Intuition………how good is yours…..
Do you listen to your intuition……..have you ignored it at your cost……..did you listen to it and was proven right…………is a women’s intuition more pronounced than a mans………I have somewhat of a dilemma at the moment, my intuition tells me I am being lied to……..if I express my concerns to the maybe “liar” I will be told that I have it all wrong and am over reacting…….but my intuition is telling me otherwise….ermm what to do……
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Oh la,la Star has your Intuition brought you into a dilemma? Two reason for that; first you didn’t listen to your Intuition, second; you’ve taken the wrong decission.
To be honest to you, my nose has more improved than my intuition. I ask my nose twice before I take one decission.
You don’t play chess do you. In that game you always have to ask before you do a step; what comes next. In some cases it makes sense to sacrifice the tower to safe the queen.
And at the point of gender distinctions I would say; think like a man, act like women.
Does that helps?xxxM
Michael, please tell me how to think like a man….lol…. if only I could……its not to do with money or affairs of the heart, well not in the deep in love sense……..but the brain cogs are ticking over…….it makes me feel uneasy and I would rather call time on the “friendship” if I had some concrete proof………but I know I can be inclined to jump the gun and assume what perhaps isn’t there…….I guess I will bide my time on this one a little bit longer……..but the intuition nags at me……watch this space……xxx
Starlette, this subject is very interesting and thank you for this blog. I may have more to say later. Star, the one think you know for sure is that trust is gone and this “liar” will not address your concern. I am more likely to conclude that the liar is lying.
When trust is gone, what is left.
A word about intuition, we pick up many clues some conscious and some unconscious and I think that is sometimes called intuition. So think hard about the things you do not believe and then list all the reasons for them. Think real hard. You may be able to make a decision or you may decide you need to wait and watch for more clues.
Never expect a liar to help convict himself. They have done this many times before and know how to avoid detection and confrontation.
Intuition cannot convince anyone of anything, but it can point you in the right direction. Go logical. Why is he lying? What is he gaining? Has he done this before.After intuition comes solid information.
But remember trust is gone and that is huge.
Hi Rose,yes I will list the things that have aroused my suspicions……and I so agree with you, when trust is gone in either a relationship or friendship then it’s over…..I will sit back a little longer……..but the doubts are there, the seeds have been set……ermm maybe they will grow bigger….we will see……
Hi Star, my words written before are hints for the future. The Situation you may are in can’t be judged form anyone outside.
Words are the hardest weappon a person has; they can’t be taken back, that’s for sure.
Each of us can get fooled at any time.That’s fact. I was told; ( you know the Brits have an explanation for nearly everything, ) love makes a person blind, partnership opens the eyes. Eyes, ears and nose, what do we have them for? Rose would say. I guess this point; just for cooking ( I say that with tongue in cheek! ) sorry Rose. Keep cool Star, analyze, come to a conclusion and take a decision. That’s all I can say at the moment, and good luck my friendxxxM
I think once u start to “suspect” in a relationship the trust has already gone. In my opinion trust cannot be regained. I would trust my gut instinct and get rid before facing the inevitable. Just my opinion and I am of a cynical nature, but in saying that …..everyone must make their own decision.
Hi Sunsip, i am of a cynical nature also…….and i don’t want that to make me jump the gun…….well no money and broken hearts at risk so nothing to lose in that direction………just some chats and laughs i suppose……… i don’t want to act in haste and repent at leisure…….but time will tell now, don’t want to spend time with someone i am suspicious of……..
Starlette, My intuition is not good or I am not good at listening to it. I need to do better. I have no way of knowing, but I doubt that women’s intuition is any better than a man’s intuition.
Hi Rose……well just for the record i think women’s could be better……….women seem to know pretty instantly when we are introduced to someone new, man or women if we like them, we get a feeling….i have never heard a man say i am not keen, or i don’t like them on a first introduction…..
Hiya Star, I do believe if something doesn’t ‘feel right’, then don’t do it. That belief has only let me down a couple of times over the years. I think as one gets older, we are better at making a judgement. I think the ladies go by intuition more than the fellas. We tend to be more practical. My wife’s intuition was generally unnerring. Interesting blogg. Regards Gordon.
Hello Gordon, I agree, and this thing is starting to weigh far too heavily on my shoulders now, becoming a bit too mind consuming for my liking, and I think I know the way I am going to go….going to tackle it in the morning………
What sunsip said.
Yes Capps, I am inclined to agree with sun too….
Hi Star,what a bugger of a situation to be in.If the person (liarer)is close to you and it seems that it is then you the (liaree) can make your intuition magnified by watching for changes in body language in your day to day affairs.Just remain cool and watch,good luck and if its fairdinkum hope your not hurt too much.
Hi Sylvester, yes its a tricky one this is, but I don’t doubt it will all pan out one way or another…….maybe not as I would like, and I might collect a bit more scar tissue in the outcome……..but better that than to be always wondering……
Good morning Star;
I would like to help you, if I could. I feel so sorry for that.
You ask me to explain the difference between the male and female logic.
Let me adhere this on an example. Watch a couple when they are on a shopping tour for garments. The male needs a pullover, she needs ( she doesn’t really know what ) The male goes straight to the knitted goods, she strolls along the clothes hanger. He has a clear imagination of what he is looking for, she has no idea. He has a reason for direct buying, she has also a clear reason for not buying. And at this point the female her intuitionist logic joins in. ( Why not, why not now, I have enough but I could do with another one, if I don’t buy is now it could be sold tomorrow, tommorow means an extra drive down town ( what a waste ot time and petrol ) not I better buy it now and safe.
The female rational factor will be defeated by intuitionist logic.
So far, so good. Said is said, and done is done and what are the consequences for you? Learn by the mistakes and remember to say no ( cause it is shorter than yes)!xxxM
Haaaaa Michael you know us sooooo well………. we never just think in Black and White……….and rational thinking from the fairer species………never…….xxx
No Star, not well only a tiny bit. What is a greater challenge, what makes more fun as analysing people.
You know at the time I had to go to China I had to learn to look behind the faces.
Can you imagine, men and women were all dressed up the same way. There name wweren’t an identifying feature ( they all were Yu, Wang, Wong, Zi a.s.o).
So what to do, that was the question?? I tried to notice their habbits thy showed in talks. But that didn’t get me any further.
So I asked them for things which had nothing to do with the talk itself. And; they had to ask somebody else ( means they came out of the second row ) but they were important.
For today, many men don’t know to dress themself, they have to ask for and take their womens opinion into consideration. At this point I feel allowed to ask
that questions; which is the strong gender?? Any answer would in a case like this would make me suspicious! Please don’t ask me why.xxxM
Hello Michael, without a doubt I would say women are the stronger sex, mentally anyway…of course there will always be exceptions……..I know couples where the husband does not even know if their cooker is gas or electric, hasn’t a clue how to use the washing machine, and as for cooking that’s a big NO NO…….the women go and buy their men’s clothes for them, pack the suitcase when they go on holiday……..but who is to blame for the mans abstinence from these chores, the woman of course…….and I have to admit I did the same in my marriage……….but in lots of modern marriages/partnerships the men do their share, but that’s only fair when the women is also working full time……how times and roles have changed…….for the better, who knows……but that’s a different blog….xxx
Hello Starlette: A good day to you dear friend.
One of my interests is Mathematics and I am currently amusing myself by trying to design a mathematical model of human behaviour and this has led me to do a lot of research. The rule in mathematics and engineering is: “If you cannot measure it then you don’t know what you are talking about.” Intuition (Extra-sensual Perception, ESP) is a case in point. As you say, it plays an important part in human behaviour but it is extremely difficult if not impossible to quantify and I would be grateful for any suggestions.
A hypothetical dilemma: An internet correspondent tells me that he/she is in difficulty and has asks me for financial help. My “intuition” tells me that it is an internet confidence trick. So, do I ignore it and perhaps abandon a friend-in-need or do I send money and perhaps lose face and a few quid? In either case I would be left with a reason to doubt my intuition (which is certainly biased by a distrust of the integrity of some Internet users).
Hello Rodger,
the risk in your choise is; 1. you loose the money or 2. you loose a person.
Best way out; to give the needed money as a present, means you invest some money and keep the person. Michael
Hello Rodger………Well when I put my question to another group of people the result was……99% of women said they were big believers in listening to their gut feeling, intuition call it what you want, men it seems are more practical and may get some kind of suspicions, but it is formed because of signs and signals a change in behaviour pattern ………so are women more cynical and distrusting of people in general……..maybe we are more on out guard, past experiences may come into the equation…….”.Dangerous Instincts.” a book one lady recommended reading, apparently this book rationalises everything and puts things into perspective…….and “Fear Cannot Help You” another one…….now to your hypothetical question about the loan of money…….well there I would rely on my instinct and past conversations, a small amount I would give /loan whatever……..but would probably be taken for a sucker…..lol……oh well…… good luck with your research…….maths is just not my forte……
Many thanks for this matter Star. My experience is that a woman’s intuition is far, far greater tuned than a man’s. Could con from the fact that women are individuals and men team players. I agree with others – one can accept most things from others except les and violence. Violence speaks for itself. Lies are an insidious exercise that must destroy any relationship if the person being lied to actually cares and would wish for a different outcome. If they don’t care then hearing lies is of little consequence. As to whether a relationship can be sustained after being lied to depends on, a) the relationship, mentioned and b) the nature of the lie. Serious lies cannot. as a rule be lived with – why? because they are seldom singular. A lie begets a lie – begets a lie etc. If they are of a trivial nature then they can quite easily be accommodated as a characteristic trait. For example – ‘ have you been smoking’ reply ‘ no’ despite reeking of smoke!!!! Such a lie could be part of a huge struggle to stop smoking and may actually help. As to bigger issues one must remember ‘knowledge is not always beneficial’ You can be in danger of ‘ cutting off nose to spite one’s face’ I suspect that whilst you do not like being lied to living with the lie is a better prospect than being without. Remember whatever you do you have to be comfortable with the decision. In this respect there is no right answer other than – do what you want and be happy.
charles while i agree with most of your comments “living with a lie rather than being without” the liar? Thats not being happy in my book. It smells of a life of pretending. Me personally couldnt live a life “wondering” but thats just me I truly would rather be alone because being in that kind of situation is like being alone.
I must trust who im with.
Hello Charles, yes softly softly does it, nothing spoiling as it were…not a life or death situation…..and until I am absolutely sure I will not act on it……so you men are team players…pack animals stick together for strength …….and do you know what else I think is very often the case, that men would not dob each other in, even though they knew their mate was in the wrong……..for instance, if the wife of a mate asked his friend if she knew if he was cheating on her I think he would keep mum and not want to be involved………where as a women would put herself in the wife’s shoes and tell what she knew…well I would anyway………..ah!! but relationships would be too easy if we all thought and acted the same way…..
As for myself, i am far too trusting to have much worth while intuition ,however I am working on it ,by the time any intuition kicks in ,it’s too late .
However lies one can pick up almost immediately, and ther’e little excuse between friends for those, I would take that from another angle though and give them a chance to explain why they did that , and let them know that honesty between friends is essential, for a friendship to go forward…..xx
Hi Lani, I’m not sure if you can work on intuition, I am inclined to think it’s either something you feel or you don’t………you can be too trusting, but what are you supposed to do until you are proven wrong……..well time usually sorts the wheat from the chaff………in the meantime hang on to your cash and valuables…….or go out and blow the lot……..
My intuition is on target, however listening to it has often been a work in progress. Most people really know what the answer is, however they ignore it. Is that a mistake? one of the most significant loves of my life was a disaster, yet do I regret it? I felt something I had never felt. Sometimes it is more about what you want, than the truth. Sometimes you have to compare the damage to the recovery time.
Hi Catalpa, well I think what you are saying is…….if you had listened to your intuition you would have never experienced the wonderful feelings of love, you would have missed the dance………… so I would say intuition was worth ignoring in that particular case……..just had to pick up the pieces afterwards……
Intuition, to me, means guessing something. I use it mainly for troubleshooting in my work. It is easier as you gain experience.
For people and/or places I often get vibes. Either man or woman, there are persons that are attractive by what they can teach me, or rather, what I can learn from them.
Even negative persons are interesting, like I say, something to learn from them.
Thanks for you blog starlette.
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Hi David, I would say the vibes is akin to gut feelings ,intuition………the guessing bit in work is like you say from experience…….seeing what is likely to go wrong before it actually does………it’s good that you see positives in everyone, even negative people……..well they still have life experiences the same as the rest of us and have things to teach…….even if its what has led them to become so negative……interesting one that……..