Never judge a book by it’s cover……..

Never judge a book by it's cover........

Was just replying to Gaels blog about good manners and mentioned my grandson.... " The Rock God "..............if we judge people on their appearance he maybe the least likely person who you would think was courteous, polite and had good manners......... but you would be so wrong........which brings me to the we judge people on their is a pic of my daughter and grandson on his graduation this year, has his own style as you can see........but was a windy day......only wore the cap and gown to please his mom.......

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  1. tania

    I do not think we should judge people by their appearance, Star, everyone appears as they want so who are we to judge? I never pass a beggar in the street without giving some token as that person could be an ex – Forces person down on their luck. I like to treat people as I would like them to treat me….who knows what other people think about us and our appearances???

    1. starlette Post author

      Tania I so agree, but sometimes takes maturity to realise this……..and yes, I always throw in the hat, especially to the street musicians……..xx

  2. roseinbloom

    We do make judgments about people by their appearances; we must. When we need directions, who is likely to stop and help us. The best dressed are not usually the ones that will help. We have to keep a safe distance from people who look scary, and so it goes on. Artists and performers know this very well and choose a style that will increase their following. I had to meet a friend of a friend and I was well aware that my appearance would create an impression so I put on some good black slacks and black top then threw on a big old hooded red sweatshirt and asked my friend how I looked and I heard a loud gasp and a small voice. I was playing a joke. I changed into a proper jacket and the meeting went very well. We know that clothes and appearances matter. How do you know a person needs money, or may be homeless? Appearances only.

  3. starlette Post author

    Thankyou Rose, was my grandsons graduation…….I remember when my children were small, in my naivety I would cross the road to avoid passing anyone who looked a bit dodgy or not quite ” normal ” needed to protect my children from anyone who may cause harm…… times changed, my career was in managing homes for people with learning difficulties, the very kind of people I would cross the road to avoid………my grandson was involved in many events, holidays and trips out with the people I cared for………..hence the well adjusted young man he is today who treats everyone as equals……….

    1. starlette Post author

      Hello Michael………yes read all the book first……..then make your judgement……in other words……..get to know the person first…

  4. Gael

    Star, most people do but we should know better. And many of us do.

    I never get annoyed about the extreme styles out now for I recall very clearly being in the US during the 60s hippie period. I walked about barefoot through Greenwich Village in NYC with patches and all sorts of wild clothing which was the fashion at the time. My mother used to pull her hair out but I wanted that look!

    So to me it’s all about the outward and I’m more interested in the inner person. Style is just And while it may reflect values and outlook ultimately it’s surface.

  5. starlette Post author

    Same as the people at the music festivals Gael, allsorts of weird and wonderful outfits……….but what a great bunch of happy people……..dress is an individual choice….would be so boring if we all looked the same………and it is an expression of your personality……..xx

  6. vonMichael

    Hi Star,

    garments don’t mean anything to me like cars or houses. Cars and houses mostly belong to the bank and not to the person.
    But the eyes and the mouth can’t be separated from the person. Material values often are the perfect costume for the character of a person. xxxM

    1. Gael

      If you don’t think apparel sends a message about material values, then think again.

      Many judge others by the quality of the clothes they wear and categorize a person’s worth that way. It’s the quickest way of pigeon holing and judging a person.

      Clothes may not mean anything to you, but they do to millions.

  7. starlette Post author

    So true Gael, but so wrong………..many eccentrics have pots of money, but you would never know by the way they dress and live……..and many people ooze style and money, very often dressing to snare a victim, but in actual fact they don’t have a bean…………so clothes do not always maketh the man……..xx

  8. Gael

    When you have money you can either flaunt it with your appareal or not. When you don’t, many try to create an illusion. Either way it’s an image that is being projected by apparel and the world reacts.