Cyber reality and A Funny Flip Side
I read a funny posting by a member of this site who has a great way of seeing the funny side of things. I suggested she write a blog but she told me that I could use her posting any way that I chose. I hope I am worthy of her trust and do not misuse it. She started me thinking about a reality that we see on our web sites and the reality we see when we meet and the reality that is real. I am extremely honest and genuine about most things but sometimes I see people getting a very skewed or opposite impression of me than the one of me that I think is real.
Most people believe in putting the best foot forward so We only post our highlights. People are drinking wine with white table cloths. They don’t post drinking wine with the dirty dishes piled high while crying over a stack of bills. Back to funny examples.
Website, I went out for dinner with my lovely friends.
Reality, I went out with my friend who tried to shag an inappropriate person while she drank $40 worth of wine and went on a crying jag.
Website, Time to go in and wish the hubby a goodnight.
Reality, Hubby is fruity, time to use some diversion tactics.
Website, I took the doggie for a nice long walk.
Reality, The darn dog ran away and I chased it five miles.
Website, I had a lovely shopping trip with my girls.
Reality, I took the girls shopping and my checking account is drained and they were left begging for more.
Many of us just flat out lie, and usually those people trip themselves up and lose their credibility which is called “cred” in slang simply because this is a pervasive issue. Others just put a positive spin on things that are pretty irritating. Others just put photos of lovely parties, and dining and vacations and are deceptive by omission. Others want to be as funny as possible, or as intellectual as possible and work hard at supplying the evidence for that and others act like they are the spokesperson for the God of their choice. All this is fine enough, but it is not reality and I try to see beyond the tiny snippets of a life and not construct a whole person.
We all like to fill in the blanks. Any question gets answered with what little information we have. We need to guard against that. Cyber reality nor face to face meeting tells us what a person is. I look in a mirror and try to see what people see. I also puzzle about what people think about me. A person is our best friend, but could some false information and some new information could cause them to reconsider. This reality business is a very nebulous thing and a lot of people jare ust play around with it. That is their choice.
I hope you got a good laugh here, I am not a bit funny so those paraphrased quotes up above were created by a very funny English lady and her lingo and mine are different.
In spite of anything that you think or say about reality, if you lose touch with it you are called “psycho”. So, I choose not to stray too from reality and I don’t know how to deal with people that do. I was just talking to my brother and he tries to be very positive about things, but he said,” You know I am afraid to repeat things some people tell me because they tell such whoppers”.
For me, when “cred” is gone, the person is gone. I am a lot more tolerant of the way that people choose to deal with reality, but I am also a lot more cautious about the whole subject. I hoped to be funny, but the English lady is funny and I am not but there haven’t been any blogs since my last one so I gave the subject a go. I hope you do get a good laugh and try not to get blown away by a cyber reality or any other false reality.
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I try not to over analyse people or blogs they may post ,Rose…..If they are funny,I will laugh,Serious?,I will consider what they have to say..Sad?,Commiserations are in order……Cyber reality is not new…Yrs ago we had “Pen friends”,same thing but it took a lot longer….I do enjoy your blogs tho.
Thank you, cappuccino. As long as one person enjoys my blogs, it is worth the effort. I like to read blogs, and when there are none to read, I write one. Maybe, I “over analyse for those people who may under analyse. We can all share insight and I do learn a lot from the blog process. I always enjoy your comments.
Bloom your blogs are always interesting , however , talking about everyones nature and their possible or imposible ways …
I automatically just understand eve,ryone, i am also a realist with heaps of compassion ,i place myself alongside their shoes i cant walk in them,they dont belong to me , but as we experience life in all it’s lessons it does become in time comedic…..serious issues also appear and compassion and heartefelt empathy is given sincerely …
To some who seem impossible , at times , I tend to laugh it off, as many times I think at times i may have been that impossible person…. and just love them for who they are.
Always been called softy ,but i do see here on chat all types and most just want to be seen , heard and loved …..
Lani, I always appreciate your comments. Your last line is good and I agree with every word, but the paradox is people want to be seen but they are afraid to show themselves.
Hello Michael, but sometimes when people give their honest opinions it does not always go down well……….we all have two sides, its good to show both, and it can be done in a diplomatic way…….free speech for all that’s what I say……our opinions may, and will differ….but that’s what makes us unique……..we don’t have to be people pleasers, just ourselves………what’s the point in pussyfooting around subjects and issues, we are all old enough to agree to disagree without bad feelings………nothing like a good debate to get to know people in the cyber world……xxx
Oh yes Star, we are not born to please everybody. No you are absolutely right in your judgement.
My way to analyse people in here, in their comments in particular is just simple; 1+1=2, means the result of their comments to various topics gives me a first impression of the person itself. By the time the picture I’ve got gets more colour and feeling for keeping my mind for myself and that also happens, I just ignore comments and the person.
But we’ve had that story before in another connection and if I’m right, the theme was friends & friendship.
Anyway I follow your interpretation in every point. xxxM
Starlette, I was once told that I was brutally honest. I said that I never knew the truth hurt that much. I don’t want to be brutally honest. I believe talk is good and that is why I am on a chat site. Debate is fun for some, but others just feel disrespected. There are all kinds. Starlette, I hope we have time to get in chat and get some debates going. We would probably be on the same side though.