Home or Away for Christmas
One week to go to Christmas. The tree is decorated and most of the presents are wrapped. Everything is on track you would think, not in my house. Every year it is the same, I’ve changed my mind I would like Tom Ford aftershave instead of Bulgari, Can I have money instead of presents. The best yet from my eldest when asked if he would be having Christmas lunch with us ir his girlfriend’s family. “just cook enough for us and save it for me to eat on Boxing Day if I can’t make it. I would like to cook something a bit different this year but no it has to be the same as every previous year, aren’t the young supposed to be more adventurous in their tastes. My brother and his wife go on holiday over Christmas every year and say it is brilliant, I’ve always enjoyed the time at home. I received a newsletter today advertising cruises for next December, I must say I am tempted with Christmas in the Caribbean. Should I stay or go?
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I enjoyed your blog. Tradition is a beautiful thing. If the son is the only one you are planning for, I would go. I think you need to tell the son a thing or two like “if you don’t show, you have no say on what is cooked and there may or may not be leftovers”.
Enjoy what you do, and when those kids are grown, you have equal rights.
Thanks for your thoughts. I am probably suffering from pre Christmas stress. You are right I am going to tell him today Christmas is a time for thinking of others and he needs to show more consideration
exactly. I agree.
Go I say, don’t be a convenience to family who can’t tell you if they are going to show or not. I am choosing to work this year, as I seem to be the cook and bottle washer all the time, so I will be working with the sick in hospital and will have Xmas lunch deliverdto the ward, compliments of the hospital, wonderful.
How wonderful. You have got the true Christmas spirit, something for me to work on. Stressing over trivial matters such as lunch and presents seems very shallow in comparison with the issues some people are facing
Most people I know are celebrating Christmas as a time of must buy, must have, must get.
My wife and me we are celebrating Christmas as a time of thanks God we didn’t get it ( illness ) deads within the family, friends or neighbours, any kind of disadvantages that could effect our lifes and so on.
Cooking and eating, something special like the Norwegian fish calles Skreje which is caught in two month of the year only.
Your eldest seems to be old enough to take his own decision. So cook enough for him on boxing day and go off to the Caribbean, fulfill your dream, the best you can do.
well the other sid eof the coin is who to have Chistmas dinner with …. eldest daughter often requests I have Christmas dinner with her and their family , my Youngest daughter or son have me for Christmas dinner at night , we all try to share together at the lake and gardens oppsite my home for Christmas supper and a get together ,my other son drives 120 klm,s to have christmas dinner with me on boxing day , it seems to work out wel I leave them to sort who is having Mother for Christmas luncheon…lol , i can ‘t have it in my small home any more downsized ,…so now i take a plate and go wherever i have been invited… i am always made very welcome indeed , and i leave the sorting it out to the family …..it must be hard for those who don’ t have family close by and my thoughts are with them special day Merry Christmas everyone xxxxx.
Hi Pam, well for many a year I have said I would like to spend Christmas away from home, but my daughter who adores Christmas tells me not to, says its not the same without you here, and I have to admit even though I am not the biggest lover of Christmas the get together is nice, for the last couple of years we have been away the week before Christmas but haven’t bothered this year,may as well be in your home if you stay in this country because of the weather, so as usual Christmas Eve and Christmas day will be spent at my Daughters with my son and Grandson, I usually entertain on boxing day, not this year though, drive out into Derbyshire and a country pub for us……..but I will say if you have the chance to go to warmer climes do so, maybe on the cards for me next Christmas, and cruises are just pure luxury anyway……….go and be entertained and looked after………. that’s what I say……
Hi Starlette,
I’m torn. I love being at home on Christmas Day but it isn’t the same as the boys get older. I have always said I’m happy for them to spend the day with their partners families but if that is going to he the case, we may as well go away. I hope you enjoy Boxing Day in Derbyshire. I’m from the Notts/Derbys border
You see? My “Bah Humbug” reaction to Christmas works well. I have the kids trained well. They ask if I’ll be home for Christmas, at which time I tell them yes or no. If yes, they get an invite for dinner (please advise at least 3 days before the event so I know how much to cook). Should they decline, I often get an invite to their places.
If I’m on my own, well that’s good too. I have a good selection of DVD’s. I have the computer. I always make sure I have a good supply of booze.
Physical company for me at Christmas is optional. I’m quite happy on my own, but I’d like to mention that there are many, some members here perhaps, who need contact and their only one will be those on this site. So if you happen to come in here on the day and see someone sitting alone in the chat room, go in. Have a natter for a few minutes. You might just make someone’s day.