Is This It? The New Site?
On the old site you could chat to people easily, this site seems to be a forum for serial friend gatherers. What is the point in having 200 odd friends, it is just plain silly and the site is set up to further this nonsense.
I have had a seies of folks, ladies mainly, who post me multiple friend requests even though I have an explicit message on my profile saying folks with over 30 or so friends will be rejected. I reject them and the next time I look, they are back, “Will you be my friend?” NO!! Cant’t you read or take a hint?
If this is the new Senior Chatters I think I will not be bothering.
Mikemagic
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lol mike you are right!!! I think some are going for the world record of collecting the most friends haha!!! funnily enough i was just saying this to one of my ‘friends’ exactly what you have just written about!!!! spooky or what?!!!!!!!!!!! Infact….all of the friends i have i speak to at least once a week in some form or another…oh… by the way….do you wanna be my friend?!!!! (only kiddin’!!!)
Mike and Pollie…..no, no world records going on but when you use the chatroom every day as many of us do we make friends and we wouldn’t want to leave any of them off our friends list. If I understand it right we also need those people on our list to be able to chat privately to them. If not there as a friend, then no private chat. It’s really all about choice and if someone has 4 friends or 40 friends so be it…..we’re a friendly bunch…lol By the same token.,..if you don’t want someone on your list just hit reject….no-one is going to think any less of you if you do that.
I agree with you faye I haveover 100 friends some I talk to regulary and others just now and again. there nothing wrong with having loads friends
Rose
I am not trying to win any world record or anything, I was just trying to be friendly. Delete me if you wish. I thought I was doing the right thing so no one felt left out. I was wrong. And I apologise for being friendly.
grandmaj you have a lot of friends here since you have been on this site. I would not delete them because I do not think you are looking for the worlds record. I am glad to be your friend and so are many more.
gj I count you as one of my many blessings on this site thank you for being my chatter friend xxx.
Ma I will always be your friend, I wish I lived nearer you I would have loved to have been able to meet up with you for a bevvy….
lots love Rose(pauline) ((((hugs)))) true friend xx
I don’t think any of us are trying to win a world record, I just didn’t want to lose the friends I had made on the old site – it may be a security thing knowing some of the chatters, I don’t know, and probably we first to reregister just went in not really knowing what to do and clicked on those we knew, as I said, not wanting to lose them. It doesn’t matter to me if I have, as Faye said, 4 or 40 friends, just as long as I know someone to chat to, someone whom I have met and felt comfortable with. Having said that, doesn’t mean I don’t want to chat to everyone. So far all I have chatted to have been great people and I’ve enjoyed the chatting. Hang in there mikemagic.
I just thought by adding new ones was the nice thing to do. As they are new I thought it would make them feel welcome.
mikemagic, my thinking on this new site was to include everyone as friends. I have made some great friends here and have the opportunity to make more. No doubt as time goes on I will be unfriended by some and some I will choose to unfriend. In the mean time I feel it is a great way to welcome newbies, am enjoying pm’s from people all over the world and learning heaps, great people here. My apologies for intruding on your life.
I believe Rob did a good job here for people to make friends and I support his efforts he is trying to do, improving this site.
skippy as I walk down this chatter road i feel its a privalige to make a new friend every day, if I dont have time to talk to all my chatter friends each day I will hold them all in my heart and hope that a new friend each day will fill my life.xx
Mikemagic, I think you are loosing sight of the friendships that have developed here. It is your right to do as you please. Just remember that this is a friendly sight. Maybe if you came online more frequently you may find more friends. Just my thoughts, do as you please, it is your choice.
The idea is that you request/accept friendship requests from profiles that interest you. Once accepted as a friend, you will then be able to chat privately to that member via your own Private Chat window (bottom right hand corner). Only accepted friends will appear in this window, allowing you to chat with the friends you want to.
You also have the option of live group chat in the Chat Rooms, regardless of whether members are friends with you or not.
Rob.
Well I dont have a problem one way or another, man life is too short to worry
about something like this and I waish the darn world wantednto be friends with
one another!
Thats all folks!!!
I’ve offered friendship to everyone who comes on here, because that’s what I came here for.
I would have preferred friendship to be the default state, with the option to bar or block if desired. I am NOT a collector, and i don’t care how many befriend or reject me. This site has been a wonderful revelation of the strength of humanity for me, and I want everybody to have the opportunity to share my new-found happiness.
twig
xx
I think the point Mike was trying to make as well, was not to go down the Facebook route. To me it seems ridiculous to have, for example, 900 or more “friends” as people regularly do on FB. They become friends with, say, people all over the world with the same first name or surname !.Lunacy ! With this site being preened to expand enormously, clicking on buttons everytime someone joins and offering to be their friend may seem, and probably is, a very nice gesture, but I feel it could get out of hand . You also have to be mindful of the amount of information you are sharing with a “friend” you may just have added as a matter of course. They could just as well have a free trial time, take every detail they have been allowed to have, from being privileged of a friend status, then it’s thanks very much and bye bye!. That is why I think the Privacy settings on this new site is great but very overdue for some. Friendwise, I personally think its fine if your paths have met in the chatroom, the odd welcome message has resulted in more communication, you have had some kind of interaction somewhere within the site, friend of a friend etc etc etc. However, I think the bottom line is, there IS an accept or decline button and a choice you can make, never forgetting personal security/safety..
I havent really thought much about this tbh…I suppose its up to the individual…I tend to build on friendships I already have…and accept new ones as I want to…I have had a few bad experiences…with the chat box….but I just delete them…we could be missing out on some good relationships if we dont acccept..Oh its choice at the end of the day…..but MIke….just accept who you want…and….enjoy new people…xxxxxxxx M
mike its tottaly up to you who you choose as your chatter friends and I agree with evryones choices for themselves, I feel my life has been enriched by the friendships, the thoughtful reponses , the love that is shown, the campassion when times are a little toughf, the beautiful pics that go up to make our days a little brighter and the music that brings joy into all our lives. not a collector of friends but a friendship of collective caring people. lani xx
well although i don’t often request friendship now i will never reject a genuine friendship request to me, yes they may be here for 14 days only, however that is time enough for us to be able to give something to each other, a bit of understanding, a hug, share a few laughs and when they move on they have taken something with them and left me with some nice memories, I think that is great. Some people come into your life for a short time and some for a long time..all leave an imprint of some kind.
Agree with ustom and Twiz …….
My take life is to short to be snippy…..and for the record I wasn’t one who requested a friendship from you…..I read your profile and grumpy I don’t do!!! 😉
Wishing you the best on the chatters site!
debz
I’m curious, how does a blog from July 6, 2011 get resurrected on February 4, 2013?
Normi…funny. I had not noticed the dates when I first read your comment. We have gone for most comments on a blog…now we can go for most dated blog comments. Having said that…. I add friends if requested but only after seeing if they are someone I want to get to know. I am glad that I have taken a chance because some of my best friends are ones who took a chance on asking me to be a friend.
I think perhaps this is a tie into today’s ‘Chat’ post, but I’m not sure.
i agree about the face book thing, thats why so far on here i just have a few..would hate to accept a friend then ignore them for weeks on end because of having too many..just my opinion..doesnt mean i am right or even wrong
I accept most as friends, if I find that they are not what I would class as a friend then I reject them later when I find them out not to be friends, but everyone should be given a chance that is what this site is for…..
rose
Sorry, what does that mean?