the cool spot …..
Last evening I went into a familiar place and found something interesting. A spot that was once described as being friendly, safe, and welcoming had been segregated into a separate location described as being for the “really cool people.”. naturally, not being cool, myself, I chose not to explore. And, upon review….. it does occur to me that if a place needs to be described as being for “cool people”, then it is likely —not. It is fascinating to me, especially, that upon general entrance to this spot that only one other uncool person remained in the main area with me, and that a bulk of folks had then proclaimed themselves as worthy of such a title and were gathered with others of their like kind. We quickly became aware that we had become the WalMart greeters of the place, directing the cool people to where the gathering was held. my only hope is that some day I might be as cool as them……
P.s. using this kind of forum as attention seeking behavior towards welcoming married men is NOT cool in my book.
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Catalpa, I agree with you entirely, but I am also confused. Was “the cool spot” on this site? I guess I am uncool, but also think it is just so uncool to label oneself. Is this High Schoolish or not?
Yes, rose….. gone now….
Catalpa it really pains me to see the fun last night could have caused you such unhappiness. You see, in my book, it is a given you are a “Really Cool Person” just like ALL the SC chatters are really cool people. No one was excluded or divided out except in their own minds. I certainly had no intention of making anyone think they were considered not cool. YOU ARE ALL COOL HERE AT SC!!!!!!!!!!!
We have an option to open up our own chat rooms in SC and it is often done to add a little spice to the mix….it gets the creative juices flowing and adds a little topic of interest. None sense names are used….. Twilight Zone is one I recall and some others. Perhaps my choice of names was lost on some as they do not realized I consider all the SC chatters as “REALLY COOL”. The opening of another room is just another way to have fun in SC. There was no password and all were welcome.
As you noted Catalpa, the vast majority of chatters went into “Really Cool People” understanding they were welcome. I am not clear how that converts to seeking the attention of married men. Personally, I don’t believe marriage had anything to do with their choice of chat rooms but perhaps you are right.
I apologize to anyone on SC who doesn’t realize they are cool. YOU ARE ALL COOL. Let’s try to work with each other and not jump to conclusions. It’s already been brought to my attention the story has expanded to where the reported name of the room is now “ONLY FOR REALLY COOL PEOPLE’ That was NOT the name. The room’s name was “REALLY COOL PEOPLE ROOM”. It’s this sort of expansion on the original purpose to bringing to everyone’s attention how cool they are that makes an act of love into an act of segregation.
Thank you for your response Frankie,
I certainly wouldn’t say that you have caused me any unhappiness, possibly rather disappointment.
With regard to my own cool factor, I’m pretty sure you dont even know me well enough to draw that conclusion–however thank you nonetheless for your accolades. The room likewise thanks you for your inclusion.
I completely understood that I was welcome in the room. I chose intentionally not to go into the room because it speaks poorly of sc that such a place was created, leaving others who entered at their own wits, and to the mercy of my lack of gracious welcoming.
My question to you remains…. why did u create the room?
See earlier blog where this question was fully addressed.
Yes you mentioned adding spice, creativity and juices….. that’s terrific. happy people. Clearly its my flaw for addressing concern/ enjoy your exploits!
Bravo for you Frankie,, For clarifying this non-sense issue,, Is bad publicity for S.C.
I have been debating whether I should add anything here as I am quite new and have not been logged on that often or for very long. Obviously, the creation of the “REALLY COOL PEOPLE ROOM” has created controversy and I don’t believe that it was the “creator” intent. I also don’t believe that it was the intention to exclude or offend anyone.
I find people in our days to be quick at jumping to conclusion and to judge others. I have been thinking about this since I first saw the blog this morning and I admit that I was not surprised, but disappointed. All I can say is that I was in for a little over an hour and nothing detrimental was said about SC members and the members in the Community Room. Now, because I was there, I am unsure on how I will be judged by others and what will said about me.
I have been in another senior chat site about a year ago and left because of all the politics, divisions, misunderstanding and infighting that happened. I took my time to choose this site and become a member and I do enjoy this site and so far anyone I had the pleasure to meet. Let’s keep it that way for everyone to enjoy.
Good to have input bigblueguy, neccesary froma newbies point of view….
Frankies ;NEW COOLROOM” would be the most welcoming place knowing Frankie ,she is ajoyful , friendly person and likes a littlefun as most do ,it,s nice to sometimes find the kid or the teen is us sometimes and i am sure this new room will be a huge success. xxx
Id give my left cojoni to have a really cool room at my place…even with fans and both air cons going flat out.its just bearable….(Phew ! )
AHHAAHAHAHHA CAPPUCCINO
Hi Cat,I`m sure you would have been made welcome in the Cool Room,it doesn`t really matter what the room is called,it just shows some innovation and imagination and some fun.I`m not sure if I`m a Cool person but I would have gone in there and felt comfortable as i`ve been known to wear odd socks,wear clip on sunnies,have small paint spatters on my shirts,don`t mind watching cartoons on TV and read MAD comics in public,if that makes me a Coolster then bring it on.Seriously though Cat,the people are the same whichever room.
surely if the sc members used the normal room properly and treatd everyone equally there would be no such need for a COOL room whatever that is supposed to mean lololol Too many people with ego,s bigger than themselves is the main problem but anyone who wants to be cool are welcome to it. At my age i like to be able to enjoy lots of different things and just remain normal but obviously some ppl on this site think they are better than others, so Cat keep plugging away for normal everyday users of sc and let the rest do what they want
MY oh MY, Never Realized by opening a Temporary Room, Automatically gives ones self a EGO TRIP and made you BETTER than OTHERS, Sorry you missed out on all the FUN Cefnrider, Hopefully next time we will see you there Cefnrider?, Would you like for me to send you a E-MAIL next time?, So you wont miss out on having a EGO TRIP and being BETTER than OTHERS???
grow up then skylerlulu lol if you dont think people open rooms for themselves and then you need to quickly lol as for you sending emails i know exactly where you can send it lol is this a yank thing again lol
perhaps this them and us is the reason very few use the site anymore, just a thought
If, as suggested, we are ALL cool people, why open a separate room? A sort of tautology, surely?
We’re all over 50, is it not a bit sad to label yourself as cool (baseball caps back to front??).
More in sorrow than in anger!!
I’ll lumber on, secure in the knowledge that all the “cool” were spawned by the Community Room, and their coolness must obligate them to defend we ordinary mortals from all slings and arrows (even cool ones!).
Would that be Planet Pluto or Planet Mars you reside on Cefnrider?, Oh also, If you could be so kind and include the E-mail Address of the Rock you crawl out from under daily, So has i will know EXACTLY where to send E-mail to, Also since you live in CYBERSPACE, Could you be so kindly and explain what a Yank thing is, I live on Planet Earth, You ever heard of Planet Earth before Cefnrider?,
yep your sounding more like a yank everyday skyler lol lovely big words but in reality completely meaningless. keep going because that is the most stupid comment i have ever seen on a blog
Help!!!! it,s Christmas, Rob,s rules be curteous and respectful to one and other…..
Everyone is welcome to visit the :coolRoom: an inovation to brighten up the site a little , not segregation…
Come on enjoy the Christmas spirit.
think i,ll have a glass of spirits now to lift my spirits after the personal abuse over a chat room, put your party hats on and party folks , be thankful we are all here to enjoy wonderful friends….. xxx
Aren`t we loosing sight of the forest for the trees here,the name of a room means nothing,nobody is excluded from entering any room and no credentials are needed to go wherever we like on this site and enjoy one anothers company.
Thank you so very much Sylvester, Bravo for you sir,, Yes i know i got out of hand,, Now i suffer the consequences,, Only i am gonna stand up for my friends through thick and thin. But this blog should have never been written.
Defensiveness brings out ugly things in people. Perhaps its true this blog shouldn’t have been written. Perhaps I’m being dared to names, and events–which I won’t. None of us like to be criticized, but cruelty is yet another thing–yet however, as the saying goes, you can’t unring a bell.
Sylvester, it was never a question that acceptance was an issue. I know very well that if id chosen to participate I would have been welcome. I also know first hand there is a desire for less monitoring and more freedom to speak loosely. Ive witnessed women going after men here while their spouses were in the next room soggy from chemo, morphine, and sweat. The women need the attention, and so do the men. Its destructive, yet I worry its the men who wont be able to live with themselves in this scenario. If we are friends, we need to protect each other.
Ive also been a recipient of peoples needing attention. People, long time members, who seek intimacy but can’t leave their life. Having had to leave my life twice now, I find this method of coping cowardly. There is a reason people sign out when their spouse enters the room.
Sky, your words surprised me, and disappointed me. Possibly she is a lucky woman tomjave
(oops) to have such a defender, but had you been mine–I would have been horrified.
Cef….. no more yank references, please. We are really tired of apologizing for that….
my apologies cat
cef, Just call us a jerk or worse, but some of us thought you liked us. Make a constructive criticism and we may shape up some. A
What are cool people? What’s the difference between cool people and me??
I’ve never met a cool person in my life.
Being cool means to me to act considerate at the very moment, not losing the head and run into panic. As long as I’m with SC I’ve never heard that critical moments have occurred in the chat rooms? Something new, someting strange to me.
I am totally amazed that this is still going on. How old are we, seriously? My though is that this is a “chat” site and was created for people to meet other people and chat as long as the rules are observed and members are treated with respect. The “why” members are registered to this site is their own business and if they go over the line, I am sure they will be banned.
This has been blown up way above proportion, becoming personal and people will end up getting their feelings hurt or worse, leave this site. Things are being said in this blog that should not have been said and is directly pointing at members that have done nothing wrong, not right, not fair and it should stop. Some opinions should be kept private.
This is time to put this “beast” to rest. There are only 2 more days before Christmas , time to be happy and enjoy the holiday, not bickering at each others.
Cheers
I could not agree more bigblueguy, your words say it all…. This blog has become so spiteful.
Let’s be thankful for what we have….. it’s Christmas….. why don’t we spread a bit of cheer in here instead of being at each others throats.
This is getting bigger than Ben Hur.
Sylvester — I might be off topic here, but your mentioning Ben Hur reminds me of a joke I read in the Boys’ Own Magazine while growing up in England.
Apparently this man named his cat Ben Hur, but later found out the cat was a male, so had to rename the cat Ben Him.
Before we have had various rooms, giggle, think, party etc, Some people felt challenged by the think room. Now we have a cool room and it was not a judicious choice, So we need to be more judicious, I like the community room and that is why I came, but if other people want another room, it needs a name that will not make the community room an denigrated room. Create rooms, flirt and carry on, I don’t care, nor do I need to know. For the good of the site, just be judicious and adult. We are all over 21 here. What is done in private should stay private.
If I crucify myself will you people get a life and let it go?
Well said Frankster………………………………