Friendship is most the most treasured part of our lives and may be the least understood, so I write this blog. Before I wrote, I googled and found the title in a Huffington post article and I also bring my own understanding. Friends enhance and make our lives richer and better, but they can be gold or fool's gold because real friendship has to have substance and TRUST which is the glue that holds the friendships together.
Most friendships end because a slow or shockingly sudden loss of trust. The person is just not who we thought he or she was? Some people may not realize that many friends are only "friends of convenience" which means the friendship is based on common situations and not common character and ends when the situation changes or a major character flaw is discovered. It is necessary to know the difference between a true friendship and a "friendship of convenience". True friendship based on common values of dependability and generosity will last, and those of convenience will end if the situation changes or we learn the shocking hard way that we have been betrayed
By this reasoning some spouses and loved companions are also true friends and others are just "friendships of convenience" and we assumed we had shared values and real character of dependability and generosity. In most cases we betrayed ourselves by assuming that the person was what he or she WAS NOT. The important thing in the middle of the horror of lost friendship is that we have to work on ourselves and not the other person. We must take another look at what the relationship is and what it still can be.
If we realize this sufficiently soon we can avoid fireworks and the floodgates of tears and rebuild what is left. We may expect relationships to be forever, but we must accept that most WILL end. The ones that last are those that are based on honesty and trust and shared values that are proved and real anot Just ASSUMED.