People in there senior ages

I can’t understand quite how seniors are become so nasty and mean when they are in a chat room ,is it becasue of an unfulfilled life they have had so Far?
or is it they are bitter becasue htey tied to some one the are taken care off?
in any other event it makes no sense to me at all, to be nasty to another person who comes to a chat room.
if you so unhappy with you’re life why dont you do something about it instead letting it out on others.its not there fault, and it is not that you an senior but act like a schoolchild attendant….
you are seniors why not Act like it jealousy mean and ugly remarks is this your life now?
talk behind people back and make others think this or that person is no good ?
look in the mirror and if you in fact a Christian?
who are You to put someone other down?who are you to make others think the way you think is the only way?
be positive and not negative maybe your life will change and if it does not i think you the only person to be accounted for that no one else.
its a shame so many feel the need to fallow a person like this . positivity always over turns negativity …
its called the power of positive thinking…..

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  1. Yes,, I so much agree,,,, It is sad to see chatter accuse other chatters of being,, “Gay” ,,, or,, “Bi-Polar”,,,or ,,, “A dog in heat”,,, Even claiming,,, Certain chatters to be Easily influenced by other chatters,,, The audacity of this chatter is UNBELEIVABLE in its claims of many,,, Everything you have mentioned is so true,,, Even the part where you say,,,, “If they are unhappy with their life”,,, “Then do something about it”,, “Instead of letting it out on others”,,,, Well said Sarifa,,,, The whole blog,,,, BRAVO for you

  2. People are people,and yes it’s not nice to be nasty to others,,,,,but you can’t change other people,you can only change your self,if they want to behave in that manner,their isn’t much you can do about it,no matter what you say,unless they are open to change and recognise that they need to change,you may as well bang your head against a brick wall,….concentrate on all of the lovely people here,and enjoy the site,…

  3. There are many people who come onto chatters with sorrow. Some have lost loved ones. Others have terminally ill partners to take care of. Some are lonely, while others are angry and tormented in their lives. They have come here to find friendships, or to have someone listen to their cries. It is fine Sarifa to want positive thinking, but it is not always easy to find when one is suffering so much.
    You many think it is easy Sarifa for others to think like you do, but this is not reality. We all come from different walks of life. What we can do for those who are hurting is to show more compassion, and more understanding. It is called empathy.
    Writing a blog about people being nasty in the chat room , does very little to help those in need. It just shows how some people do not understand when others are hurting.

  4. Sarifa, I am sorry that you seem to have encountered a lot of negativity. I almost never have. I have been amazed how polite and caring most members are and I try hard to meet a higher standard myself.

  5. Sarifa i am sorry also that some seem to feel the brunt of others who have so much unhappiness in their lives with problems of their own and cant talk about them,this does no tgive them the right to disparage others , but i feel for them just the same …what makes them that way ? well many reasons ,unhappiness, illness, overworked and overtired caring for aothers..I have never encountered any of these negative responses from chatters, love them and possibley take some time in every day to let them all know i care ,all the good and the cranky one.s …
    if I hear any gossip i politely say bye everyone catch you all later and leave there so I don;’t hear anything negative.. not a cop out ,but more of an example to show i dont need to listen to it …. no audience … no gossip… no audience… no critiscisms, empathising with others wether theya re in a good mood or a bad mood .. walking beside them not in their shoes. their shoes don’t belong to you helps to understand where they are coming from…….xxx have agreat day evevryone xxx

  6. All of you have given good and logical answers to that topic. But what seems to be
    logic ( conclusiveness ) to us must sound illogical to those who can not leave their skin.
    Out of the cognitive psychology it is far more easier for people to think and to be negative instead of being positive. Why?? Because to be negative takes less effort out of the brain to be positive.
    For people who get stressed by the points afore-mentioned by Lani ( in my eyes she is absolutely right in her analysis ) means a shower for their soul by hurting other people in words or doings .
    The straddle of this medal is simple; they will isolate themself in the short run.
    And that is good to know.
    But another point worries me more than that. Shouldn’t we all discuss more sophisticated theme,s of life than jokes in the blogs? Spoken for myself I see in a blog a far higher aspiration than a place for jokes and gossip stories?
    Why? Well we have so many intelligent members here who like to discuss serious matters on a higher level whereas they deliver beautiful English humour in their
    comments. Reading this, any kind of bad mood will get brushed away like the dark clouds by the wind.

    1. The only thing you got right in your reply was……….”But another point worries me more than that. Shouldn’t we all discuss more sophisticated theme,s of life than jokes in the blogs? Spoken for myself I see in a blog a far higher aspiration than a place for jokes and gossip stories?”

      The fact is that is exactly what Sarifa has tried to write. The blog is a joke and gossip.

      The very fact that she is complaining about the chatters, may well be because she has little grasp of the English language, which is shown in her writing.

      This often happens in chat rooms when she “misunderstands” what some people say, she then takes it personally and there is no need for it.

      Sarifa constantly says that people who are unhappy, bitter and nasty should do something about it. She obviously misses the reason why people come into chat, very rarely does anyone complain about their lives. Most come in to chat and have a laugh, to be happy. We do not want to be told about the life of a self centered person who only cares about themselves.

      There is only one person who has isolated herself in the short run and as for….
      “The straddle of this medal” What does this even mean???

      I have never seen you in a chat room and I have been a member for over 2 years so, how can you say….we have so many intelligent members here who like to discuss serious matters on a higher level whereas they deliver beautiful English humour in their comments. Do you even realize that this is an International site for people around the world?

  7. Safira everyone has problems one way or another but there isnt any need, as you rightly say, to take out ones problems on another person by saying nasty things to them or about them or joining in when others do that. I agree with what you have written.

  8. Sometimes very good people on this site are treated badly and this of course is a great injustice. There are other cases however where the person crying foul is actually the one who has been arrogant and offensive to one and all and is now simply reaping what they have sown.

  9. Well I did answer Skinners blog last night but the blog seems to have been removed, anyway I will repeat what I said, I popped into the lobby last night, something I very rarely do, a friend and I were having a bit of a one to one conversation, but answering others at the same time, nothing wrong in that you would think, not so, apparently we were using it has a dating site…………oh yes I am going to set up a date in full view of everyone, Lmao, what utter dribble, never read anyway where fun was not to be had in the lobby, or that this self appointed chat monitor could dictate what we are allowed to talk about……and I might add that he does exactly the same when his female admirers are present……..I will chat to anyone about anything, will follow the fun or have a serious conversation………but for gawds sake, there has to be a conversation to join…it is a chat room after all…….. we all have our own little spaces to type in……..so cannot see how it can be infringing into anyone else’s space..is there any wonder that people are leaving the lobby and gathering in the giggle room…….and yes Michael I agree, serious discussions and debates I enjoy too………maybe a separate room for these Rob.?

    1. Star the room for that is already in place. It’s called the Think Tank. So far it hasn’t been used very often for the purpose, but if people could begin to do so, that would be a very positive step.

  10. funny this blog coming from you…. I recall the conversation where you made fun of the homeless, stating that they live in “cardboard condos”. Such compassion…
    And may I suggest you invest in spellcheck?

  11. these blogs really bring out the WORST in EVERYONE. Nobody looks good. The ones who are hardly EVER in the lobby chatting have the most to say. If you showed up and participated, you might see things differently.

  12. I want to take a moment of your time to string together a few ideas presented here and ask you to think about it.

    If you expect people to react negatively to you, they probably will. If you sow negative seeds, why are you surprised when you reap a negative harvest?

    It is an appropriate behavior to occasionally vent problems and you have a right to expect some sympathetic ears. But if you are so wrapped up in your problematic life that there is room for nothing but your problems in the chat room, don’t be surprised if people have a negative reaction to you. Negative seeds, negative harvest.

    When people react negatively to you, try looking at the only component you can change, yourself. When you walk in on a negative situation in the room, decide if you are truly qualified to judge. Do you know all the past and present facts? Doubtful. What change do you have power over? Do you want to be part of the problem or part of the solution?

    Remember the saying “Never argue with a fool. Onlookers might not be able to tell the difference.” –Mark Twain And that makes me a fool for trying.

  13. Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring…. Some of them love us dearly…. Many of them have good intentions…. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world, force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness…. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us… And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else…. You have to make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend/s, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself. Loved your blog Safira and didn’t have a problem reading it hun…

  14. Polly you are so right about toxic people. And, you may notice, the room has a way of isolating toxic people. The process may be painful for SC but things tend to work out in the end. It doesn’t matter that the toxic people blame others for their isolation. What matters is the group dynamics work.