake up at 4 am and it is quiet time and I drink my coffee and get online and sometimes I stay on too long. The online community is here when no one else is. I am no different than a whole lot of other people.
      I hope we can all make the site better and all enjoy it forever. If I live to be 90 or more, I hope that I can still come here and mingle.

  5. There is absolutely no need for you to defend anything you post here,( within the lines of decency anyway), and as for feeling restricted, you’d first have to care about a stranger’s opinion in order to feel insulted or offended by some reply that may be posted. That is useless. Nothing on this internet site can effect you in the least, it’s fluff. Now if you CHOOSE to ALLOW yourself to indulge in feeling these negative things, that’s your own personal property and you will own it and deal with it as you see fit. We do nothing without some form of “pay-off”. It’s not always a positive pay-off either. Perhaps you might try resolving not to entertain any attachment to strangers on the internet. Step back and realize how strange it sounds that one would be so emotionally involved with an internet web site. Seriously? Really? That’s sort of odd when you look at it for what it really is.
    I have nothing to say about the way the site is structured, it works, it accomplishes the goal and it’s not mine so I have no control nor do I desire any. I am, frankly, puzzled why this is an issue. But then I do not invest emotionally in anything so that may answer that.

    1. True words , it sounds ridiculous to feel attached to people we haven’t met .
      It all comes down to our own emotional state , I guess I need to balance things out . Thank you .

      1. Nmod, rather than add much of my own thoughts and feelings, I simply wanted to quote what you said, and make a brief comment.

        “There are many members on here who are suffering loneliness ,depression ,illnesses ,family problems ,financial difficulties , anxiety ,etc ,etc . Let’s be there for each other ! Let’s extend our hands out in friendship …Let’s be understanding ,warm, welcoming , inclusive …”

        “I thought ,I would like a place to say hi to no one in particular and have someone answer back , to make some small comment on what’s going on in the site ,have a little joke and just move on …”

        Just wanted you to know that I felt better reading your blog. Your words exemplify what this site is supposed to be about, and I thank you, not criticize you, for them. (Please don’t allow a few negative comments convince you that you were wrong in any way.) Don’t change who you are!!

    2. tessa, I agree with most of what you said, but I don’t agree with not getting attached to people here. We all need to remember that the people here are real or should be. We talk on the telephone, and we don’t doubt that the people are real. We can choose to get close to people or not, but I was strengthened from the character and caring, and common sense of many people on this site. It restored a lot of lost faith in people.To be needy is not a weakness, it is just being human.

  6. I find myself “rumbling” more and more as the years go by…It can be quite embarrissing in mixed company….fortunately,if one is alone,a slight move of the torso sideways,and a relaxation of certain muscles allows the rumble………..erm…Wait !….I think I might have gone off topic somewhat…Better read Norma,s blog again…brb.

  7. Good blog nmod. I was a premium member for 3 years. I like simplicity, that is why I am a free member today. I like to read blogs and I appreciate anyone posting them in this general area, because it’s the only place I can see them.

  8. Fair words Mod but I think categories are necessary,not so sure about duplications though.From what I`ve seen its a simple thing to pick the categories one likes and join that group and save having to go through 104 of them.I think with the amount of groups it shows the range of interests by people in SC and the diverse likes all of us like to either visit or participate in.Its entirely our choice.

  9. The quality of the input defines the quality of the output. The more meaningful the brainwork of the member is, the better are blogs and comments.
    There have been lots and lots of words made about * how a side should be designed * on here in the past. To me and just to me SC is nearly perfectly designed. We have the categories, we have the groups we can make use of if we like and want. We have plenty of room for our moods, temper, comments, critics etc. etc. but it is up on us to fill the space with life.
    But in fact as I’ve noticed by myself as well as with other members it is getting harder with the time to find interesting topics to post.
    And I think some people are getting frustrated if they only get a handful replays to their postings. That’s a fact which can’t be changed by ROB, that’s not his job. I think he was more than fair of getting us involved in some changes and decissions concerning the SC. What else do we want more??

  10. I thought ,I would like a place to say hi to no one in particular and have someone answer back , to make some small comment on what’s going on in the site ,have a little joke and just move on …
    Two new groups have been created one for any bright ideas we might have ,and the other to vent our discontent . Neither of them serves me right now, because neither I am discontent nor I have any bright ideas to contribute to the site. 🙂

  11. I missed the site to vent our discontent. I don’t have any pressing issue, but I want to use the PROPER forum, now nmod, I can see some frustration and like you, I just do a blog, but I stepped on toes and I am concerned if that was the right thing to do.