Am I too old?????
I. need advice from all my good friends here because I have a problem. Some of you remember that I told you a while ago that my Marks brother and his partner are soon to have a new baby boy. When I was told the news I congratulated them, recognising that he was to be born at a similar time to my daughters baby boy, my grandson. Didnt think about it to much more until I was told that he would be named Mark, after his uncle, my darling Mark who many of you will know is no longer with us. Now this did cause me problems, I cried and cried and prayed that they would decide to change the chosen name. Well they haven’t and after a while I started to accept that there will be another Mark Holliday, in my life, and I also recognised that this little Mark was going to be very special to me. Back to my question….last weekend I got a phone call from Marks brother, he told me that they had decided that they both want me to be baby Mark’s godmother…now this has caused me yet another problem. Never one to take my responsibilities lightly, I ask myself ‘Am I too old?’ it seems to me that as far as you are able, in being a godparent, you should be confident that you will be around to see this child reach adulthood, and I cannot promise that, I am going to be 60 next month!!!
I am told that I would be the only godparent, it would have been my Mark and me, but now I shall represent him as well as myself. I am very proud to have been wanted for this role, and tears came to my eyes, but an answer did not come to my lips…What is your opinion my good friends…am I too old????????
In think that regardless of how much time you have left it is what you do with it that counts, this precious child will benefit from having you in his life regardless of time. You are only 59 years old, that’s young in years, just keep young in mind and spirit…..the average life span now is 85 years, so you have many years to watch this little person grow and learn, and you can teach him about his namesake. Enjoy the time, celebrate your life and just love him..the most precious gift you can give. Plus surely it is the parents that made the decision and they certainly don’t think you are too old or they wouldn’t have asked you…accept the honour and repay it by just being there for this new little life.
no dear annie you are not too old, you will be a wonderful god parent to this little fellow, I think your mark is trying to tell you something my friend, nothing happens without a reason, enjoy your little god child annie, have a feeling you are going to be one important person to him, lots of love skips xxx
And I agree with the others. It is a wonderful chance you have been offered and you get a little input into Marks upbringing.
Go ahead annie you will be great and as you said “You are going to represent Mark as well”.His brother wants you to be that important person in his life,by having you ,he then has his brother as well.God Bless …..mac xxxx
I must add my voice to the others. You have been chosen for who you are. Age was not a factor in their decision. You could be twenty and die next week. What you have is knowledge and experiences to pass on to this child. And the love of both you and your Mark. This is an opportunity to keep him alive through his namesake. Enjoy it. You will be fine.
Love, Jackie xxx
Annie i can understand where your coming from, a child can be very exhausting, and as we age that energy is not always there, you would have other valuable qualitys to offer a child, patience, time , knowledge, what if you could suggest to the couple in question you would feel a little easier if they also chose another perhaps younger person/persons who would also make good god parents, just a suggestion. take care Starlette xx
Meant another person as well as yourself Annie, strength in numbers as it were. lol
that is a great honour young lady and one you will do well so have no fear!
Dear annie it does not metter how old you are its the love you can give that child that counts xxx
Dear Annie ur a child u aint old omg if u r that means am ancient but I never accept that am old as for God Parent its in the words GOD PARENT in my religion it meant u had a responsiblity to the childs education in chosen religion also to asist the child in leadiong a good clean life, I have no doubt opened a can of worms with this but am god father to a few in my extended family and I did check it out before accepting the role so Congrats Annie and may god guide ur mind on this
To me I think age and attitude should be separated. I am coming towards your age to be but I feel like I felt when I was thirty years. I feel that the saying ‘age is just a number’ is true.The older we become the wiser we become and this enhances our ability to nurture people in wisdom and what a resource we are! Your beliefs and values will greatly enrich this boy’s experience and your guiding responsibility will be memorable to the lad , what a joy that will be to you and him ! I encourage you to go ahead and parent this child in God’s path.
Dear Annie,
I too was a godmother to my nieces son last year.
I told that it was an honour that she asked me,but i felt i was too old.
She just said well that,s too bad because i only want u to be his godmother,i want u to be in his life.
So here i am Annie a godmother at 68 and Buddy dosent seem to care in the slightest.
Best Wishes Moggz xx
We do not know how long we have, we could die at a young age just as much as at an older age. Live in the moment, they selected you for a reason. Think of what you can give this child. With the mother, father, Godmother and other relatives, the child will be in good hands. Relax and enjoy having another Mark in your life. He won’t take the place of the first Mark, but will certainly add years of loving yet another wonderful person.
They chose you Annie for the wonderful person you are and for the love you will give to this little Mark. We are only old in body not in mind and hey mate you could live to be 100 xoxoxox
Annie, no is the answer ,your age has little to do with the love and encouragement you can give this new little mite MARK 2. , loving MARK1 has made you an especialy chosen God mother, his namesake can only be a special little boy with your love and guidance. Age has nothing to do with
being the loving guiding person in his little life that you would be .God Bless xxxxx.
Annie , No you are not to old to be a godparent and I know you will be a wonderful godparent to Mark and I think it is so nice that he was named afer your husband. My daughter gave my grandson Ryan her dad’s first name of Edwin and then she had Ryan on my Mothers birthday which is also very special to me. So enjoy the new little Mark and spend as much time with him as you can. Best Wishes Anne Marie
Thank you all for your kind and wise replies. My reply has taken a while coming as I have been offline for a week whilst changing providers. Your input into my decision has been very much appreciated. I have of course proudly accepted and am looking forward to my new role. Baby Mark is due to be born on 22 March, his mum feels he may come early which could be interesting. My 60th birthday is on 15 March, and 16 March would have been mine and Marks 13th anniversary, baby Mark your new godmother can’t wait to meet you xx
I must update you, baby Mark has arrived on 23rd March weighing 6lb 7ozs….he is truly beautiful, absolutely perfect…i intend taking my new role very seriously, thank you all for your advice.. love.from a very proud godmother! xxxx
Wonderful news annie, welcome dear little Mark, you have a wonderful God Mother little one xxxxx