The Emptiness We Feel When Our Friends Leave The Site .
Oh ,dear today I’ve found out that Lani has left chatters ,and I’m devastated !
Not to see her around anymore it’s a huge loss !! Not only to us her friends ,but to the whole site !
She has put so much work and energy into the site …I’m shaken to the core .
It makes me realize how easily we take our friends for granted ! It’s not until they are gone that we realize how valuable they are ,and what a big void they leave behind as they move on !
A huge loss not only to me ,but to many of us I think !
nmod I was found that how Lani I left for the SC. The times I read her posts and blogs and her way her deft to with craft of work, it just go that you come to end of all her work has finished, I see must a load of work that can get to the end of Lani, no touch she will in by other than e-mail or even by keep in phone of her personal friends, best hope she best in touch.
I have myself are not the best of times, in these times of trying with my own words in articulate, as in another word of saying I’m not a full tea set, hahaha, but I am trying to we can as we best. I takes an awful long to make my sentences to write.
All for best to Lani and loads of wishes
I’m so glad to hear that even when it takes you a long time to put the sentences together ,you still try ! Good on you !” NEVER EVER GIVE UP ! ”
You will succeed !
Thank you for your comments , much appreciated !
You done well Ted keep at it
Very glad to see you back Ted and wish you all the best.
Had no idea Norma, quite shocked me as well when i scrolled down and found out just who had left, and to be quite honest, i’d be very interested to know why ?.
And Ted ?, you do what Norma here tells you my friend, and stick at it, you’re doing fine mate.
Have just had an hours chat with Lani on Facebook…….think the time zone got in the way of her having any real time chat on here, but she loves everyone on chatters she tells me….just thought I would pass this on….xx
I’ve just found out about Lani…….I will miss her so much.I thought she was taking one of her little breaks…I have grown to respect Lani as a colleague and fellow Chatter…love her way with words,her humour,her way of getting on with everyone.And I love her as a friend and a confidante and a strong,caring woman.I have Lani’s contact details and I’ll be in touch today. Sorry if this is rushed and emotional.
And Ted……..well done, we all care about you and are looking forward to hearing more from you! And thank you for telling us about Lani
Xxx
Please pass on to Lani, my love and hugs… and please ask her to come back to the site. She is such a loving and caring person, and is greatly missed here. Hopefully she is just taking some time off and will return soon. xx
Lani’s departure is really a great loss to SC. She gave so much to the site through all her wonderful contributions as well as her extraordinary kindness and generosity to everyone.
Maize, Lani has asked me to pass on a message to you, she said ” Tell Maize thank you for being her friend and she has had so many messages on facebook she hasn’t had time to answer them all, she only left this site as she needed a break and she is fine”…
Gran, thank you so much for this,I’ve been in touch with Lani. it was kind of you to pass on the message
Xx
I just finished a chat with Lani on FB. Ohhhhh so sad!!!! She was one of the special ones here on SC and her presents will be greatly missed. I am at a loss for more words as this hit me hard!!!! I say “three cheers” to Lani and thank you for the wonderful memories!!!!!
Shocked!!!!!! Lani’s contribution to SC will be greatly missed. Gran please give Lani my best wishes xo
Will do forever xxx
I respect Lani’s decision, but I am hoping she will reconsider. I know she had a problem with the time zones and no one can change that. We do have shout and you can post and wait and we do have groups. I hope she finds that she was getting a lot more than she realized and she certainly was giving a lot more than she may have realized. We need Lani, even if she doesn’t need us. Boohoo.I need Lani, Boohoo.
That is absolutely no nice message you have for us Norma. So sorry for Lani but she did manage this prob. very vell in the past??
I think we all are going to miss her a lot. Michael
I never said much to Lani when she was on here but i always read her blogs and enjoyed everything she posted. Yes, the time zone’s are a problem with some of us but as Rose said there is always shout but even that isn’t everyone cup of tea, least it isn’t for me any more. I dont know where the fun has gone on here? when one gets bored, one flies the nest!. simple as that. I hope Lani comes back one day, if not we can always meet again on FB which i have had the pleasure of doing so already. I have a feeling more chatters will leave here because all the best ones are leaving and i suspect its not all due to the time zones. jmo. 🙁
Please come back, Lani… the site will not be the same without your kindness and positivity.
Please come back to S.C. We will all miss you here. Like Rose said there is shout and I never use the chat rooms here and have made friends without the chat room. So do hope you will come back and will see you on facebook . 🙂
I will miss Lani’s input into this site a lot….she did so much here. I am a friend with her on FB so I hope that I will not lose touch altogether, such a special person and friend…..Take care Lani and I hope to see you back here xxx
Anyone who is on Facebook with Lani, please express how much we need her and how sad and shocked we are.
I can understand that some people need to take a break once in a while, but I can NEVER understand why they would delete their membership. Can anyone explain this?
Everyone has his/her own reasons for leaving. I’m sure Lani did what she thought was best for Lani. There are always arrivals and departures.
Pollypie i somehow thought Lani was a lifetime member but she was not, she paid yearly, so maybe she though best to delete it……..but let me make it clear, she didn’t leave because she could not afford to pay, she liked to go in the lobby for chat, but as she explained because of the time zones she didn’t get to chat with who she liked to that often, so maybe she thought she wasn’t getting her moneys worth…..i suppose if she had been a lifetime member she would have remained as a member, and just popped in whenever………xx
Yes , I agree that everybody have their own reasons for leaving ,and that there are always arrivals and departures !
What shocked me personally was not only that Lani had left the site suddenly ,or what I thought it was a sudden departure ,(apparently others knew of her intentions ). But also at how hard it affected me !
I know this is just a chat site and people come and go , but when we are here for some years as I am and Lani was ,we get to make deep connexions with each other , even when we have never met face to face .
I surprised myself at how real this cyber friendships feel to me ,and at how deep the sense of grief and loss when someone I appreciate moves on !
I even shed a tear or two ! All is good now ,life goes on !! . Thank you for listening ! xx
A Message From Lani :
thank you so much for your kind words Norma , and would you be so kind to say thank you to all the other Chatters who have been so kind as well. i honor there friendships and most i will be in touch with on f/b……. there was no upset, I left becasue most of my friends have left and all on facebook now , the chat rooms wer almost always empty my time zone and I ,love to chat one on one, with friends. thats why I joined Chatters,, I was not a alife member just an annual one , i never quite decided why i chose not to become a life member, but one must make room for others……. i will cherish the memories of all my friends on Chatters.and for the boys there i will be keeping my eye on them , ha ha … so .. with tears in my eyes i say adios.. we will meet again one day …. thanks for the memories…xxxxx
Looks like I,m gonna have to join Facebook….never wanted too and hoped I didnt have too…Oh well…here goes !
Nah ! Changed my mind…Gotta gut feeling on this ,that Iv learned to trust.
Haaaaa capps, you will never hang yourself, we don’t bite on Facebook ya know….xx
There are a lot on face book now who prefer to chat one on one. Each to their own .I do not use the chat rooms here as I always appreciated the one on one chat.
To be honest, I am not connected to facebook or any other social networks at all. Facebook is storing to much personal information and, we have a hard trial here which will go to the European court too, cos FB is selling all these information to firms and security organisations round the globe.
That means there will be no chance for me of talking to Lani again. But that doesn’t also mean I would not remember her. Michael
Have known Lani for a short time only in the chat rooms and always found it a pleasure to have a chat with her about any subject and we always laughed.Its sad to see her go,I think she was a very important link in this international community we all enjoy in various ways…..will miss you Lani tc…sends hugs.
I am sorry Lani has left. She was one of the few nice ones left. There maybe more i dont know. I have also considered this face book place and it does seem to have more benefits, especially the fact it is free and you can choose who you want to speak with and who sees what you write, which is preferable to so many on here, and a big fault of this site. as everyone sees what you write wherever you write it. even 121 isnt private. or your supposedly private messages, so i can understand so many members decisions to leave here and go solely on face book.
I am going to miss her so much! I really enjoyed her humor and grace.
Blessings you Lani…Be well