Dive for hidden treasure
I wonder how many members are similar to me. I PM (private message, chat with) a few members regularly and consider them friends. Many, many more I enjoy their posts, like and comment. Then I start to recognise like minded people. But my recall is appalling. I frequently re-visit profiles to remind me of country/age/shared story. I wonder why I find myself chatting to some and not others. Also why some chats go on and others fizzle out. One lady I chatted to almost daily has dropped off the site with no goodbye 
. But I digress and wander as usual these days and especially on this site. But the point of my pondering was the blogs. Occasionally when the site is quiet or like today; someones post really interested me. I visited their profile and dived into their blogs. Such a wealth of quality writing and a glimpse into how this person thinks. And the real hidden treasure of blogs, the varied and fascinating responses and discussions some blogs give birth to. They also tune me into how long some members have been making this such an interesting community.
It does feel a little naughty and intrusive. A bit like peering into people’s personal space. But Im relying on the fact that those of us who write and publish at any level want to be read and appreciated. So a big thankyou to all those current and past bloggers who share their thoughts and feelings; and in my opinion dont get the feedback they deserve. Another entertaining couple of hours on Senior Chatters. 
@tjay I welcome most newbies. They start off replying to pm from me then it dwindles away. I gave up which is sad. I probably should of kept it up. But I felt I was annoying members when they dont reply its a good hint lol Have made many friends. Only very few know my personal life. Well one actually. I dont like to burden people. I was told just the other day, “we all have things going on in our lives” . Which is why I keep it to myself. Love the groups though.
Yes we all chose ‘with our typing finger’ who to reply to; and how much to disclose. Its interesting how many different levels and styles of communication there are.
@tjay yes that’s right
I don’t wish to be maudlin @tjay but maybe the member of whom you spoke passed away. Was she elderly? 🤔
Yes Im pretty sure you are right. She had some serious health issues. From so much to nothing makes me fear the worst. It makes me sad. No closure leaves you both struggling but with some hope. Such are online friendships. 💔
@tjay very sad isnt it. I know of a few that have passed. You get used to seeing that name and having a chat. Then ends abruptly.
On the other side of the coin @tjay I’m sure she really enjoyed those daily chats with you 💞
@Scorpio yes that’s a good way to look at it. @tjay made her day on many occasions
That’s good I’m glad 😍
@tjay , I have also found a lot of satisfaction in writing and communicating with the various members here. I think it’s one of the few positives the internet and chat media offer. Although I see my time is not a steady stream of input, there are days/weeks when I haven’t got anything to say. But I do look in everyday.
I always enjoy your input, thanks. I also love the idea of only talking when you have something to say. 🤐 I rarely take a breather. 😂But I love this site where dipping in and out, as you please, is absolutely fine.
There could be many reasons why a member disappears but one of the most likely is an expired membership, that wasn’t being renewed for some reason or other. In that instance that member certainly wouldn’t have been able to let you know afterwards without paying to renew again. Anyway there are quite a number of people you can strike up a rapport with as I’m sure you are finding out, and such a wealth or varying interests that it’s not surprising that you can identify with some more than others. Having a look at profiles isn’t snooping, the information is there on purpose to be read and aid everyone when they are trying to participate and communicate. Some members profiles are nearly blank which to be honest can be a bit of a red flag sometimes, because they might be a bit disingenuous. Not always though of course, and members fill in their profiles with information that they know will be read by others. It’s really quite normal to have to check more than once though because you may not remember. I often do it…ha ha!
@dj I think once a member is a free member, they can still pm 3 of their connections. If that option hasnt changed. I dont think it has as a free member is still sending me a pm regularly.
@dj now I am not longer connected to that person.
Of course yes. I do keep forgetting that. Doh!! I keep thinking they’re gone if they don’t subscribe. The free tier is still a new one for me get my head around.
Sadly mylady was a free member so not why she has dropped off.