Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger) but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.

And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience help to create who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

Make every day count!!! Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

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  1. starlette

    All great advice there Tania…….. a lot I can take on board but the forgiveness bit not so sure………if someone has wronged me in someway I will not let it make me bitter…….but would I want to be friends without that person anymore, it would have to be a nooooo……….but the speaking to strangers rings true for me this afternoon………just leaving a supermarket café with the fella when a women sat on her own spoke to me…….she said I have been watching you……..yikes lol……she went on to say how refreshing to actually see people talking to each other instead of their heads buried in the mobile phones……. I told her this is one of my pet hates……mothers who bring their children into cafes from school, plonk them down with a crappy meal and never converse with them at all, just grunt in answer to any question from their kids, mum is too busy with the phone glued to her ear to enquire about the child’s school day……couples… words exchanged….staring with glazed eyes at the screen of their phones……the art of conversation is well and truly dead amongst many…….

    1. tania Post author

      Thank you, starlette, I hate mobile phones, everywhere you go people are glued to them. It is refreshing when you actually see people talking, in my case not a lot of my friends have mobile phones, so we do talk to each other face to face.

  2. ellen13

    After my loss more than a year ago I always ask this question, “Will everything really happens for a reason?” Thank you for the answer Tania. Your advice touched my soul!