I’m Tired of Being the Joke
When I first started blogging everyone was real positive. Said I would be honest, and you all said “great! ” But when I said something you didn’t agree with, instead of debate I got shot down. Was called a fool living in a fantasy world.Okay. Tried again. As long as my views match the majority, fine. But let me state something against the norm, it’s right back to being the fool.
So much for everybody has a voice that counts. It only counts when it is in total agreement. I have used no bad language, have not called anyone names, and have not said anyone was wrong in their viewpoints. Just thought my viewpoint was equally important. Guess I was mistaken.
So, for now, I quit. Make your jokes at my expense. I may be back later. I haven’t decided yet. I will read your blogs, but will not be joining the queue.
Jackie
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Know exactly how you feel Jackie xxx
Jackie,
I keep telling myself not to quit when I feel that I am not followed in my blogs, etc. I don’t care what others think; I’m just doing what I enjoy… be it posting in a group, chatting, etc. I, too at times have to keep reminding myself not to take anything so seriously and so far am doing ok, I think. I hope you do return to blogging as I did not even get to actually read any of your blogs. And I also know how you feel. Stay in touch.
Good advice Pam
good one pam keep enjoying xxx
i followed your blog pam on something very important to me, it wasn’t worth a mention, it goes both ways my friend
So sorry jackie, a certain element think its a joke to constantly bait other members, send not very nice pm’s and think they are the ants pants, very small number jackie, the majority of members are terrific in my book. Your opinion is equally as important as every ones. I do know how you feel too, I have been called worse than a fool and do you know what my friend, its projection, do I care any more? No I don’t. The jokes will eventually be at their expense, truth always wins out in the end. Have a little break jackie and I and many others will look forward to seeing you soon xxx
More good advice Skips xxx
Thanks gran xxx
Jackie, I am so sorry to read how unhappy you have been. I think Pam gave you some good advice, as far as just be yourself and enjoy blogging. You are still touching chatters that may never respond,but are still reading your words. I also agree with Skip, the jokes will eventually be at their expense, and the truth always wins out in the end. I hope you will keep blogging!!
Jackie please carry on blogging, I have been in the same boat as you so to speak.Just carry on and ignore those that try to bring you down….I am not blogging at the moment as I am moving house and will be offline from tomorrow night for a week.I hope to see you back when I return.
wishing you well with your move ann xxx
Thank you Skippy xxx
Jackie…I am so sorry to hear you have had bad experiences here. Please do continue blogging and up those who like to make life miserable for others. And please,if you get unwarranted and nasty feedback especially via messages let us know..the Monitors and Admins and even Rob. I keep telling people to learn to copy and paste. It isnt lagging if you report these people, it is making everything here more comfortable for those who are now here and those who are to come. You can make a difference and be instrumental in keeping the site as it once was before some of the nasty element infiltrated us under the guise of the “good guys”. We keep referring to how the site used to be but no-one will tell us what is causing it to become as it is now. It only takes one gutsy person the start the ball rolling then more will come out of the woodwork.
So, be our ally Jackie and help those of us who really do want the best site on the internet for us Seniors. Asking this is not just for Jackie, it is for anyone who reads these Blogs, anyone who writes these Blogs and anyone who would like to see a peaceful existence for all of us Seniors.
well said faye xxx
so copy is highlight on left click, hold down while right click, select copy, then go to pm to monitor or admin or “contact us” which goes to Rob, right click and select paste then send. Its so simple even i can do it most of the time lol
Faye , I was asked in the chat room if I had ever copied and pasted a conversation and reported it to Rob. I said yes I had as it was a scammer. I was then told in thier neighbourhood I would be classed as a snitch and would end up in the bottom of the river with cement boots on. This was said with a chat room full of chatters about 16 or so. So what I am trying to say is, I can’t blame anyone for not doing this if this is the sort of encouragement chatters get.
Gran yes i can understand the reluctance of some if this happens but it is bullying at its worse and I dont care who they are…if they are going to carry on like this they should be on a site where they can bully and be bullied back to their hearts content. Obviously “their neighbourhood” was not the kind of place where they were raised to be polite and caring to others and they are the ones who will miss out on making the best of friends on here.
Yes, It was me Gran. I’m sorry if you were offended by that comment. It was what we call New Jersey humor. It was a joke. Sorry you didn’t get it. You may not know this because you live miles away, but everyone kids and makes fun of the people in New Jersey and they link the entire state to the Mafia, snitches, cement boots, the Soprano’s, etc. So when I said, oooh you would end up in the bottom of the river in cement boots if you lived here and did that, I was not making fun of you or trying to intimidate you, or bully you. If anything, I was making fun of the impression everyone has of NJ and the people who live here, myself included.
So Faye, if you want to know what the site was like before, this is it. It used to be a place where you could have a laugh and not take every little thing personal and to the nth degree. It was a place where you could discuss a subject, disagree and still be friends before you left the lobby. It was a place where if you did offend someone you said, gee I’m sorry. It was a place where you didn’t go write blogs about everything that happened in the lobby. If you had a problem you went to the person in PRIVATE and said..Hey, I was upset with your comment and you worked it out with the person. You didn’t even involve 25 monitors because we only had about 5 monitors at the time. And thats all we really need! Those monitors let us work things out amongst ourselves. They only interfered if it was an impossible situation and extreme. They never ever took sides. Now everything is impossible and extreme to some monitors. Monitors didn’t go writing additional blogs that created more agitation and inflamed people. They took care to keep the scammers out but they let us work out our own problems. Blogs, while they can be entertaining and thoughtful can also cause pain, as well as drive people off the site. I could be very offended by what Skippy wrote below, when she writes ” so disgusting gran,” when she only had ONE side of this story, but I won’t be. I could even take it as bullying! Monitors need to hear BOTH AND ALL sides of a story before they start making judgments and labeling things like, “bullying and disgusting,” and then go write blogs about it. Practice what you preach. Everyone, members and monitors need to just lighten up and we can go back to having a great chat site.
reading that blog lo i have to agree with u,i thnk it has changed a lot from when i joined the site,and i know u wouldnt intimidate anyone on chat,maybe im biased as i know u personaly,it’s a great site i only see pat and tessa a lot and they do a brilliant job,as they are in on my time,lets get back to fun times yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Thank you, Cath. xxx
My apologies if you were and are offended by my opinions lo. I do hear both sides in my role as montior, via transcripts at the time or sent to me. We do have a great chat site and fun times peeps go in at a time suitable for them. Some times members need to get something off their chest as jackie has done with this blog. Personally I like everything out in the open, we can agree or disagree and still be friends. Everyone has a right to express their opinion. Not all is sweetness and light. As I said just a very small number of members pick away at other members, the majority are terrific in my book.
Thank you, Skip. I hope you always contact both parties before you react because sometimes what we write is not always what we meant to say.
Understood lo.
Apology accepted Lo, I apologise to you as well as I took it the wrong way. I now understand it better when you said about the New Jersey humour as we to have humour to about our country. So now I understand. I know nothing about New Jersey and never knew you lived there lol I have probably heard you say you have lived there but never remember where anyone lives. So hopefully that is sorted. Sorry Jackie I have taken over your blog. Keep up the good work of blogging. I think I should give mine up lol or at least give up the commenting I think.
Thanks Gran. Glad it’s all sort and look forward to many laughs with you.
so disgusting gran and chatters all you have to say to a monitor or admin is i want to keep my name out of this and i can tell you for sure, that will happen we are very good at keeping secrets xxx
Jackie
On your profile,you say that you enjoy blogging and appreciate comments be they supportive or critical…also at the end,you say..”even if the jokes on me”
Are you sure that when you wrote this blog,that you wer,nt just having a “bad hair day”?
Please dont stop blogging…After all,I need something enjoyable to read while I,m eatin me oats before work in the mornings.
Cheers,
Cappy.
Please dont allow anyone on here to bully you. Rob is very adamant that they are not allowed to remain as Members if that is the way they carry on. Grans example was a very good one of things that can and sometimes do go on here and it brings the whole site down to the level of the people doing it…..we are all Seniors who want nothing more than to enjoy the company of other seniors.
Please, please report bullying or nasty chatters, messages senders etc along with a copy and paste and they will be dealt with as soon as possible. Your name need not be mentioned at all, I can promise you that.
Jackie I’m guessing you must have gotten some private messages saying this stuff, b/c from all that I saw people were supportive and encouraging, or at least trying to be. Yeah I think I some disagreed in places but most were supporting your right to your opinion & to express it even if it wasn’t what they believed. Maybe I’m wrong & I missed something. I sure hope I wasn’t one who u felt shot u down. I, like you, have very strong opinions but have always tried to express them in a respectful manner & would never “name call” or disparage. I think a debate or discussion is a really healthy thing & I’d never let anyone stop me from saying so. Read up & keep going, Jackie.. you have a ton of support.
nods head – keep going…
🙂 I agree millie!
How did this blog suddenly become all about the experiences of others, when jackie was the person in emotional pain???? if anyone chooses to reply to this remark, feel free!!! This is not a accusation of anyone. But all the replies were a mutual affirmation of each other who answered the blog. NOT JACKIE
leafofgold, I’m speaking for myself here. I do not know what Jackie is referring to because I have just recently joined this group. But, by what I read in his blog… I can understand what he is saying because of being a newbie. I can only agree that the same has happened to me; but I refuse to let anyone’s comments make me quit from blogging.
Why is it that there is always someone who has to contradict what others say in this group. We are simply trying to make this person feel better and accepted. I see no wrong in that. If we made a comparison to what has happened to us since joining… so, be it. What is wrong with that?!
As I said, I hardly know anyone here but I felt the hurt in what he wrote. I see that the members are always readily available to help one another (well, in most cases) and I think that is great.
We are only human and cannot read minds. I do hope Jackie sorts whatever it is that is hurt him and returns to writing and replying to blogs.
uh-hum Pam, Jackie is a she not a he 🙂
Jacki , i was positive and encouraging to you in your blogs and enjoyed your comments and your individualism, please keep on blogging, there are those of us here who like to hear your opinions, trying to understand others is a gift we shoud all try to aquire, I value all opinions on this blog and find all the blogs very interesting, must say have never had an abusive or negative comment so i am not walking in your shoes , I read more than I write , so come back and enjoy blogging jackie.xxxxx.
not very often i comment on a blog but i am on this one..i totally agree with what Lo has written..way back….way way back..it wasnt heard of..all this writing about whos done what and said what..the 2 pple would go private and sort it out…. No one jumped on the bandwagon and made things worse.why do pple feel the need to badmouth others on here..school yard behaviour if you ask me…but hey what does my opinion count i.ive only been a member here forever.lol
Thanks, Mezzy! You opinion counts very highly because you are a voice of reason, have been here forever, and you are a Yorkie! Who could argue with that! I don’t know why you have been over looked to be a monitor? Shaking my head. xxx
me to lo xx
The defense rests!!!!
lol leaf!
Jackie. I agree with Cap. Sure you were not just having a bad hair day? Some days I feel more sensitive than others, but not enough to quit when someone says something I don’t like or agree with. Keep on blogging, my friend. You have a majority support xoxo
Jackie, I want to thank you for this blog. It has cleared the air, I hope. xxx
hissy fits have sent me off of here for awhile..and i think i’ll just continue that plan of action…
jackie,keep blogging..if nothing else you will know you’ve really irked some small minded person or persons..lol…
Jackle please keep on blogging i enjoy reading them theres always some small minded idiot sticking their oar in lol jack xx