Meet my puppy Rebel!
After a 28 year marriage, my ex left me for a 34 year old (ouch, yes that hurt). My whole world was turned upside down. I left a small town where my family lived and moved to the city where I work. I had been doing a two hour commute up to this point for 28 years. To say my heart was broken is an understatement. I think I have never cried so much in my entire life and still do but not so often!! I decided to adopt a dog to help with my loneliness. It was a great decision, he has helped me along so much. He is loveable, my protector. Rebel makes me get outside for walks and play. He is always happy to see me after a long twelve hour shift. I send him to doggie daycare so he is not alone thirteen hours. He has made me smile again. So I just wanted to introduce Rebel to the group. It has been just a year since I moved here and I think I am going to make it. I have come to realize that I don’t miss the ex, it was my lifestyle, my family, my routine that I missed. Anyways, a little about me. Still fragile, still healing. Bless you all.
NurseKaren
Good to hear you and Rebel are making it Karen, Welcome to Senior chatters. 🙂
My ex left for someone younger about 20 yrs ago…I,v come to realise she did me a favour… lol
Hi Karen. Just wanted to welcome you to Senior Chatters. I am new to this system also. What you said reminded me of a stunt my ex-husband pulled on me. I, too, moved with him to the town where his mother and father were after we were married and left everything I knew! He would just get up out of his chair and state that he was going to pick up something at the local store. He was in his bare feet. He took the car and drove up to Norfolk to see his sister; leaving me with twin infants and no way to get to work. After about a week passed he would just come back; stick his head in the door and say “It is me”, Numerous times he would do something like this. It felt like physical pain when he left me the first time – I sat in the middle of the room and wailed! Just wanted you to know that your situation could be much worse. Glad you’re looking on the bright side of the equation! May God bless you and your little “Rebel”!
Hi Karen,sorry to hear of your demise of a 28 year marriage but glad you have adopted Rebel as a companion to see you through the difficult time,a seperation always sucks even at the best of times.I have an opinion that there is no end to anything,it is just a transition to another start with more wisdom.From what you say it seems that you have left the starting blocks behind and are progressing to a brighter future,good luck and give Rebel a pat for me.Cheers
Hi Karen, sorry to hear what you have been through, but with Rebel’s help you have found the strength I bet you never knew you had to get you through this terrible period in your life.
Welcome to Senior Chatters
Hi Karen,
I admire your brave approach to life after marriage. I think getting Rebel was a brilliant move and he sounds lovely. Hope you’ll post some more about him maybe with some pics?
I’m cat crazy, and have 4 currently. They give you so much affection and enjoyment.
Hope you settle in to SC and make lots of friends.
Barley x
A whole new meaning to Puppy Love. Good luck Karen. Hope you also get to meet someone who deserves your friendship more.
Hello Karen….well when one door closed for you a dog flap opened as it were……..and yes I think it’s very often the familiar routine that is missed rather than the actaul person,in some cases anyway…..but good luck to you and your new buddy Rebel…….hope you have the best times ever….
V ery nice to meet you today in Chat… Karen,a new life is waiting for you and Rebel is a big part of this new transistion, I wish you all the best in your new life , I’m certain new doors are going to open up for you , wishing you all the best for a happy new future…..xxx
I enjoyed meeting you and your dog. Whether you wanted it or not, you are in a new city with a new life to make. There may be a meetup,com in your city. It is a place for all kind of groups to learn about each other. There is online dating and almost everyone is doing it. You are still young and I hope you make a wonderful new life for yourself and rebel.
You made a great decision, NurseKaren. I had 3 senior dogs 18 mos ago when my husband passed away. A little Lhasa Apso who worshiped followed 3 mos later. I was totally devastated. Not knowing what else to do, I bought a Belgian Malinois puppy. Suddenly, my home was filled with youth and life again. And I now had 3 dogs again who needed me to get up and take care of them, and all three looking at me like I was God. When we think of what we need, we don’t always think of one of the big ones, that being to be needed by someone or something else. I’m still fragile too. But I’m better. You are younger than me, and still have a lot of opportunity to love again, and love someone better. The man I spoke of was my 3rd husband, and for me he was the perfect one. Don’t know if I got better at picking, or if life always saves the best for last. Hug Rebel, keep going, and someday you’ll wonder what you ever saw in the cheating ass that left you. And you’ll probably get a good laugh when the 34 yr old dumps him. Unless he’s a millionaire, these young ones always do.
Your words prove that you stronger than ever…even if you may not quite realise it yourself yet.
Animals are very intuitive and can tell when we are in need of attention.
P
I feel for you very much and have an indepth understanding because I too faced rather a similar ordeal………….first in a marriage that went pear shaped(at 22) and secondly, when at 42 my health caved in.
As a nurse I was always only happy when working long and hard….. helping and reaching out to others in need.
My dogs…..a Pembrokeshire corgi and a miniature wire haired dachshund have proved my saving grace………………….. but very sadly both have passed away now but let me assure you…………………losing one`s stalwart canine companion is far more heart breaking than losing that man in your life!!!
Three cheers to Rebel for helping you and lifting you out of a deep black abyss; may your destiny be to be together,enjoying each other for a very fruitful future..
With love from K.o D.x
I have to agree with you K.o.D….Iffen I was given the choice of having my ex or my Polly (A crossed many times terrier) back…Polly would win hands down.
Welcome to the group Karen…I am a dog lady too….My old guy Scooter was diagnosed with cancer at the first of the year and had to be put down on June 15….I have another dog Minnie who was a stray that showed up on our front porch one morning 2 years ago and has been a part of our family ever since…..And on September 1 of this year Roscoe was adopted from a county shelter to be a buddy for Minnie…I love watching them play and they keep this old lady busy and very happy all day while hubby is gone to work and plays golf….Hope you are enjoying chatters and make lots of new friends….Susan (msscooter)