The picture in my head……
Are times and images best remembered as they were?………for the last few days I have been somewhat disturbed, the reason being a name from the past appeared on Facebook, I cannot say a face, because this is not the face of the man I adored and lusted after in the 80s……….daily I look at this face of a white haired old man, try as I may I can find no semblance of the dark haired broad shouldered man I once knew, the one who oozed confidence and knowledge……..its been ten years since I last saw him, we exchanged a few polite words but I was not on my own, it was apparent the chemistry was still there, but our relationship all those years before had been passionate but volatile, jealousy on both sides………we all age and maybe he would no longer recognise me, but I sooooo wish I hadn’t come across his picture, I would have much preferred to keep the image of him as he was in my head, that was the one that took me back to the past and made me smile………now the new one has taken its place and stolen my memories away……….feeling sad……
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Better reality than fantasy, Star. Nothing can take your memories, but if there is to be a chance for now, or tomorrow, it needs to be based on reality, not memory
Your right of course Way……..but somehow a fantasy world is a more exciting place to be in………shattered dreams…oh dear…….but hey !! my real world is ok….not complaining….
Know how you feel Star…Tomorrow Im going on a trip,,,a reunion…will be away a week or more…anyway…There will be some ladies I havnt seen since high school 60 or more years ago…I recall lusting after them mightily…Just gotta keep in mind ,they are silver haired grannys now…..I will wear an ID tag,coz I aint a dark haired,broad shouldered hunk any more. 🙂
Well the thing to do Capps is to call them all sweetheart or some other term of endearment, then they wont think they have become unrecognisable and you just cannot put a name to a face………even the ones you lusted after…….and I have no doubt they will still know you from your charming cheeky manner……have a great time anyway, and I would love to know how it goes, your feelings and thoughts……..please put pen to paper and write a blog on it……
Cap, I went to my friend’s high school reunion and He saw the girl he was crazy about 60 years before. She was still pretty and she was nice but she was very ill but I was pleased that he liked nice people way back then. I don’t know how I would have felt if she was on the market.
some of the cheerleaders still had good looks and greater bodies, I think they may have stayed active. Maybe you will blog and tell us all about it.
Starlette, first, I understand what you say and feel. Sometimes our feelings confuse us, but they are real. Second, you are lucky to have had a broad shouldered, dark haired man to lust after, many never get that privilege. I think you and I have had romance of several kinds. Everybody here has gotten old, but some of us lived a rich, full life and some of us still are. Now, star, down deep somewhere aren’t you glad that you look a lot better, if not it may come later.
I saw a childhood sweetheart, and he still looked good, but he lived way down a road with grass in the middle and only one other house. I have been in huge cities all my adult life, so who knows? Memories can be strange.
Hi Rose, well yes I guess you are right, I was widowed at a very young age and never chose to marry again although I could have, was asked twice by my hunk., when he was in his first marriage and again when he was in his second, but good sense prevailed and I knew it wouldn’t have worked, a partnership has to be based on love and trust, needs more than just lust and passion……..I have been lucky as to always having had good men in my life…….and the odds and sods in between lol……….do you mean look a lot better as in physical looks………noooo never……turn the clock back for me anytime…….20 years will do…….not too much to ask is it………lol
Hi Star,Hope you continue to have those fond memories from times gone by,we all have them and to look upon them in a mature way I think we realise it was but a stepping stone which made us the person we are today.Lust is good,happy memories even better these days.
Hi Sylvestercat……..well I sort of thought I would always know him if we happened by chance to pass in the Street, he doesn’t live a million miles away, but now I know I wont……..so will have to try and dredge some memories back for old times sake….
Star, I hate to admit that I still wonder about that one guy that I still continue to adore (I wouldn’t say, lust)… even after all these years. I haven’t seen Greg in decades but do see photos of him in Facebook. His sister added me as a friend in FB … thus giving me some peeks at the one man I will never forget. I adored him from the moment I spotted him while I was in high school; he was a senior hunk and I was a meek, freshman mouse. I don’t think he ever had an interest in me. I’d run into him at different places and he’d never address me ~ years after that time I spotted him. Such is life. I still ‘wonder’ what if. You should continue to hold on to your fond memories, Star. We (well, most of us) all have them. I don’t think he’d recognize me if he were to see me. I was a mere 100 lb. shrimp who has blossomed into a 145 lb. tamale. I do think of Greg often; my husband knows about him; it doesn’t phase him. lol He thinks I’m nuts. I’ll post a pic of him for you, Star.
Hello Pam, I suppose in a way its maybe the unattainable that is the challenge, and its ok to muse away the hours thinking of what if, good that your hubby accepts your fantasy guy from the past, i had a long term relationship that went kaput cos he knew of my hunk and always thought he came second best……but no regrets on that one, never mentioned him to my current long term man, this man I trust and he is my rock….would love to see a pic of Greg…….
Good morning Star,
excuse me of taken your words for my answer:
daily I look at this face of a white haired old man, try as I may I can find no semblance of the dark haired broad shouldered man I once knew, the one who oozed confidence and knowledge……..
Have you asked yourself what inhis life had made his hair grey? The burden he had to carry through his days has shrinked his shoulders and his life was just to much for him? Life gives always reason for this or that and as you say in your language; life is not always a bowl of cherrys.xxxM
Hello Michael, no I have never asked myself that, I just assume its the natural aging process and that he hasn’t aged to well…….but then again it could have been the days, weeks, years he spent yearning for his lost love ME…lol……oh well…..xxx
Starlette, Men get much more attached than many of us women realize and also me lose potency in a way that women do not and for some men this loss of potency is a loss that is almost unbearable. Pam and Star, to treasure what we now have is what we need to do if possible. Many women are alone and not by choice.
Star we all change – get older. There’s no control over it, nor in the way it changes us. It always comes as more of a shock when you haven’t seen a person for years rather than seeing them on a daily or weekly basis. Living a life with friends and loved ones you slowly morph into your older selves and never notice the alterations of time.
The same person is still there though, part of the younger man he was is still a part of him now – that’s the sad thing about growing older: all the younger versions of yourself are buried. But I bet if you talked to him for long enough you’d still see and hear the younger man you once knew.
Hi Owl, yes on a daily basis we don’t notice the changes in others, in ourselves we do I would say, physically anyway, and that’s the bugga about the ageing process, because I would bet diamonds we still feel the same in our heads as we did in our younger years, more tolerant and wise now, but the emotions, feelings and humour as always is still there…….. if you were a sentimental sop then you will be more so now, or if a grumpy moaning type of person, more so now………that’s what I find anyway……but of course depending what we have had to tolerate in life can change the person you once were……..
STOP PRESS !
I,v had to cancel my trip..Hotels ,Planes,dinners etc.
My housekeeper ,Jenny,Has come down with some sorta gastric flu or summat ( I took her to the doc,s yesterday).
She needs to be nursed..Looked after..
There,s nobody else to help her.
I know she would help me if I was crook.