I was thrown into the task of making determinations about people at a young age. At first, I lacked confidence, but grew in my reason and logic. I made judgment calls that were likely far beyond my level of experience, but eventually I grew comfortable in this role. As I gained experience and years, its likely possible that I became good at it.
I've spent much of my adult years working in health care. I've evaluated peoples abilities to make decisions, and their performance in maintaining productive lives. Frequently, amidst turmoil, the critical questions need to be asked: do you know who you are? do you understand what's happened to you? do you want to live this way? in a health care setting where life and death issues are faced daily, certainly such responses are of the most basic level.
But all of us confront such issues every day. They may not be life and death. Possibly they have culminated from relationships or experiences. Some are wonderful, some are systematic, and some are painful. All of us have been following a path, and all of us are going in a direction. We see things that trigger reactions, assist us in our choices, and direct our future. At times they can feel random and illogical-- but ultimately we are the sum of all of this. Do you know who you are? do you understand what's happened to you? do you want to live this way?
I've had some good conversations with my daughter this morning, and we both were able to exchange thoughts to this regard. No secrets, we shared what we have become, and why we are who we are. We have discussed our responses to major life events, both good and bad. Reviewing such things adds clarity to our existence, purpose, and I'm grateful that at her young age she understands this. But mostly, it became increasingly clear that we do have some hint of perspective. I continue to learn who I am, as does she ; I seek understanding from my life. I'm grateful for the direction its gone, and look forward to further episodes in years to come--as well as the ability to re evaluate, reflect, and live in the present with hope.