I finally made a resolution to be happy in the coming year. That is what it is all about. I don't know how many years I have left but in the coming year I will think more about being happy. What makes me happy and what make you happy is something we need to think about. Maybe there are some who are as happy as they can be and they could share what works for them, but many of us are not so happy as all that and we could do a better job of being HAPPY.
Most of us have limited resources and other issues and we have a lot of negativity to overcome, but in spite of all that we could try to maximize our opportunities to enjoy ourselves. There is an expression, "Eat, drink, and be merry", well, we are missing the "MERRY' part. If you like to sing, sing more, if you like to dance, dance more, if you like to walk or run, do it more. Those are free and available to all except the people who are incapacitated. So, enjoy what you have, there are people with less and many manage to be happier than some others.
Gratitude plays a big part in being happier; using and appreciating what you have is what we have to do. When we were younger we could look forward to bigger and better and more, but that is very unlikely now, though we could play the lottery if that would help to make us happy. Indulgences are fun, but over-indulgences will destroy any happiness so learning to live within our limitations may be what is necessary for happiness. What is left?
I still will resolve to be happier in 2018. I love to make my family and friends happy. I am lucky that way so I can do more of it. I have learned that moving more makes me feel better and gives me more capacity to do what makes me happy, so I need to do more to be happier. I have also learned that the nicer I am to people, the nicer they are to me; that doesn't mean that I will give all that I have to needy people but it does mean that I will try not to needlessly cause grief to others and that if a kind word will help; I will hope to find a kind word and say it.
Some believe in Karma, I don't. I do believe that many things have a BOOMERANG effect. What you throw out there comes back at you. Anyone who wants to be happy will avoid doing anything bad that will come back at them. I am lucky in that I never had deep stores of anger or resentment and I never thought that being hateful or spiteful in word or deed would make me happier. I live in a free country and I figured that I was entitled to the "pursuit of happiness" and I still think it is my job to make me happy. I don't expect Santa Clause to make a miracle or me each year. I don't get angry at others for not making me happy, so I don't need to be angry and revengeful.
What makes me happy may be very different from what makes you happy, but gratitude, sensible habits, and kindness and respect for others seems to be a part of what makes us all happy. I will try to wake up every day with the thought of what would make me happy that day, knowing that it is not always easy. I am not happy in dirt or clutter and I like good food and I am capable of cleaning and cooking so some of that has to get done, but I do have a lot of time left and so I have a big job to do things that will make me happy and most of it all comes down to making better choices and getting the necessary things done and separated from my free time to spend as I choose. Happiness is also a state of mind and so I need to keep my mind in a state of positivity and focus which isn't easy. I still resolve to be happier this year and I need hope and optimism which will be a challenge for me in my country. I will need a strong resolve to stay focused on being optimistic and happy in the coming year.
Being happy is something that cannot be taught and you have to look deep inside to figure it out for yourself. Waiting for the next life does not work for me and I don't see it working for anybody that I know. I have noticed that some people who are the happiest love to work, I like work less every year so maybe you can see that being happy is not easy for me when I know that the process has many challenges.