A newbie or not? Updated Christmas Eve 2021
At a loose end this morning I logged into Senior Chatters hence the posing of this question. A newbie or not? You see I have been a member for four years and in that time have not really used the site, just flitted in and out now and again. I have not made a post, joined a group or made any friends, in fact it made me think, why be a member and not use it.
I joined because all those years ago I had recently lost my wife after being her 24/7 Carer for 29 years, found life difficult, became depressed and found it hard to come to terms with reality, got in a downward spiral really. Then good fortune stepped in and after a long difficult process life took a turn for the better, I met someone with similar circumstances, someone that I had known for appx.12 years as a fellow Carer. To cut a long story short, now happily married, life has taken on a new meaning but all the friends that vanished through those many years of being a Carer need replacing, interests and hobbies reawakening, life is for living again, so yes in a way I probably would be classed as a newbie on here.
My newfound life turned sour as after a couple years of be happily married again my second wife was diagnosed with Alzheimers, this she has lived with now for almost three years meaning I am back to be a Carer with all the long moments of isolation, no conversation, and no friends in life or on here. I have learned to adapt over the last 30 years so that in my own way I can still enjoy life and be positive.
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Welcome back, I am so glad your life has made a big change and you are happy. 🙂
Hello grandmaj Its nice to be back among friends! Thanks for your welcome!
glad to hear you have got a second chance of happiness , it gives me hope for my future
Hi I am new here
Hello Lal 61 – Welcome – I too am kinda new here having just rejoined after an absence of 2 years – it really is great to meet up with old friends again – don’t be a stranger and enjoy your time with us – we’re not a bad bunch really!
Best wishes
Drummer
Having been a member of this site for nearly eight years I have to confess at not using it until the past few weeks. It is widely acknowledged as being a safe and well controlled site to belong to, thanks here to the vigilance of the admin people’s fine job. It surprises me therefore to find how few people seem to use it to post, read comments, blogs etc. I sent messages to a few people wishing to be sociable and find out where and how others live etc. whilst not seeking to be nosy but replies are very scarce, one so far. Kind of defeats the aim of a social website methinks. No doubt I might get told I am being hasty and impatient, am I? Through being a 24/7 Carer for my wife who has Alzheimers online is my source of activity, interaction and social life, for us trips out, holidays, shopping, even coversation is a thing of the past. Friends have long since vanished over the hill, maybe embarrassed, feel awkward and do not know how to handle illness but we are still the same people, somewhere, somehow within that silent person with a masked blank looking face is that real person that still means a lot to me.
Yes, life can be tough we just have to adapt to these changes and get on with things the best way we can.