Friends List – My Perception
I think we all could have a different perception of what ” Friend’s List ” is for.
When I first came on, I saw a note from Admin that said to welcome new members, so that was how I got my first 50 friends…LOL
I asked anyone that came on after me to be my friend and sent them a note of “Welcome”. Out of this, I met some of the most wonderful people and have my very best friends from this method. I also have to say, I gave some of the new guys the wrong idea by this method. 🙂 If anyone sends me “Friend Request”, I have never said no and would never say no.
I know who my best friends are but maybe I am someone’s else’s best friend because they might have a different way to measure. Wouldn’t be fair for me to delete them. I keep in touch, mostly by Private Chat or by Private Messenger. Someone asked me tonight why my list was so long, so I thought maybe I should weed it out a little. So many I remembered the returned note I sent after inviting them to be my friend, maybe I gave them confidence to ask others and that is why I don’t hear from them so much anymore. I continued reading the names. Some were people that I talked to by comments in the Groups or Blog, or maybe they started off their profile with I’m Lonely” or “Just need someone to Chat”. They are friends, maybe not best friends but if they ever come on and need someone to talk and my name shows that I am on.. then they will have my friendship.
I would never give up a chance to make a new “friend”. The friends I have made here are forever or until they delete me:-) They were there when I needed friends so badly. I hope I can return the favor to someone that might have the same need that I had. I am better now and I owe it all to the “friends” that I have made here.
Unless Admin says I have reached my quota, I will continue in my method. And if anyone takes me off their list, I won’t get my feelings hurt… I know they have a different criteria for their “Friend List”. There is no right or wrong, there is just different. LOVE YOU ALL !!!
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I agree Nita. Everyone is welcome in Chatters and that is why I request friendships from people as they join. Everyone who messages me gets a reply. There are a lot of lonely people out there and as far as I am concerned, Chatters allows you to form relationships, close friendships, or just have someone to chat to on the odd occasion you need it.
Thank you Kiwigirl.. It has helped me gt my life back in perspective..and who knows how many are helped that never comment.
Thanks again.
Nita
Beautifully said Nita…I agree with you 100%…and also well said kiwigirl…we all have different reasons for being here…however I doesn’t hurt to be friendly…welcoming and available…You never know how much a simple chat or a few encouraging words can do for someone who’s going through a difficult time.
Thank you Nmod… If each member could make a difference in just one life, then we win 🙂
Thanks again nmod, my new friend 🙂
how nicely put nitajoy. you are one wise lady.
Thank you jcb1. Not sure about wise, but this is what works for me.. 🙂
I understand your point of view Nitajoy. I have a problem initiating, or inviting for friendship. Maybe unconsciously I would fear to be turned down; I am more of a loner. But I will always get into a conversation with a stranger or friend or acquaintance, if they approach me. So for people like you who go forward and initiate friendships, it’s a relief to a lot of other people like me, who would otherwise never initiate.
Thank you David.. That is the beauty of this site,, We are all different 🙂 I am sure I have had some that didn’t accept my invitation but I don’t write down the ones I send to and there is no notice they diidn”t accept. At my age, I can just pretend (LOL) I forgot.. Have a great day and you can practice sending me a friend request !!! 🙂
Very nicely put nitajoy and yes we have had more contact etc through blogs and postings but we are still there for each other thank you ………..Ann
Thanks Ann and that is right.. I feel we are friends even though we mostly correspond through comments.. ..Nita
Agree with you totally Nita.
Thank you.. I consider you a friend just from our sharing here..:-) Nita
I think you are a very kind person that has touch a lot of people. We all have our reasons for being here most of us want friendship. I think the way you think is fantastic and caring. THANK YOU
Thank you Cooldreams. That was really sweet of you.. Nita
I would never turn down a friendship request either Nita,and I always let people know that I would enjoy chatting with them if they see me online ,but I don’t usually initiate a chat.
Thanks Dittsy.. I think us all being friends here has made this such a strong site. Everyone’s kindness has made my life better, for sure. 🙂 Nita
yes nita it is lovely to hear from other people when you hear what some have to bear it makes any problems you have seem so small and if a word from you helps then you know it is good to talk
Thank you.. we know that you have been there for me a few times.. we never know who we touch!!
Nita
Nita, If there was a “Miss Congeniality” award I would nominate you, vote for you, and watch you WIN! I am humbled by yours words.
Tank you for being my Friend!!
Love ya, Patty!!
Thank you Patty, that was so sweet. And you know we have a mutual admiration society going:-) Love you!!
I agree with all the above. I have made the most precious friends on this site, and the love, caring and sharing, and friendly advice have helped me cope with my problems. I don’t feel alone any more. Love you all – take care xo
And none of this takes away from poeple that do it differently..We all get to say…I DID IT MY WAY!!!
Nitajoy, I have only had a computer for a few short months, but in that time I have made a life literally devoid of friends in to one filled with people who genuinely care. All of this, the result of being able to Request Friendship of countless numbers of members whose profiles indicate even the smallest of shared interests. Sadly, when i started I neglected to take note of those to whom i had sent an invitation to be my friend,and am feeling uncomfortable at not getting in touch with all of them. In my case, I have been extraordinarily fortunate in making just a hand full of truly special friends who have given me a new lease on life, one in particular whom I believe is among your close friends. Were there more hours in the day, I think I would spend hours trying to bring the same kind of hope I was so freely given by people like you, to any and all who may be in need of it.Thank you for showing all of us what unconditional “giving” is really all about Sincerely, Ancient Mariner
How nice of you… I think you are on my list of people that I always wanted to talk to but I was sure you were always so busy.. We will have to do that one day!! Thanks again for your comment!! Nita
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Nitajoy, I couldn’t agree more, and this site has changed my life more than I can say. Maybe I am not so good with words. I still send and receive private messages, because they do not have to be on my friends list to do that. The list was simply getting so long that I didn’t recognize half of them and deleted the ones who I hadn’t communicated with for months. I also send messages to new people to try to help them with those first days, which I remember all too well. Some of us are more active in groups and other features of the site. Again, I spend most of my time in Chat, and it is there that I do my best to welcome new members. It appears there are no real differences here, simply different approaches in how each of us uses the site. Thank you for your well-thought input.
That is what I said Georgia.. not right or wrong way, just different.. I know you are a friend to all you come in contact with.. Thanks for even bringing the subject up. As you see, there were a lot of comments. I hope we can find more topics to get input and learn more about each other.
Thanks to you, Nita
You are all absolutely right about the many varied reasons why friendships are accepted or not. I think it is really easy to get a bit over sensitive if you don’t get an acceptance message but there are a thousand other reasons why this could be so, rather than the person requested just ignoring you. In my case, and I will say with 100 per cent truth and conviction,I just cannot type with anything else than two fingers and very very slowly as well. I have been – and kicked out of, in a polite manner of course, evening classes. I have bought “teach yourself…programmes and tried countless times over the years to try to increase but I just cannot hack it.As a result,I cannot write to everyone and no way would I write a copy paste type letter as in one size fits all.I really hope people don’t take it personally but as we have all said, everyone is different and have many legitimate reasons for not keeping in touch with everyone.
Thanks for your Comment.. This is so true and that is the beauty of this site. We are free to do it “our way.”
First would like to thank you for being so nce to me in the few chats that we have had……….you are very kind Lady and I thank you for the time and advice yopu have given to me …..and I am sure that your kindness has helped many others ……..loking forward to other chats in the future Thanks again……. by the way you have a great name as you have I am sure brought JOY to many….