Alone and starting over
cowgirl
November 6, 2024
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Hi there my name is Cowgirl and I want to share my story with you, so here goes
I had been Married for 35 years and thought my Husband was my forever soul mate but how wrong a person could be and how quickly people change. My husband had a stroke 10+ years a go and it left him with kidney damage but he was doing well and working and give up smoking and i thought we were happy until this year 2024 Suddenly he started to be quite tired and to stumble a bout i thought he was having trouble because of his kidneys and even got him an appointment at the hospital but i was sadly mistaken. It turned out he had taken to the drink and I didn’t know till he was brought home from work and couldn’t stand drunk. The final crunch gave this October when i told him i couldn’t cope with his drinking as well as my 89 year old mother who was getting over a part replacement hip and she lived with us he left me took his wedding ring off and said he knew it was over and i haven’t seen him since i was devastated but it doesn’t end there he started living out of his car and then i heard he has lost his job but the worst part of it is after such a short time he is now living with a drunk and drug using woman and she has got him on smoking weed. So now i need to make a life for myself and also my mom and as i am only 57 i still have a lot of love to give and friends to make smiles softly
so that is my story Christmas use to be my favorite time of year but this one is going to be tough but I am strong and I will get through it so if anyone would like a new friend I’m here for the taking smiles oh and one more thing I just to teach line dancing and I love country music I don’t teach anymore but i still love the music and socials pity I haven’t been to any in a while smiles so like I said this is my story up to date !
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Thanks for sharing. I too am starting again at the age of 61. I work full time but for the last few years I had also been my mum’s carer. I was in a relationship but due to mum’s health and my full time job we only saw each other at weekends when I paid carers to look after her. My mum died (cancer, very quick) and it hit me hard because she had lived with me for so long. The house was empty without her and I battled guilt over the weekends spent with my partner when I felt I should have cared for my mum. The relationship broke down because he couldn’t understand or cope with my grief. He actually said she was old, people die, I should just get over it. So here I am now, alone again at 61, with just my cats for company. Don’t get me wrong I work, and I have friends so I’m not totally alone, but of course they are all coupled up so most evenings are alone. But I’m getting on with things and have started volunteering for a charity to occupy the free time I never had when mum was alive.
hey Kaz I completely understand when my husband left me this October he left me caring for my 89 year old mother he isolated me from all my friends and lost me my job so all i have is my dog and my mom and sometimes we fight because i get frustrated and lonely your ex partner doesnt know what he is talking about when he said old people die they dont and its cruel to say that for me my husband turned to drink so now im single at 57 and completely on my own and learning to deal with everything in the house i need to take care of for me and my mom, but i do understand people being coupled up and i miss that especially as this will be my first xmas on my own and my evenings are lonely especially once i put mom to bed at 9 30pm but thank you for messaging me and if you need to talk message me here i might not answer straight away but i will answer smiles
Likewise I’m here if you ever want to talk. Haven’t decided yet whether to become a member hence no photo but this is only my second day so will see. Wasn’t sure if there were any UK members.
well im in the UK but i hastily become a member and not many have spoken to me so just letting you know but it is nice to meet you !