“FRIENDS” LOL
C’mon now let’s get real here folks! Just have to laugh at human nature, or whatever you want to call it. I’ve nothing to lose here, so I’m going to go ahead and say it! Let’s not be phoney here LOL You’ll know what I’m talking about in a second here….I’ve been here to SC for about..oh…eight months or so? And since this new site, and a good one at that I might add….suddenly there’s these “FRIENDS” requests. Cool! Friends is good! So, I’m noticing some popular names that pop up pretty regularly on SC, cool! They want to be my friend? I can always use more friends, can’t you? Ok here we go now, they’re in “there” my friends’ list. goody! So I get a wild hair one day, and decide I’ll send a couple a line, here, my ‘FRIENDS” LOL I wait. I wait. One day. Three days. Two weeks. No reply! So! I do what any self respecting man would do, I check me deodorant! Seems ok! I gargle a little mor often, ahhhhhh feels good! Nice clean breath! And I go back to my message box, and other than the “usual” friends, no return message! Hmmmmmmm! The thinking cap goes on! What can the matter be?! Ahhhhh! yep! Possibly! Here’s what I think. I think…..that some people here….not calling any names mind ya….like to collect “FRIENDS” like we used to collect MARBLES in elementary school! Ya with me? I think…that some like to have a good number of names of “FRIENDS” on their profile so people will be knocked on their ASSumption! Wow! Look there! Why they mnust be the QUEEN OF ENGLAND! 278 names of ‘FRIENDS” hmmm hmmm hmmmm Listen “FRIENDS” 🙂 really now! I’d rather have ONE GOOD FRIEND than ten thousand names of friends. Ok, We’re become ….seniors….right? Let’s act like Seniors 🙂 in other words, and I do mean this politely and kindly….GROW UP! Now I’ve said that, “if ye don’t happen to like me, pass me by”! I won’t put it in the vernacular that we so frequently use down South, I think that Hank Williams said it once in one of his songs about not liking his music…..but really. Let’s not, for each others’ sake, be phoney baloney. There’s enough of that going around where we live at. The guy five houses who lets his pit bull crap on my flower bed, that’s enough! But you’re perhaps thousands and thousands of miles away, and really, I do want your friendship. I do. Sincerely. And I will try my best to be a friend to you, as little as I may have to offer. But let’s keep this thing R E A L OK? I hope that you have taken this in the spirit that I have intended it. for the good and not the bad. I love you. I need you! My friends! C’mon big group hug here!!! LOL Hay! You really like me or is that a pencil sticking out of your pocket there!
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loved what you have just written, and it is so true. though….’IF’ you had sent me a msg i would defo reply to you as soon as i could!! 🙂
hear….hear…
I always answer my messages. When I find them lol I find I dont send the first message just in case they dont want me to message lol I accept friendships and request them especially the newbies as I like to make them feel welcome. So I dont know if I am doing the right thing or not now lol
I have a feeling that there is a section on here who are treating the friends facility as some sort of competition.
Sad really
Well I am certainly not in any competition. Now that I have heard all this it makes me want to delete everyone and just come on and chat so I dont have to worry what people are thinking. Once again I thought I was doing the right thing.
So for everyone on my friends list do not get offended but I am deleting everyone, I am more than welcome to accept your friendship request.
Maybe you need to tone down the rhetoric a bit Pianerman. If you joke in your email, like above with “the pencil sticking out of your pocket” that kind of humor doesn’t appeal to many women. Maybe you should try a softer approach when trying to make friends.
Good Grief! I didn’t mean to poke the pets with a stick here! Really I didn’t! And…Sunflower2 I wouldn’t intend to be offensive to you ladies. <<<<>>> Actually hon, That was a line from “Our Gang” that Reba MacIntyre said at the end when she was giving out the awards LOL And that was a childrens’ film, so I didn’t think it was intended as a ladies’ insult. But thinking about it, yeah, I guess it could be viewed that way, and Yes, I am sorry and I apologize. In fact, I’m going to un-edit it as soon as I get off here. And GrandmaJ. please honey, don’t go and get all sensitive and erase your friends list ok? Listen, if that wasn’t your intentiion to “get all the marbles you could acquire” then don’t take it personal. Don’t ANYONE take that personal ok? Now, I wrote what was on my mind, but that does not make it the BIBLE! Right? Eat the meat, (if any) and throw away the bones! I might be a little gruff, but that’s me nature! I got those JEANS! They need to be washed y’say? I’ve been washing ’em for 63 years and they are somewhat TATTERED! Irish Pennants all through ’em! It’s in my Jeans! LOL Don’t take me so seriously, I have a heart of gold. I wouldn’t try to hurt you for nothing in this world. But I feel there is maybe a “little truth” in what i said but not enough for you to go out and blow your brains out over! I’m not really apologizing for what I said, but I’m apologizing if I hurt anyone. that, clearly, was/is not my intention here. If you scratch anybody off your friends’ list, scratch me! But listen, if down inside you found some truth to what I was saying, well….at least consider it? I don’t have to be “right” all the time, but I do, like you, have an opinion. Right or Wrong. Now I am not going to change, my poor wife, I’m sure, has been dealing with that issue ad nauseum for twenty years, bless her heart. I try and pick up my underwear and socks and not leave my dishes for her, but that’s as far as it’s gotten! I am what/who I am! I’m me! And in the end, I want to be your friend. Even if I am, “Wooley Bulley” I’d jump right in there for you if you need me. Hay listen, have a good day ok? If you see someone without a smile, give ’em yours! 🙂
Well Turn me upside down and plant me in a bucket of MANURE! I tried to un-edit that last comment, taken sensitively by some ladies, but when I did, this big black sign jumped up and almost knocked the coffee out of my hands, it read: “A FATAL ERROR HAS OCCURRED” Indeed! I WAS BORN!!!!!!
When I came out o’ me mother, I SLAPPED THE DR.! The first taste I can ever recall was SHOE LEATHER! I’m tasting it NOW! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! LOL Why am I feeling like I just passed gas in an elevator? “Hey Rob, ya got any tomatoes out there, I think these guys would like to get their hands on some right now!” “What? you’d join them ya say?” “Wait, lemme get some mayonaise!” Throp throp throp! That security question is a RIOT. I can see it now, people getting out the calculators………2 + 8……time for some extracurricular math here…….why not some calculus? I know, lets calculate the earth’s density! Let’s calculate the density of MY SKULL!!!! Here’s one, “what puts the jiggle in jello?”
Pianerman09.I will jump to your defence any day.Not that you need defending! Your mail used to leave me in stitches…..I say used to – I will email you about that later and I am glad you wrote this piece – I am not sure which one of us would win Ranter of the Year!. The whole point is Sunflower2, Pianerman is what he is and you and I and others are all different.The way it should be! I found the pencil comment funny and typical, you found it, it seems,out of order. Some would find messages of gushiness and poetry about appearance, insulting when, some would be flattered.Pianerman09 really tells things as they are and I think he is what we all should try to be, and that is straightforward in these contacts.I think we all said before, that there is no right or wrong way to start a connection.Some do it automatically,some after reading profiles, interests etc. How many of us still have a list of friends requests which we or they rejected or not answered one way or another?. Well done Pianerman……………
Pianerman, I am not offended by what you have said. It just never crossed my mind that this is what some may think. But because you have bought this to my attention, and others have said it to, I just made a decision not to welcome the newbies anymore by asking for thier friendship,and start afresh. I will leave it up to others to do the requesting. Surely if I stick to myself I cannot be judged by others by how many friends I have .I just dont know why it bothers some enough to write about it what anyone else does thats all. Its seems others are more worried about how many friends other people have than the people who have lots of friends. But I suppose everyone looks at things differently. I now hope I did not offend anyone by requesting thier friendship. If I did I am sorry. I have deleted them all Pianoman but I am not offended by what you said as I do like how you are straight forward. I only deleted because it made me think maybe the people I requested didnt really want to accept lol does that make sense. I am paranoid now. Now that I have read what you said I do get the point you are trying to make but I just never looked at it that way. That way I dont have to worry if I am doing the right thing or not. At least you put it out there what is on your mind and not wait until someone leaves a chat room and stab them in the back. I have taken no offense at all at what you have said. I am only sensitive to the fact I dont want to upset people but I am finding it harder and harder as I dont want to type here or there or say anything as I always seem to put my foot in it somewhere. So Pianerman good luck with your singing and you must be so proud of your son. Keep up the good work going to the nursing homes and making a lot of people happy. Take care ………
Pianerman…my feelings exactly, however I couldn’t have expressed myself any better If I tried. The friend concept in this site is taken very lightly by some. I have placed a bait myself sometimes to test it with negative results as well. In all fairness I do have to say that I have come across some very nice and caring people as well.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! DID IT AGAIN! Itr’s like stubbing my toe on the same night stand again and again……THAT SECURITY QUESTION!!!! Outa sight outa mind! I’m already outa mind so what’s new!!!!
Ditto, I am with you all the way.
lol Pianerman, dont you hate that when you write this long reply then forget the maths test lol
I,v never taken the “Friends” thingy,literally.
In my mind i just subsistute it for “chat buddy”
Also,its probably a good idea to do the math before typing a blog.
Thank you Lofty, you have made me feel a lot better about it all now. That was my interpretation of it all as well. And now I feel foolish as I thought that everyone was in the same boat so to speak, as I thought that is what I was here for. To request a friendship in case someone needed a chat buddy. Then I started to question and myself feeling bad for requesting friends and got all paranoid. So I do apologise to anyone who thought I was intruding, I honestly didnt mean anything by it. I have deleted all of them now just in case I have done the wrong thing. I will just come in and if anyone wants a “chat buddy” I will be here. lol Thanks for reminding me about the maths test lol
No probs Jan
Will you request “friends” with me..I dont know how to do it,
Fanks awfully
Hey I just requested your friendship grandmaj as I noticed you weren’t on my friendship list and now I know why you weren’t. I understand what painerman is saying and I appreciate his honesty. I came into the new site before it was officially opened, and I just clicked on the names of the people I had been chatting to in the old chat room, not even thinking about “collecting” friends, I just didn’t want to lose the chatters I had come to like so clicked on them. There is no way I would not respond to someone who sent me a message. Like you, grandmaj, I would feel like deleting all friends, but that would be silly. You are a lovely person who tries to make everyone feel welcome. I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion, and hey pianerman I would take no offence to your opinion, just take it on board. One’s feelings do get hurt, but life is too short to let it upset us too greatly. Please pianerman don’t stop voicing your opinions – after all, as you said, we are SENIORS and should be able to take criticism/opinions in our stride, and also feel free to communicate our opinions. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learnt to take was is important into my life, and let the rest go. Take care everyone 🙂