Who has not been "ITCHING LIKE A MAN IN A FUZZY TREE ", then at HEARTBREAK HOTEL"? Sounds funny, but they are not funny at all. The mating game may be as basic as "the birds and bees' but we humans think we are supposed to be very rational anyway, or too many of us do. So don't be too hard on yourself.
Breakups are different for everyone, and can be different every time. You can be dumped or you can be the one that dumps. Outward appearances can be very different from what happened and how each party feels. I do not form attachments quickly or get over them quickly. I have had short relationships that ended in a few days or relationships that ended in months. I have had three that ended after about 20 years, so I know something about breakups.
Even though I, technically ended three long term relationships, my world turned upside down with each of them. I won’t go into all the details, but in one my pain was almost unbearable and went on for years, even though to the outside world, did the breakup. I was doing great and no complaint was heard. I was not fronting, it was that no one could solve my problem and trying to forget was the best way to deal with it. In one, I lost my faith in a person and my ability to trust my own judgement. All three needed to end, but I finally learned that I needed to change myself some, make a better choice, get over my romantic notions, and deal with reality better.
We have all had relationships, and some end in death and those can be heart breaking or as one woman said, “I feel like I have been let out of prison”. In my case I was totally unprepared to make a choice and then the, “You made your bed, lie in it” was expected. Times change and I made changes because women had more options. I am glad for that.
I moved on and if my heart was broken, I still had a life and my integrity. Living with a cheater, may postpone some pain, but how do you ever feel good about yourself or have faith in your future?