Recently Maize posted something on the Group Thoughts for the day about sisters. It got me thinking about my relationship with my siblings. I am the eldest of three one sister one brother. I have always got on well with my sister but my brother who is the youngest is another matter. Being the baby of the family he has always been allowed to get away with a myriad of misdemeanours. Although 6 years younger by the time he was 10 we were the same size. From that age he coveted everything I owned those items which I would not let him borrow he took without permission and those he couldn't steal he would find someway to destroy. I know my parents didn't like what he did but they never punished him and in some cases covered up for him. An example of this was when I first started work earning money. I wanted a brown leather jacket it cost £20. At the time my pay was £11 per week it took me 10 weeks to save the £20. I was so happy when I walked out of the shop with it in my bag. A few months later I was posted to another station and left the jacket at home. That was the last I ever saw of it for 20 years. My mam was going through some old photos and there it was on his back. I said to my mam that's my jacket she sheepishly said yes she remembered she told me your brother took it and got paint down it and thought it best not to tell me. A small thing you may think but that was just one out of hundreds of examples I could name.
One would think as he got older things would change and he would grow out of continually wanting what was mine you would be wrong. Even in his mid 50s I have seen him gazing with envious eyes at something new I had acquired.
Am I bitter about my parents letting him get away with so much, no, am I bitter about all the things he has done, no. What I am is disappointed that because of what he did I just don't like him.
Sad I know but even 40 years later the incident with jacket still rankles one day when I get really old I might punch him on the nose and say that's for stealing my brown leather jacket.
He will always be my kid brother and we will get along fine as long as we don't see each other.