Anger
Tis the season to be merry and to be full of goodwill towards all. Yet, there are those who have a great deal of anger during the holiday season. Whether it be passive or aggressive, it is harmful to your health, as well as to others. We all get angry, but we must be careful to understand why we are angry. Many people who become frequently angry have a root of insecurity in their lives that wipes out their confidence. Those who are easily offended and touchy are insecure. They must be treated well to feel good about themselves. And if not, they get angry. Does this sound familiar?
When our emotions are out of control, so is our life. Anger makes our mouth work faster than our mind. We end up saying and doing things we are sorry for later.
My hope for all of us during this wonderful holiday season, is to be able to let the anger go, and to embrace the joy and friendship this site has to offer.
Cheers to you all. xoxo
Thank you for such a lovely message and posting, Passy. Hugs to you, my friend. xxx
Thank you Pam. I hope your weekend will be a calm and happy one. xx
It will be ‘calm’ when I get to the mall. LOL I have to get a very special birthday present for a niece to have available for when I go “HOME” next week.
Weather is terribly nasty though; raining and cold. I am not use to this type of weather.
No anger here as well; all is good. See ——-> 😀 😀 😀
Lovely smiles Pam!! I am glad you are anger-free as well. You and Cath should start a new group called: Anger -free ! 🙂
hey passy gr8 blog honey gtsya
Thanks Paddy. What does gtsya stand for?
Good to see ya?
Thanks Polly. I was clueless…lol
I agree with this wholeheartetly and it is well documented in studies by experts and also .when somebody tries to discredit another persons kind intentions with negative comments and just because they are jealous and insecure and angry about there own life and want attention for tthemselves . thoughtful friendly blog pasagio . holidays should be joyful not filled with anger and negative things . nice reminder .
I agree with you as well, Bethany. I am so glad you have joined chatters. You are a great addition to the site! Cheers to you, 🙂
So very true, Passy. While the holidays can be stressful and sad for many reasons, it can still be, “The most wonderful time of the year,” if one counts their blessings. If one makes a decision to enjoy the season and to put the past years strife away, one can enjoy the holiday spirit. I read somewhere that if there is anything good that comes out of adversity it’s is that loss and pain can deepen us to see what really matters in life.
Wishing you all a very Thanksgiving and a wonderful holiday season!
oops. meant a very HAPPY THANKSGIVING !
A very Happy Thanksgiving to you as well, Lo. 🙂
enjoy ur holidays lo miss talking to u take care and god bless u
Pass I will be angry this holiday season if you don’t send me a Christmas present
No worries Mikey! Santa assured me that you were on the “good” list. I did question him though. lol
Thought provoking blog Passy, thank you. I would add one small thing to consider…let us not look only at ourselves but at the people around us. If someone is truly struggling with anger, perhaps we could and should extend a hand, a warm smile, a hug – for the sole purpose to let them know that we are glad they are with us, that we understand they are struggling. We dont need to help them, or fix them. I want to acknowledge what they are feeling. And let them know I love and support them. This of course, after I check the mirror myself! LOL…wishing you a blessed and wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas. HS xxx
Lovely Helen. I think this is wonderful advice. I hope you have a Very lovely Thanksgiving as well! xx
Ermmm passaggio, have to think about this one……..anger more in the holiday season………could this be because of spending too much money on the expected festivities…… spending more time with some of our nearest and dearest than we normally do…..too much alcohol consumption……..the stress of entertainig…….just a thought…….aha the touchy ones…..now what do we do here………do we walk around on eggshells forever trying to make them feel better about themselves so they don’t get angry with us……or do we just tell them to suck it up………we must be careful we don’t compromise our own life trying to please others to keep them happy……a line has to be drawn………anger…….we really should take time out before acting on it……..alas easier said than done……….guilty of this one……..but strangely enough only in here…….i run a whole gauntlet of emotions in chatters……..not so in my outside world………maybe because i meet many people of all different characters and opinions in here………a good thing i suppose…….keeps me on.my toes ……..and anger it has to be said is not good bottled up till it explodes……..go punch the pillows………….well i am touchy, but wouldn’t say i felt insecure……….but who knows what lays in the deep dark recesses of the mind………haven’t noticed anyone tip toeing on eggshells around me anyway…lol …..Happy Christmas Pass…lol Good blog xxx
Star, I hear you . Yes, as you say, what do we do with the “touchy ones”? Maybe all they really need is a big ole bear hug. 🙂 I wonder if people do not tip toe on eggshells around you, because they know who you are? You have been very forthcoming about yourself and how you tic and toc…. 😉 Way to go!
I wish for you and your loved ones a Very Happy Christmas, Star. Hugs to you xxoo
Food for thought there pass….I will analyse myself…lol xx
Star, I wouldn’t give much thought to what I said….lol I tend to confuse my own self half of the time.. hahahaha xx
I must analyse me as well then,…….”yeah right”!!!!!!,no need to,……I’m “perfect”!!!!!!lol,lol,xxxxxx….me get angry “never”‘!!!!,lol.
flower……lol 🙂
Well i will be over soon to help you polish that halo of yours Flowersun.TeeHee….xxxx
Very thought provoking blog Passy.
My take on the anger is this; If we meditate on the blessings we have, we don’t have time for any type of anger. We as mature, or as I was called the other day (seasoned adult) lol should be past any manipulation by others to get angry. Think on the things that make one happy. Think about it, most but not always times we generate the anger in our hearts. If you have grand babies as I do, there’s really no time for anger because they are so enjoyable. Just my take. Be thankful to God this Thanksgiving and every day for what we have and how far we have come in life. I wish all the members here a fantastic Thanksgiving. “J”
Thank you J. Yes, I like the “seasoned adult” word. Sounds rather nice for a change. 🙂 Great words of advice J. I bet your grand babies are such a joy to you. I am sure you will enjoy them this holiday season.
Many blessings to you J. 🙂
Hey Pass!!!!! After reading your blog I started to reflect back to my past Christmases. I have to say that I haven’t experienced anger, but, rather, I am building a resentment of the sheer pace of Christmas. We have created an atmosphere that every tradition for the holidays has to our traditions. Cards, decorating, baking, shopping, parties, Christmas plays, Church functions, the list goes on and on. By the time the 25th gets here, I am exhausted. So, my quest this year is to enjoy Christmas, on the 25th! Thanks for a nice blog, made me stop and think…….. sending hugs!!!
Blush, I am exhausting just thinking about all you do for your traditions! lol Yes, it sure can be overwhelming for so many during the Christmas Season. I hope your quest is successful this year. Hugs to you too, Blush. 🙂
No anger here pass!!! xx
Glad to hear you are anger-free Cath!! 🙂 xx
Good blog on a good subject and I agree with you. Passaggio, but trying to be close to an angry person is like hugging a porcupine. It is better to love them at a safe distance.
Bloom, I know what you are saying. Just make sure you are wearing your armor before you hug the porcupine! 😉
I’m terribly angry that the word “holiday” is spelled with an “h”.
I think it should be pronounced “oliday” with a silent “h”.
So there!
hahaha chalk u should be a londoner /no h in our alphabet x
Sun, I am glad you said that. Better it be coming from a “londoner” then a “yankee” lol
Chalk, you always make me laugh…who could ever be angry with you…. 🙂
I could! I’m angry that Chalk brought up this whole “h” business. It can only lead to hard feelings.. what about those who aren’t londoners? what about yankees? don’t we have feelings too? I think you’re an insensitive londoner wannabe… jmo 🙂
Millie, your ‘ard feelings are just a sign of ‘aughtiness, and causes great ‘arm to me ‘eart. ‘ave a nice day.
Millie, I think you may be right that Chalk is a londoner wannabe…hahaha
hahahahahaha Millie. Good one! 🙂
Its not anger here just sadness still expect there to be something special about the Christmas time but its same as a weekend cook care wash up do all normal jobs that no one should be spoken about all part of caring no parties no celebrations just another day sorry but thats it here
Thank you for your post, Steve. Yes, sadness also seems to rear its ugly head especially during the holiday season. Maybe you should consider writing a blog on this. It may just help many others who feel the same and are afraid to say. No one knows what you go through everyday. I wish you well, as always. x
christmas oh l,m a little boy all over again, lol love the smile the warmth, the friendlyness even if some one dont want to be friendly lol just 2 days in each year that you can easly say….. l love you… sounds good to me … but what do l know lol l,m just a man lol xxx
Malt, yes feeling young at Christmastime. I think you must say, “I love you” many more times during the year!! lol 😉 xx I don’t think it will hurt either! 🙂
pass…… l love you l love you love you lol lol xcxxx
Thank you passaggio for a great blog on a most needed subject. Everything you say about anger is good, but anger is more complicated and also needs to be examined and understood.
Bloom, You are so right.Anger can be very complicated. Understanding it I think, is the first step. Thanks for your post. 🙂
Dammit, I am happy! I’m so happy I wet myself. Just wanted to say that curmudgeons can be happy too, dang it! What a way to go… drowning in a saccharine sea. There you see? I’m happy, happy, happy, hee hee. (Not to put too fine a point on it, but….; (which means, forget what I just said, I am going to make a fine point and it is this for all you professing Christians…). It is now Advent not the Christmas season. The Christmas season begins on Dec. 25th and ends on Twelfth Night, aka the Epiphany. So be Christian and please put off your celebrations until the Canonical calendar ticks off the days to the Christmas season, a season that, contrary to popular myth, was not started by Walmart. Sincerely, Scrooge Oldbull.
Lordy I forgot to close a parenthesis. “)” there, I feel better… OB
OB, good luck w/ that. For most of us… ‘ The Christmas season, also called the holiday season (especially in the U.S. and Canada),the festive season, or simply the holidays, is an annually-recurring period recognized in Western culture and Western-influenced cultures that is generally considered to run from late November to early January, defined as incorporating at least Christmas and usually New Year’s, and sometimes various other holidays and festivals. ‘ Seems to come earlier and earlier each year, but no use trying to fight it.. The powers that be get what they want 🙂 And another thing.. we “professing Christians” know full well when it was started and just exactly what we’re celebrating. You’ll be pleased to know that some of us celebrate Jesus’ birth all year ’round… then everyone else joins in the “seasonal” festivities w/ us right about this time. You’re welcome! Love, Mrs. Claus
Millie, I find you at your most thoughtful and articulate, even more than usual; prompted by the fire of faith I imagine. Well said. OB
l,m of for a drink any one feel like coming lol
BAAAHH HUMBUG! No Christmas trees! No turkeys! No pumpkin pies! No walmart and no ho ho ho! Move along nothing to see here! HAHA
wow, you’re a lot of fun.. lol
I’m very angry today! I ate too much! My grand kids played with me so much I am a sore old man! Its’ so cold I had to make a fire! I had to put up a darn Christmas tree so we can have fun before they leave Sunday! I am in a major state of ANGER GRRR LOL 🙂 I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving…
Yesterday I witnessed an anger that grew from kindness, we had my daughters ex husband over for Thanksgiving, paid for him to have the fuel to get here and made a lovely dinner, he is out of work and what can go wrong has gone wrong. This was a moment of compassion and letting him spend this day with his son at the same time. We provided him lodging and I offered to do some repair on his vehicle for him. This was kindness and compassion, to help a father son relationship stay in tact and was in no means an attempt to bring him back into the family as he has a total mean streak yet so down on his luck. Everyone was happy and cheerful, he could not stand it I guess to see everyone united in fellowship tho he was a part of it and he could not contain him self, just had to create a reason to break a good thing. I went outside with him and had a talk and told him look at his little boy do you really want him growing up and thinking this is how you are suppose to be, asked him to open his heart for his child’s sake. I am so proud of my daughter, she has every reason to not want this man in her life but she stand brave to help him and their son have that relationship…… I prayed last night he can not go there again, anger is such a wasted emotion tho we all get it I suppose……….
Anger is a normal response to certain circumstances. Just because the holidays are here doesnt mean we can control it but we don’t have to hold on to it!