I can’t believe it … (2)
‘I can’t believe’ that the most awful things always seem to happen to the nicest people.
I have a young friend who with her father run a farm, they provide me with hay and straw for my horses. She is in her middle 20’s and will always try to help others. She has just found out that her back is really damaged – amongst other problems she has a disc that is crumbling. She will probably need surgery later in life, but the immediate impact is that they can no longer carry on with their business.
She is not the most academically gifted person and at the moment is really lost. Her father is trying very hard to hold it all together, but is truly worried about how he is going to cope.
I wish I could help but all I can do is offer support and tell her to take her time and not make rush decisions.
I ‘believe’ that things happen for a reason … time will tell
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so sorry to hear about your lovely neighbour and friend Beth, not much one can do if serious health issues are at stake , but as they say when one door closes another opens , I do hope something turns up for this lovely young girl andher father. sooner thanlater … and what a lovely caring person you are to be so
involved in helping her to sort her problem .xx.
Thank you Ian, I to believe the old saying when the door closes a window somewhere opens. x
Beth, When bad things happen like health issues, we have to cope and learn the best way to survive. Your friend needs a career that can be done with a bad back. There may be job training for her, and she may discover talent and intelligence she never imagined. So, in her situation, what opportunities are available for this young lady.
HI Rose, at the moment she is so lost that all I can advice her is to take her time and not make rash decisions. I believe that opportunities will arrive for her and she just needs to keep an open mind.
When you say things happen for a reason. What exactly do you mean?
Some times it is just the right moment to move on. Last year this girl thought she had everything she wanted, working with her dad and a boyfriend who she thought was the one. The boyfriend dropped her suddenly giving no reason after 6 months together, after that she kept saying she never met anyone new and that she did the same thing every day and kept talking of taking temp work over the winter ‘just for a change’. She didn’t do anything but talk about it, maybe this is telling her (yes, in a very painful and horrid way) that there is something else out there for her.
I was made redundant 3 years ago from a job and profession that I loved and I thought ‘that’s it no one is going to employ me at my age’. I was very wrong, I heard of a part time job just down the road from home – phoned them, had an interview the next day and started work 2 days later. It doesn’t pay as much but I don’t have 3 hours travel a day, I have most afternoons to do what I want and I love the job and have made lots more friends. Plus I no longer have the pressure of management and I can just forget it all when I go home. Another bonus, my old work friends have nearly all retired and I can meet them for lunch on a regular basis, which I couldn’t have done if I hadn’t been made redundant.
This could be the start of a new adventure for this girl, one she might have put off for ever if not pushed. It isn’t time yet, but I want to tell her not to focus on what she can’t do but think of all the things she could do in the future.