Grumpy Old man, Cackling Old Woman, Sober, or Serene
As we age, what do we become or how are we perceived? I hear myself laughing and I think it sounds a bit like cackling. I did get grumpy for a while and I tend to be too serious most of the time. I do have wisdom and sometimes I am serene. To some extent, I am pretty much what I have always been since becoming an adult though my emotions are more stable and I know myself better now. I hope people perceive me as I am, but have little control over that. Have you all had these kind of thoughts?
I did not want to call this blog, IDENTITY CRISES, as there is no crisis, but identity is just the subject here and there are many identities that we can have that are not mentioned. I met a new friend and she loves baking and sweets and is a trained pastry chef, but her daughter has a serious weight problem and she is getting into Healthy eating instead. I am retired as are many here, but what do I do with my education and training? I didn’t retire all that was my work, so I still see myself as what I was and just not as active as before. I am still all the things that I was, but I wish that the rest of the world would value who I am and benefit from what I could offer. Maybe, I should try to impress, but I am too satisfied to make it worth the effort.
I do hope the people closest to me can learn something and not make all the mistakes that I made. I know some of them have as I have learned from them. That is what it is all about for me, that we can all make it easier on each other and not need to prove something all the time. Mostly, I hope my identity will be a kind and trustworthy friend and a sober, wise and fun companion. I still may giggle, cackle or grump, but that is a small part of me and it is at least a small part of all of us and what work we did is what we still have just less active. Being a true friend is my most important identity. That is what I want to be perceived about me also.
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This is a very insightful blog roseinbloom and definitely gives pause for thought. Thanks for posting.
I suspect I’m perceived as the guy who talks to animals (cats/dogs/squirrels etc) but ignores humans.
They’re not wrong, but then most animals are far nicer people than most humans.
Thank you so much for your positive words and experience. Thank you.
Waylander, You are not perceived that way here. Talk to animals the wrong way and they will get ugly real quick.
Hi Rose, I think until people know me well they could see me as rather stand offish, I don’t meet a stranger and tell them my life story, that’s not me, I am a very private person who is willing to help where I can and would always champion the underdog…….now get to know me well and I love a laugh but also value my privacy…….as the years roll by I have to say my distrust of humans becomes more so……..I think life hardens you to some degree…….there are of course lots of good people in the world but in my opinion I think our generation has seen the best ……more so than what the future holds….
I think they may see me that way also, but I am trying not to give that impression as we need new friend and people more than ever. Starlette I know you are thoughtful and wise.
The purpose of this blog is knowing what we may seem but also we need to know that we have many ways to be and at a funeral, you do not act like you do at a wedding. I am thinking of joining a condo board and I will have to bring out qualities that cause people to trust me to care about them and to be capable of making a difference.
Waylander says he talks to animals, well I talk to babies and am good at it, but I also talk to big people, but will have to learn to be better at it.
We can make choices. I will have to dust out the suits and wear them more. I will not be phoney, I just have to use all of me in a different way. Trump is trying to be Presidential, he hasn’t hit it yet. LOL.
Thank you , roseinbloom a good blog, I agree with Star about our generation…..
I am not sure about what you are saying, but I want us to be about us. We have choices to make. I have sisters that became old and bitter and mean for no real reason except that is what a lot of older people do. They gossip and make up stories that are really damaging to others, but I choose not to let that bother me to much and just focus on who I can be according to who I am. It is about us and what we become. Some of my young people have issues, some are amazing, and the young people that have problems need all the love, support and guidance we can give them. Which may be very little in some cases.
I do not have any bitter feelings,Rose, I am private about my family, but I just get on with my life, and do not bother about other people who are old and bitter, life is to short for these things
Have had those very thoughts, Rose. And, agree with Scorpio on “insightful”, Way on “most animals are far nicer than most humans”, and yes I agree with Star, “our generation has seen the best”. Thank you Rose for your blog.
Many wise words to ponder, but speaking personally I am a nicer person than I was and I still aim at being a little more considerate of others, Have a wonderful day!
Drummer, I believe it. I am also nicer, but less trusting. I worked to get nicer. I try to commit to make a commitment and make each day a happier day for everyone that I meet, but wisdom and time brought patience and understanding and more acceptance. I worked at being who I am, and you probably did als, because if we don’t we will lapse into being not so nice, not so pleasant, and a grouch. Who want that, so then you are left alone.
I am so happy when people find something to enjoy from my blogs. It is one way to make a difference.
We would seem to have similar views!