Families!
Star’s blog set me thinking.
I am from a large family as most of you know, but we were all once very close.
I now feel that we have all gone our own ways. Once my parents separated, which was very sad.
My father re-married , and further down the line, my mother re-married.We never saw much of our Father as his wife seemed to think she could keep us apart.
I never realised until my Father-in -laws funeral, that we all disliked him, I certainly did. But being told to say nothing unless you could say something good, still stays with me.I was wondering at the service, what are we doing here? Why are we here? We are really putting on a false charade, as we never liked the man. So why all of this? It really was a farce.
I also realised after we lost my brother Fred that we had all grown apart really.My brother that we lost was close to me, my sister Mary and a younger brother Dennis.The youngest of the family never attended the funeral as he had had a disagreement with Fred years ago.I could not comprehend this, as Fred bought the youngest a bicycle, and all sorts after Dad left.
The next to the youngest was ill last year…He needed stents, so he phoned me to go and stay with him for a while after the stents were fitted. This I did, never to hear from him since.
Only Mary, and I keep in constant touch, and we live miles apart.
I now think that once your parents pass, the family seems to go it’s own way.
Maybe this is just me, I am not sure, but it is a sad way to be after all being brought up very close.
I hope I have not bored you all.
Tania.
Recommended1 recommendationPublished in Senior Chatters
Not at all Tania. Starlettes post struck a chord alright and I couldn’t help but add my twopeneth worth to it. Times (and opinions) change so not everything should stay the same.
Thank you dj, we all unburden ourselves , at times.
Tania, I can see what you are saying, and as in poker, see you and raise…
You are not alone.
Thank you Sailor
Tania I know exactly where you are coming from as indicated in my blog…….blood is not thicker than water…..no ones getting a cuppa and a cake out of me for falsely shed tears…..lol…
I know, Star….they won’t from me either… flipping hypocrites..LOL
Star,
Life is not an easy sandbox. think of it this way, Sit and start building your sandcastle, soon there might be a knight awaiting a noble deed.
Shed no tears without reason, but reason does change……
Well now Sailor food for thought there……don’t know if its only me but I do find I cry a lot easier now days……at anything really……dramas, real life stories, I seem to empathise so closely with other peoples feelings, I feel their pain………so I think I am shedding buckets full of tears for differing reasons……..does one become more emotional when older…??
I understand this story completely . I had my mother live with me for ten years, only one of my siblings visited her in that time, and she had her hands full with a 12 year old with a brain tumour, but she still came and see Mum. The other 4 did not. They turned up at the funeral, and asked when will their inheritance come in. But that was a long time ago, one sister has died now, another one is dying, I only speak to the one who visited Mum. No arguments or anything, just to far apart in age. Oldest sister is 25 years older than me, didnt really know her at all, I was born after she married.
I had this when my Mother passed, everyone wanted to know, what they would get, well there was no will, so the bank sorted the monies out….of course they all had to wait, but I was tired of the phone calls from them….I was glad when it was all sorted.
Sadly this is a very familiar story and one which does help others when shared.
It is sad , but true, drummer
Another good blog Tania, and so very true for lots of us. A family starts out a couple, along come children, siblings can be one happy family or even at that stage some don’t love each other. Then one by one the children marry, and the division is under way, as each family grows, shifts away to other areas, the distance grows. My life’s story is compounded by divorce, only two girls, one stayed close to father the other to mother, the sisters don’t stay in contact, but father died and yes at funeral sisters chatted who gets what? Sadly we see the true nature of each one at times like this ….where did it all go so wrong? Or is this just human nature we expect nothing to change but it does.
Thank you 5mintbreak……I often wonder where things went so wrong…but things are what they are,
The old saying ‘You can choose your friends but you’re stuck with your family ‘ rings very true with me !
Very true, Scorpio, thank you