What is your experience with GOSSIP? Do you thing that it is just being interested in others and passing on the news? Or has your life been devastated by gossip? Gossip, is by definition "casual or unconstrained conversation that is typically not confirmed". Now, I think that is a good definition.
First, when we talk about others, we should at least know that what we say is true, or we risk the reputations of being liars and a gossipers, so we can seriously damage ourselves by spreading false and malicious rumors even if we don't care about the damage to others. Maybe, that is the best reason not to gossip. I don't thing a habitual gossiper ever thinks of that reason.
Most people know that if you talk loosely or gossip about others to me, you will talk loosely about me to others, so most people will not confide in you or trust you. This is a second good reason not to gossip, that gossipers may miss. Gossipers miss the good reasons not to gossip and go on doing it for years.
How bad is gossip? In many lives people may be lucky and they just know of gossip as idle chit chat and not have direct knowledge of the destructive power of gossip at its worst. Gossip can destroy lives, marriages, friendships and professional reputations. I am not exaggerating. Gossip is evil and is a form of bullying that is causing suicides by young people and gossip can destroy the social fabric of a person's existence and or livelihood. Gossip, is bad and it is not possible to defend against it because the damage is usually done before it is discovered and it is like once released, it can never be contained again.
Idleness, and boredom help to keep gossip alive. The daily routine gets boring and people lack the creative energy to start a hobby or work for a cause, or some other interesting diversion so they gossip. I think this happened in my family; as the family grew older and independent some women with no pleasures in life got into gossip. Their lives had been good and useful, but sadly, they did not see themselves that way. People who gossip usually do not feel good about themselves and only focus on the negative in their lives and the lives of others. This is what I believe.
I used to say jokingly that half the people in my family could not be paid to lie and the other half could not be paid to tell the truth. I did not take the lies seriously until it was too late. My family trust and cohesion has been destroyed by gossip. I think we all need to take loose talk and unconfirmed rumors very seriously, it damages the loose talkers as well as the innocent ones about which they talk.
What do you think of gossip and how has it impacted your life and the lives of people close to you? If it has not done serious damage at some time, you have been exceedingly lucky but don't doubt that gossip can strike at any time like a hidden viper ready to attack.Recommend0 recommendations