Dissapointments
My meanderings around these corridors of chatters has become a welcome past time .I.enjoy the people i meet as I move from place to place .Sometimes like to drop in to the little cafes dotted around the nooks a crannies of this cyber world ….sit down have a chat see what has been going on around the place.
Love the music room its nice to settle down listen to music….have a natter to the people in there….see whats new to listen too …..can spend a little too much time in here …..so i move on to my wander through the groups …..can indulge my fantisy by going on a trip …..or visit the art galery ..do a bit of exercise ….have a drink…..tell my troubles to my friend in life storys ..or just read a few jokes……whatever it is its a nice way to spend time,,,,I then like to go to chat and talk to people from all over the globe…talk to my friends have fun….listen if someone is hurting …try to help if I can….or just let our immaginations take us were we like to go……wichever it is its with the friends we have made on here in cyber world.
In our lives we meet many different types of people,they all leave a mark in different ways
…people on senour chatters leave their mark on us as well…….even though we arent sitting in that cafe having the cup of coffee with them…….we are still very much there .our emotions are very much involved and we feel the joys ..the hurts.. and we feel the pain when someone hurts us .
Well how do we handle the things in life that dissapoint us?….Not sure that I have an answer for that ……but I do know that it hurts…..People are made up of different emotions… and different things trigger them off in different ways….some you can just shrug your shoulders and say…”Oh well its their problem”…others go deeper and right to the soul…This type of hurt is something thats very hard to deal with…and in cyber its just as bad……friends on here mean a great deal…we can still be greatly hurt …if they say or do something that upsets us…….we still feel the same emotioms as if it was the friend we sit and have coffee with…only difference is on here its done with a finger…..not much to hit a key a few times and post send ……bingo ….it hits the person on the other end harder …they hit a few keys hit send……..bingo …..two people hurting ….click the defriend button….nothing said …..well not by mouth that is …but the same feelings are effected …Friends then are both feeling emotions that are very real to them …..and now how do they deal with these ?
This then leads to people being very hurt…and feeling that its not right the way they have been treated…even though it was finger talk …..it is very real emotions involved here .The way we deal with these emotions is what makes us the person we are ..some are big enough to admit it was wrong and done in a feeling of high emotions…..others never speek again……but the hurt feeling is still there for a long time …digging away at you till it heels again ….leaving a scar on you that will never go away.
Be kind with your finger I ask …and be kind back to others who may have hurt you ……..and try to be kinder in the future ….thanks for the good times I have had on here ….and thanks to my friends ……i am sorry to the ones I have hurt ……very much so …….Mac xxx
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Mac
“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.”
It’s impossible to please everyone.
Some people might like you, others might not, this is life I’m afraid and how the world is.
No matter what you do, there will be at least one person who disagrees or does not like what you say/write.
It’s not your fault, it’s just their opinion, and they are entitled to it.
One of the best ways to stop caring what people think, is to start acting like someone who doesn’t care what others think.
Remember Mac………….No one else knows what it’s like to be you, you are the only one who knows what thoughts you think and what emotions you feel every day.
YOU know yourself best, personally I would’nt hold someone else’s opinion above your own.
Look to the friends you have here, and the people who don’t want to know ‘Mac’ have their reasons…
So go back to the ‘cafe’ where you feel comfortable walk in and yell out, hey I’m me!
Be yourself! life really is not fun if you are too worried about pleasing/offending other people that you can’t even have a personality!
all jmo!
debz
x
Straight from the heart, Macathy, and I sympathise with what your’e feeling and saying. When I was younger, I was hot headed with no patience with myself or anyone else. In time, I’ve mellowed- always try take time to think before I blurt things out, try to think ‘What would I feel if someone said that to me?…’ Be yourself, mac, warm and caring and it’s someone else’s loss if they don’t appreciate you. As always, wise words from Debz.
Much love to both of you.
Maize
wow think i am a failure at writing ….was trying to convey the way peoiple feel…..not necessarily me ok……have seen plenty of this feeling so thought i would try to pass it on to others to think before typing ok……..thanks debz and maize.
Glad you’re ok, mac- and thanks for speaking up for all the others who may not be so good. Your advice and support is sound.
Take care!
Mx
Thanks maize yes we have too look after each other ……some are not as outspoken as i am…….mac
Oh well no worries thyen ~ wrong end of the stick!!….., maybe my 2¢ worth may help someone who does feel like this!!…
x
I am sure it will debz and that was the intention of the blog thanks mac
Mac
You get more responses to your blogs than most of us
Lofty thanks glad you read them……are yoiu complaining i am getting all the responses …..lol …..joking Lofty hugs ….mac
very good blog macathy!!! 🙂 🙂
thanks pollie …..mac
Good blog mac and I so agree, when I see fights, lack of empathy, ignoring of some or one or two people dominating chat without a care for the others in the room, my heart sinks to my boots.
We come into this site for all different reasons and each day is different. Sometimes we laugh, sometimes we need a hug and some times we just feel the glow of friendship.
Some days someone might be feeling a bit fragile and gets hurt at something another day they would laugh at. If we read the chat and know the person we can get an idea how they are feeling just as we do in real life with body language and adjust our comments accordingly.
Thank you mac my mate for your caring blog xxxx
yes skip this also aplies on private chat to ..so easy to hurt people … thanks ….mac
another very good blog,mac..thank you so much for sharing yourself with us the way you do..you are shining diamond among the stars..xxx
Well thank you kat…..not sure of that though but thank you……mac
I get what you’re saying Mac. While there are some wonderful warm people who have made me feel very welcome, I have experienced others who are sadly immature b…chy, cliquey, impatient and not welcoming of newcomers. But you know what? Eleanor Roosevelt said something to the effect of, “Nobody can make you feel inferior unless you give them permission to.” The same applies for being hurt by thoughtless, nasty people.
Having read so many blogs about how people are hurting and being hurt by others, I am so glad I don’t go into chat that often. I am just astounded as to why people in our age groups would want to hurt another. For goodness sake I think some people should grow up! Why does someone enter a “Senior Chat” site just to antagonise others? If someone says something that might offend why not just ask why that was said and settle it there and then by the parties involved so that no-one leaves chat feeling hurt. I am just gobsmacked by all of this to think that there are SENIOR CITIZENS out there who still feel the need to hurt others. I just don’t get it. (Feel free to reply to my post if you don’t agree – I wont be offended)
Dear forever, thank you for bringing this up. Was in chat the other day when someone got upset because we had the same colour font!!! Wondered if I was back in kindergarten lol.
Often show Gordie posts and he says “how old did you say people on here are?”
I have certainly learnt more about human nature on senior chatters than any other area of my life lol
HI FY I agree with you. I dont go into chat half as much as I used to, for that reason. But I do miss the lots of lovely people I consider to be my friends in chat. But it only takes the one bad one to spoil a good feeling. I love reading the blogs and groups. I appreciate the people that write the blogs and posts in groups. I dont say thank you enough to these people. I read them but dont always comment. So thank you to all boggers and posters xoxoxoxox
Thank you all for your comments ….Seems we can all be more careful and careing …..not just in chat as I have had people come to me ,,,say they were upset as people are chatting in private chat and they just go off no goodbye or thank you for chat even ,,, so think just we can all remember that it is hurtful even if it is in text ….mac xxxxxxxx