Mistress Stars agony help column………I’m Listening…..

After chatting in the lobby tonight I asked for some ideas for a blog……….something a bit of the beaten track, Pass came up with the idea of an agony aunt blog………………..so here I am, waiting to offer help and advice on your problems…………..do not be bashful, nothing will shock me………after all I have been a member on SC for nearly two years………be it emotional or physical, all will be answered in a sensible straight forward manner, and treated with the upmost discretion……….yours sincerely
Mistress Star….

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    1. Really prefer to use my own capp………..I know where they have been……..plus I like the pink fluffy cuffs the best…….just a women thing you understand……xx

    1. Dear Lani, search no more my dear , I can take on any persona to order……..be it friend, counsellor,confidante, dominatrix………….tis the cyber world you see….xx

  1. Dear Mistress Star,
    I am wondering if you could help with the chat room. Do you have any words to newbies that feel uncomfortable and feel like no one likes them? It is hard not stepping on some people’s ultra sensitive toes.

    Yours,
    Passy ( a long time chatter)

    1. Dear Passy, being a newbie is tough, first venturing into the lobby can be a daunting experience……..it appears that everyone knows everyone else and what is happening in each other’s lives………a newbie stands on the side lines……..my advice to the old timers is to welcome them with a greeting, as most do, try to draw them into the conversation, although this is sometimes easier said than done, as very often there are multiple conversations in evidence, some people, such as myself are ultra sensitive, my advice to them is to hang in there……..it will quickly become evident the chatters that you feel comfortable with……..and these are the ones you will form a bond with………we are all different with varying personalities and characters…….just have to seek out likewise people………..other than that, all I can say is toughen up and grow a pair…..hope that this advice has been of value to you Passy…….Mistress Star..x

  2. And here indeed lies a lost soul, MR JOHN. W. HARDEN no less…….many times I have reached out to him offering help and compassion………but alas……..I was shunned and cast aside……..but I am nothing if not consistent……and will continue to reach out to him……..he needs my help……..he just doesn’t know it yet……..Yours Endearingly Mistress Star..xx

    1. Well if it isn’t my favourite nephew Michael…….how are you my dear……..so nice that we have made contact once again…….now if there is anything that you would like to share with your auntie Star please feel free to do so……..chocs, icecream, sports mixtures………i am partial to a bit of beefcake and eye candy too..xxx

    1. Dear Woodsie, i will be delighted to be your aunt……..i have no magic wand, so cannot make problems disappear………..but empathy and a good ear i do have….xx

  3. Dear Mistress Star,
    Some friends of mine had a fallen out in the chat room. They were good friends before it happened. They use to laugh with one another, and play funny jokes on people in the room. They to me, had a very special friendship being that they were across the pond from one another. They both are lovely people , but have strong minds, and are set in their ways( who isn’t at our ages). To me , it is a real shame they no longer talk. How would you get them to rekindle their friendship? For some , it is easier for them to say, I am sorry . Others, feel they done nothing wrong.

    Very sad to see…..

    Passy ( still a long time chatter) lol

  4. Dear Passy, saddens me to see this happen, was there a third party involved who contributed to the fall out, were words misconstrued and taken the wrong way,……maybe Passy it is possible for you to talk to your friends individually and try to find out precisely what happened to cause the fall out……..hopefully it will be possible for you to act as the mediator………being strong minded and being stubborn are worlds apart……..would be a real shame to let pride and stubbornness spoil what once was a fun relationship………hard to believe that something that bad had happened that It could not be put behind them………..me……..I would take the higher ground and offer the olive branch……..good friendships are hard to find………..sure one of them may see reason and contact the other……….but at the end of the day Passy you can only do so much…………..good look with that one my friend………and they are both lucky to have a friend like yourself who cares about their happiness..xx

  5. Dear mistress Star, Where do I begin. I have a friend who can get out of control from time to time. I do have another friend who tries to hold the reins too but at times it seems like a useless task. Any suggestion..Thanks

    1. Dear Debbie, does this friend of yours put a smile on your face, does she make you laugh, if she does, then i would say that her causing you a little embarrassment occasionally was no big deal…….as for your friend……..tell him to ease up on the reins………encourage him to release the wild beast inside of him ……unleash the Wallaby………..advise him that there is much fun to be had, and to enjoy it with wild abandon……..tis indeed a fruitless task trying to keep your friend in check……..just aint gonna happen………..yours Mistress Star

  6. Dear Mistress Star,
    I decided to go into the giggle room yesterday. It was the first time I was in that room. I said Hello to Everyone as I normally do when I go into the Lobby. Nothing, not a word, or a hello to me. So, I waited a couple of minutes, and still…No one said hello. I said, well it looks like I am not here, and I logged off. I find this all very RUDE. I am wondering if there was anything else I could have done or said to have at least one person say hello. I didn’t expect them to stop everything and roll out the red carpet for me, but a simple Hi would have been fine. I find it very perplexing.

    A very perplexed chatter.

    Passy

    1. Yes passy and seems that they either don’t want to chat or they whisper amount themselves.room is definitely as it used to be .As for unrest I think there could be !!

  7. Dear Passy, i find this state of affairs to be quite shocking, you should be able to move from room to room as you wish, this cliquing of chatters which appears to be happening is not the way to go…………i am assuming you have not personally had words with anyone……..if so, and this applies to anyone who has………this should be sorted out in private,,,,,,sides cannot be taken, just because one person has fallen out…it is not the done thing to shun everyone who that person chats with………i have seen posts popping up all over the site regarding this problem…………i have seen newbies bowing out who have only just joined………bad news that………been in chat a couple of times in the last few days and have found myself in the middle of world war three………….Passy i can only suggest that if this happens again just ask if anyone has a problem with you…………anyone that does should have the bottle to say so………then maybe………just maybe……this can get sorted and the air cleared……..xx

    1. Thank you Star. No, I have not had bad words with anyone who was in the room. I haven’t been in chatters for over a month…so I was a bit miffed and surprised at the cold shoulder I was given. There seems to be a lot of “unrest” in the chat rooms. Maybe it is the summer heat? Or maybe people are just not in the best of moods? In any case, I think I will keep my toes, and nose out of the “cliquey” room. xx

  8. Dear passy, I was in the giggle room, I had stepped away as the phone went, I can assure you nobody was ignoring you, sometimes it has happens to me ,your a lovely person I shouldn’t think anyone would ignore you intentionaly please don’t think that! the giggle room is exactly that..a giggle and I find that its a lot friendlier in there,no arguments, no stupid silly sarcastic comments, people multi-task and I seen a few saying hi to you ..but u had left…its not a cliquey room at all,hope to see back there, I miss our laughs, your friend cath xxxx

    1. Thank you Cath . Someone suggested that maybe I was not showing in the room, or I was “frozen.” So, I will leave it at that. Thinking good things about the room, instead of the negative. I am glad to hear the giggle room is fun!! Wishing you well Cath. xxx

  9. Star,
    I wish more people wrote to you on your blog. You really have some very insightful things to say and suggest! Thank you for this blog. I appreciated it.
    xx

  10. Dear Passy, thankyou, and it looks like your query has reached a satisfactory conclusion via the blog, many thanks to all who contributed,………..may you continue to enjoy many happy hours of chat, in both the Giggle room and the Lobby……maybe the Think Tank if you have your studious head on……..wellll !!……. I was kinda hoping to get some fruity problems to solve..hehe…….not to worry, there is time yet…….on the other hand, tis good that people appear to have no problems….oh!! if only……

  11. Dear Auntie Star, I do have quite a fruity problem. My apples are mealy, my strawberries are tasteless, the tomatoes are wilting on the vine, and the bananas are brown and limp. As you can imagine dear auntie, of most concern are the bananas. Please help! I rely on your wisdom.

  12. Dear Laurie, the strawberries and apple can be made into pies, the tomatoes into soup………but I do understand your concern about the bananas………..a brown limp banana is not a good look, could be a bit off putting……….you wouldn’t want to put your mouth around that…………could try packing it in ice…..would return it to its original stiffness……if not more so……and that would be a bonus……..the colour…..try peeling the skin back real slow……..should do the trick…….if not, I would suggest that you go in search of a new banana plucked freshly from the bough….do enjoy……Yours Mistress Star….x

  13. The little blue pills could be dissolved and the said banana marinated in the liquid overnight………worth a try…………but me……..nah…….I would go for the fresh one …..

  14. Dear Annemarie, do not spend any time googling it, such a word does not exist…….but as you know a Plantain is a banana, a plantation where lots of banana trees are grown,,,,,and a planetarium a building where images of planets, constellations and stars are projected……..just thought I would create a new word………. and who knows, it may find its way into the English Dictionary……..you cannot fault a gal for trying to get projected somewhere…

  15. Dear Star, Yes I have been to Panetariums but didn’t know that a Pantain is a banana. I did know what a Plantation is as I have visited one down in Mississsippi once. Star wish you much success with your Agony Help Column. 🙂

  16. Dear Annemarie, them my column is educational too……..but you should know, I have the biggest Biggest World Power Dictionary sharing the sofa with me………not that clever….lol xx

  17. after i spent 2 years here as a premium member for my own reasons i chose not to renew this but did think i had made a few friends but soon realised that the list was just that, i left with no byes and no contact since even though there was and still is a way to at least say something here on the blogs.
    So aunt in reality the answer finally came no such thing as a real cyber true friend so here and in every day life its a lone path.
    Steve.

  18. Dear Woodsie, do your friends know how to make contact with you, the blogs page is just for the writing of blogs, it is not for general communication between chatters, perhaps there are other means of keeping in touch, Email, Skype, Yahoo I’m sure your cyber friends would be willing to do this…….the cyber world is a very complex world, but i do believe that friendships and bonds can be formed, and with perhaps more people than in the outside world, we all come in here for varying reasons, and lots like yourself looking for company……..I’m not sure how you can make contact to give people your contact information, don’t know if you can still write on their wall…….but i am willing to be a go between if need be……..hope this has been of help to you Steve……….please take care…xxxxx

    1. Dear Star, If they were friends would they not have asked before i went. But i did leave a contact email add. but that busy body from NZ. removed it soon after i did have one person make contact and very nice it was but she was not one whom was claiming to be a friend just a very nice real person.

      1. Dear Woodsie, did the people you wished to have your email get the chance to note it before it was removed, it could have been removed in your best interests, people come in at different times of the day and could have missed it, and there is always the possibility that your friends in here may have thought it a bit forward asking for your personal details,
        Woodsie, why don’t you give some consideration to returning to SC, after a bumpy start you seemed to have settled in well, and you obviously did make friends in here, we get different things from different people, we all have something to offer…….the more friends you make the more you will find your needs met ,we cannot be all things to all people……..just find someone you gel with, and new chatters are joining daily……..maybe some new friends amongst them……give it another go Steve……xxxx

      2. Woodsie this “busybody from NZ” was making sure you weren’t breaking any rules…you were here long enough to know publishing of personal email addresses is a no no and your profile could have been banned from the site for breaking that rule…:-)

  19. Hello there, Star!
    Obviously I am waay behind on my reading. Just wanted to make note of the fact that I hadn’t read what others were saying, but I published it.
    Great job here, will try to stay on top of my reading. Thanks for all the time, and good will you put into doing this.
    geo

  20. Dear Mistress Star
    I have a question for you…nothing of a personal nature….but a hypothetical one. I f you had it within your power to change one aspect of human nature -and one only, what would that be and why?
    Regards
    Oz

    1. Dear ozzy, now you have set me a real poser here, but wouldn’t be like you to make my life easy would it ?………..I have tried to define between aspect and characteristics……..going for the characteristic……….and I think it would have to be greed, it has so many connotations…………a lot of crime is committed because of it, wars have been started because of it, marriages broken because of it, and not just the greed for material possessions, the greed for more than one partner..i could go on…….but hey ozzybloke……..you could have asked this in a blog………..and got lots more opinions on it………..yours Mistress Starlette..xx

    1. Nope Mr Harden, wouldn’t change one hair on your head……….wouldn’t be the you I fell in love with………now would It !!……….hehe…xxxxxxxxxxx

  21. Dear Debbie, I have a sneakie feelng ……..that maybe……..just maybe, you and our mutual friend ozzybloke have become collaborators in a plot to bring about my downfall as the resident agony aunt………….but for the time being I will carry on regardless…………now one might ask how your butt got frozen in the first instance………but what takes place in the privacy of your home is none of my business………now on with the procedure to get you defrosted………….you should stand in front of the fire with your skirt hitched high……..your butt would be facing the fire of course…….wouldn’t want any singeing going on…….I would recommend that you stand on a towel to absorb the moisture, could be one or two bucketfulls, depending on the size of your butt……..I am sure you will find that very quickly your butt will once again be able to wobble freely, like all good butts should………..Yours Mistress Starlette …..