THE NEED TO TRUST
Trust – a comparatively small word but with a huge amount of meaning. What would life be like if we never trusted anything or anybody. Would this be a very detrimental thing or a definite case of self preservation ? We have all meet individuals who are referred to as ‘ trusting souls ‘. The very phrase itself suggests a certain amount of naivety or lack of judgement but is it really better to place ones trust in our fellow man or should we only trust ourselves? Speaking personally , I always tried to give everyone I met along life’s journey , the benifit of the doubt but , as time and time again , this trust was undermined I finally came to the sad conclusion that the only person I could trust totally was myself. Is this a sad and cynical outlook to have ? Maybe , but all I know is that decades ago it worked for me and continues to do so up until this day. I am sure others have a very different attitude towards the concept of trust and I am equally certain it works for them. We all of us have to find our own path and long may we travel it.
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I to always used to give people the benefit of the doubt where trust is concerned, but it has been proven and speaks for itself in many cases. Lies , deceit, its a hard one, and not one I am willing to trust that same person again. They will fool a lot of people, but will not fool me again. Very good blog Scorpio
Thank you gran. It’s a great shame our lack trust in people is engendered by their actions but this is just a sad fact of life.
Yes Scorps, its a part of life and you live and learn !
Agree wholeheartedly gran.
Trust cannot be given, it must be earned and once lost it can rarely be recovered.
Very true way.
Hello Scorps…….I am afraid I am very cynical of trusting 100%……..the older you get, and the more people you meet it becomes even clearer you can only really trust yourself……people put their trust in Doctors and they fail many……..people put their trust in the police, very often to be disappointed………workmen and companies who say they will ring you back re complaints……they don’t…….trust no one that’s what I say….lol…….even families…….a loathed saying…..Blood is Thicker than Water………Piffel……..oh Dear……am I full of hatred and bitterness…….not at all……..just keep the armour around you…..
Keep carrying the shield girl ! ?
It’s a sad fact of life that you simply cannot trust everybody, I guess it is a matter of keeping faith in those around you, but regretfully even that can backfire, so be aware, very aware!
That’s very sound advice drummer.
I simply don’t trust a word u wrote but hey don’t trust me
trust is not earnt
it is freely given it is a choise we all have
the wise may trust well the gullable not so
to trust only yourself means you are untrustworthy yourself
I trust who I wish and live with my choises
Everybody is obviously entitled to their own opinion , that is why most civilised people favour democracy. Deaks , I think you have a rather warped view as a whole but , when all is said and done , that’s just my opinion.
Personally, I think that giving your trust is leaving yourself open to exploitation. It’s a lazy way to not invest time in familiarizing yourself with the other person. Everyone has flaws according to your idea of perfection, either reject those people or deal with the flaws.
With this online stuff, it takes more time. It’s like being at a Halloween party with everyone wearing a disguise; what’s real and what’s not.
That makes a lot of sense davidrv.
u trust only in yourself
and u say im warped
u say u belive in democracy
is that not trusting one system over another
u put ur trust in more people than u even realies
do u drink the water from ur taps that’s trust
I could go on and on but ur ignorate so I wont
And you can’t spell ? and now deaks , as unfortunately I’ve given into the temptation of coming down to your juvinile level of comments , I will enter into no further discourse with you on this or any other subject except to say I’m glad I rattled your cage. Adios Amigo ! ?
I think trust has to be earned, Scorpio, that is what I feel anyway.
no I cant spell and u cant think
I like it down here
uve rattled nothing
its all just a game
in the end nothing realy matters
He76r45n
Good blog.
I tend to trust until it proves misplaced!
It always hurts when shown but I believe what goes around comes around.
Karma is a great equaliser.
I agree with you tania and he76r45n I’m a great beliver in Karma.?
Haven’t seen so much interest in blogs for years – if I were to try to summarise all of the blogs thus far, I would just say be very aware!
Of course we trust things like the water we drink, we have no choice- oh yes we do, we can drink tap water or bottled water, depends on which one you trust the most.
Trusting people is a different concept. When we are young and naive we trust almost every thing, but as one goes through life with people you trust letting you down, whether it be within families or friends, heartbreakingly, trust becomes a difficult thing. I have trusted family and friends only to have them kick me in the guts for their own personal gain. Therefore trust is something I am very wary about. Great blog Scorpio – certainly stirring 🙂
Many thanks foreveryoung ?
Trust is often broken when we are but children, think of Santa Claus, then the tooth fairy, and so we then start to doubt, what is the truth? Small white lies, porky pies and then whopping lies. So our trust is tried and no matter how we try to give a reason why, we deep down carry doubts. Let us not mention the hurt caused by this. Yes we are asked to trust but as life teaches us be very careful in whom you place your trust.
Wise words indeed mint.
I think there are levels of trust. For example money. If you have met someone new recently you might trust them with giving you the money back if you buy their meal or train ticket when they don’t have the money. You aren’t going to give them your life savings to invest in a bakery in the Sahara (Even if you do love cakes like me). So to me trust is an ongoing thing where you are continually evaluating how much trust to invest in someone. When trust is broken i relationships I think it is very hard to regain. We are at the end of the day all human and none of us is perfect. I could not live without trusting anyone to some degree but anyone who abuses my trust will not be in my life that long (will they Brian?). Good original blog Scorpio, thank you for making me think.
Thank you for your comments catlady , much appreciated ?
trust is simply a choise
u make ur own rules to it
maybe based on your lifes expeience who cares
once uve made a choise live with it
don’t bitch or cry oh I trusted them they let me down
u made the choise take responsablity for it
I agree with much of what everyone has written here. It is something we all have to work out within all our contacts with others. Like so many others I like to give people the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. Of cause in different relationships, the degree of trust needed is variable. I would say that the greater the degree of trust given, damage to that trust is more wounding and final . If complete trust is given and then broken by one of those involved…….the harder it will be to restore and I should say that full trust can never be restored. The trust of daily social intercourse, we have to roll with the punches and let it go, sometimes people disappoint. Often they disappoint because we expect too much perhaps. If as an older person I can be cynical, I would say that the older we get the more we realize that we are truly on our own. We enter life alone and leave the same way so the ultimate trust we must have….. is trust in ourselves.
I’ve been pleasantly surprised as I never expected so much interest to be shown in my blog. Thank you all for taking the time to put your thoughts on paper , as it were. ?
Think its fair to say Scorpio we are all a bunch of cynical, distrusting little Buggers……
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my own personal thoughts and how I deal with trust is I never blame other people for my choises in life
and I will never let the untrusting taint the beautillfull joining of one or more people in trust
I wont let the untrusting win its as simple as that