A Road of love and tears .
It’s with great sadness that I’m writing this today .
This morning when I got up there were not traces of a friend of mine
Everything was wiped out …
Another great lady has left the site , and she’s left in a dramatic way .
She’s left fighting for what she thought it was an injustice .
Regardless of whether she was right or wrong ,lets spare a thought about her
And about many others in a similar situation to hers .
She is the full time carer of her only son ,a son she adores and to whom she sacrificed her life …her career …her dreams …her all
After many years trying to conceive ,she was overjoyed when finally her dream of being a mum was being realized .
Her child was born with severe disabilities …he was born a” special child ” .
And from there on her journey through life took a different road …a road of love and tears
Of heartbreak and joy ,of anger and compassion of fears ,anxieties , devotion and tenderness …And most of all very hard work ,many years of mental and physical exhaustion .
It is possible that she was suffering from carer’s burnout … And that was probably one the reasons that made her take the drastic decision to leave the site a few weeks ago …..only to reconsider later …and come back “home” to find the locks to the door were changed.
She left …fighting …screaming …drowning in her own pain .
This blog is not about rights or wrongs …is not about taking sides … Is about humanness .
Is about being aware of other’s pain . Is about offering a helping hand to comfort a friend .
Today for me it’s a very sad day …
I know who you are talking about. Sad. Will miss her. Not sure how to reduce the chance of this happening again. I look for solutions, not fault. What if there was a committee of peers and admin’s to listen to grivances? How many things are just miscommunications at first that grow into slight madness? There usually is more to the story and it may have been as you said, burnout for caring for others. But how do others know so they can understand? Many have “left” and then some back. Maybe people should not leave and erase, just take a breather and decide later if they want to stay or go. Glad many have come back as I missed them. Thanks for the blog Nmod. Sorry you feel sad.
Just catching up with my blog reading. I do not know who Nmod is talking about. Hugs Nmod, big hugs! I would be devastated to hear that a close friend of mine on SC left under those circumstances. There should be a path for such circumstances, I know others who have left and come back. Not sure what happened. Agree with you Linda, people should take a breather, I do. LOL… I know from my personal experience on SC, our site is their lifeline – and they also provide understanding and support to others as well. I hope Nmod’s blog initiates the appropriate conversation with Rob. HelenSophie P.S. Again, mucho grande hugs Nmod. xxxxx And hugs to you girlfriend Linda. xxxxxx
HELENSHOPIE DIDNT YOU TELL THEM THAT A COUPLE OF YOUR FRIENDS LEFT CAUSE YOU WAS GROOMING THEM AND THEY COULDNT GET RID OF YOU
When are you going to let this go Butterkist2 she doesnt even see this.
Thank you for writing this Nmod. It was beautifully written . Yes, we are all human, and we all have feelings. Sometimes when someone has their back against the wall, the only human response is to fight , scream and say things they wish later they could take back. My heart goes out to our dear friend. She will be sorely missed.
I think what we need is a choice of ‘delete profile’ or ‘put membership on hold’. If we choose to delete it then that is that, but if we had another choice it would give us time to regroup, to decide if we wanted back in or to go permanently. Or maybe the other way round, delete permanently after putting it on hold.
Good idea Kiwigirl
Beautifully written blog nmod, my heart goes out to her, thank you for this tribute to this member, so much appreciated my friend xxx
Is this the right time? Is it acceptable to say your truth? Is honesty appreciated on here, is being the person you are in real life the same as the one you present here appreciated? or is it ok to pretend to be what you are not? I do not know however here goes. What if you had been harassed (bullied) on site for about a year, what if you gathered all the written info and sent to the correct person and the member remains, all sweetness and light to continue harassing in their own “sweet” way, what if their friendship group includes a monitor/admin? What do you do? Get frustrated with the injustice and choose your real life and leave, most would not let a nasty person through their front door so why let them in through a computer lol, Sometimes members then come back to stand up for other members, truth and justice? I am an advocate of the “Help a friend” program and I do hope our Blush will be back with us soon.
Skippy, stand tall in what you believe in, don’t ever let a bully pull you down my love. I strongly believe in what goes around comes around. You are one of the most caring people on the site, don’t let the bully bring you down to their level. You will always have my support.
Thank you jenna xxx
Skippy, well said, this site shouldn’t really be like a school playground …….but when the bullies come out to play……….
we are over 50, three more years till 70 here, time for peace, happiness, love and enjoyment star, thank you xxx
Maybe it would serve you better Skippy if you wrote this on a new blog that you write on your subject. I do believe this blog is about a very special chatter that is no longer on the site. Just my humble opinion.
Maybe, yes it is about nmod’s beautifully written post and another chatter I also value, it is also about all of us as a part of SC.
Personally, I see this blog about someone special that has left chatters. Someone who has been given a hard life. Someone who brought many smiles , even though her life was full of worry. It is about being compassionate towards this lovely person, and not always thinking about yourself.
Im sorry to say that I didnt get to know Blush, but have learned about her struggles with life from nmod.
I also agree with passaggio, that this blog is about a specific member, written by a special friend of hers, and not ‘about all of us as a part of SC.’ Lets keep this tribute to be about Blush please.
Thank you nmod. (((hugs)))
Nmod, so sorry you are sad, things happen that can give us all grief and sadness, , our valued member has taken time out, I do hope she can get back to us and soon, We all have our mountains to climb some have it more difficult than others and our understanding of issues such as that dear member having such a hard road, my heart goes out to her,I do hope she can return to us soon , your tribute to your friend is a truly wonderful thing Nmod and your charactor shines through, bless you both xxxxx.
I agree nmod…I have a good friend in the person you are talking about and she does have a hard life…I am also sad that she has left the site as I will miss her so very much…thank you for the tribute nmod it is a wonderful way to remember her…xxxx
I’m sorry you are feeling so sad at this time with the loss of a good friend from this site Nmod.
You put your words into writing beautifully. My heart goes out to your friend who has had it tough in life and obviously found a new world in SC, with friends here who were always ready to support her I can imagine the void your friend would be feeling at this time, being cut off from what she would consider a lifeline
I don’t know the ins and outs of the story, but understand that the lady had left and then come back because she missed some very special friends here and has now left again. It’s a pity if she’s cut herself off from people she values and gets support from even if, in her opinion, she’s in the right. I hope she has other ways of comunicating with them, perhaps via Facebook or another site. So if any of you do have contact with her could you please tell her I wish her well. Thank you.
What a great many messages of compassion and care are here! Surely we could all come up with a way forward, so that such unhappiness can’t happen again? I counted this person as a friend,she was so brave and so full of love.I hope someone is still in touch with her and can pass on the feelings of so many of us.Mxxx
I think i now know whom u talk of here I had not known her or such sad background, But one i am sure of on this site is the great injustices to some and others that float freely as they please, some so called people that have power to cut others off because they just dislike them without any knowledge of what made them.
I sincerely hope this injustice can be righted ………… Steve xx
Thank you everyone for your caring ,sincere ,life affirming response to my blog . I’ve cried my eyes out with everyone of them . I cried for Blush ,for You for Me , for all of us , for the gift and the reason of life… For the beauty of the human heart …for friendship …for love .
Today I feel much better , I can clearly see why we love Senior Chatters so much . It’s because here gather the best of human kind !
Much love to all of you ! and thanks again xxx
i have 2 things to add here..one..we need a “hide profile” option if one wants to disappear for awhile..2..couldn’t some on here who could afford it help blush out and pay her subscription?….i have always stressed to anyone who talks to me about leaving to never ever delete your profile!!…just let friends know you’re taking a break..then you can always return when you’re ready..
We used to have a ‘hide profile’ on the other site but it wasn’t transferred over.
Hide profile is a great idea kat and kiwi and blush’s sub has been paid so she has the option of coming back at any time xxx
Oh my goodness ! Really ? This is the best news I’ve heard !
I hope she decides to come back to us !
kat i spoke to blush about this,it wasnt an option ,she had said her peace and left.i ill miss her too.
I also spoke to Blush and it was not an option either, she will be missed.
Will someone pass on my best wishes to her please? 🙂
Lets not make assumptions , what Blush has said in a moment of distress may not count once she has calmed down .
The option is there , she may decide to take it and come back … That would be fantastic … It’s her decision , let’s give her time , space , and support .
Fingers crossed nmod xxx